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    "title": "People who are divorced / getting a divorce, not including infidelity, what was the last straw?",
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      "body_en": "He told me he wasn’t going to work on his anger issues, that they are a part of who he is and I had to accept it.\n\nI did not.",
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      "body_en": "This will be buried, but whatever. I didn’t get divorced but I ended a LTR that had lasted over a decade. \n\nHe had a disgusting, and I mean *DISGUSTING,* lifestyle. I’ve never seen anyone so happy to live in literal filth. I am, at the very least, so grateful that we lived together towards the end so I could finally see just how bad it would be to deal with on a daily basis.\n\nHe’d spend all his time in my basement, which he decided would be his little media and entertainment room. Fine, except the way he cleaned and maintained it: He didn’t. I started wondering if he was a hoarder because if he ate all the chips out of a bag or drank a whole soda, he’d just leave the full package sitting on a table or the floor somewhere. And they’d pile up to the point where every surface was covered in trash - not just chip bags and soda bottles, but used tissues, candy wrappers, plastic shopping bags, you name it. It was like the idea of actually throwing things away was completely foreign to him. You’d try to sit on the couch and find out you were sitting on top of Snickers wrappers and empty Reese’s PB cups. There was a trash can, and a recycling bin, in the basement. I pointed them out on multiple occasions. He’d acknowledge their existence but never use them. \n\nTurns out he wasn’t a hoarder, just a slob. I have a small bathroom in my basement. It has a hamper in it. I reminded him, repeatedly, that it had a hamper in it. He never used the hamper and instead left his clothes all over the floor. When the bathroom floor was completely covered, he’d move on to the floor outside of the bathroom and any nearby furniture. Eventually he’d run out of clean clothes, so he’d do laundry, but never put it away - it was either left half-in, half-out of the dryer (he’d pick out what he needed and leave the rest, because it’s not like I needed to use the dryer or anything), or scattered in baskets across the basement. I bought him a piece of furniture to put his clothes in, but he mostly seemed to like to leave all the drawers half-open and the contents anywhere and everywhere. \n\nHe didn’t seem to like eating at home and instead vastly preferred ordering food in or eating out every time. Even if I cooked, he acted disappointed. But he’d always have leftovers he wouldn’t eat. He’d “forget” he had them, and then bitch at me when I brought up that he still had multiple leftovers as I was gently suggesting that maybe we should save some money and not order in food that night. He’d never throw them out, either. At one point I cleaned out my basement fridge and realized I’d just thrown about $250 worth of food away that he’d allowed to rot. It was so bad it was starting to smell upstairs. He didn’t mind it. He usually fell asleep on the basement couch, trash surrounding him and all, and claimed that he couldn’t smell anything. \n\nThere were **massive** clumps of hair with bugs matted in it in every corner of my basement. My couch was stained and torn beyond repair. My countertops on my mini-bar were sticky. I started seeing roaches. I had to use the bathroom when I was doing laundry one day (I’d avoided it because of how gross it was) and found he’d stained both my porcelain sink and my toilet bowl, because although he’d said he’d clean them, he never did. That’s also when I realized just how much gunk he was letting grow in the shower. \n\nI had been resenting it for a while and my resentment was growing and growing and growing. He always, *always,* ***always, ALWAYS*** had an excuse as to why he couldn’t clean up after his damn self - usually revolving around woe is me, I have a job and have to work, I’m too tired to pick up my own messes. Waaah, I know I said I’d clean today but now I’m having another one of my mysterious headaches/tummy aches/general vague malaise which always seems to arise when I’ve made a commitment to do housework, and it’s completely disabled me. No, it’s not messy, YOUR standards are too high, that’s all. And so on.\n\nRescued my breaking point when he informed me that his dog had gotten sick in the basement. He told me this because he knew I’d smell it. He also told me this, incidentally, right when he was leaving for work and oh no, he obviously has no time to clean it. I sighed and went downstairs and found that, in his little landfill of bliss, that dog had shit diarrhea all over the floor no less than nine times. \n\nI was livid. I called him and said, Look, I’ll clean up the really big/stinky parts but I’m fucking sick and tired of you living like a pig and YOU will be responsible for getting the sticky poop off the floor. I can’t smell the sticky stuff upstairs and you know what, I’m tired of your mess being my problem. \n\nWhat? He was incredulous. *What?* Did I not realize the torturous existence that was his life? Did I not know that having a job entitled him to never lift a finger to clean up his mess? Was I completely ignorant of the fact that his life was bound by fate to perpetually be more difficult and demanding than mine, and thus I would always be eternally obligated to clean up after him - especially considering that it was *me* who was so stuck-up and picky as to have a problem with some silly diarrhea blown all over the basement floor? Why, he’d done me a favor by identifying the source of the stench and gracefully allowing me the opportunity to quench it. Oh, *fuck* you.\n\nHe came home after I went to bed - he’d gone out drinking with his friends, which was his usual response after I’d been so heartlessly mean to him. I came downstairs to do laundry two days later.\n\nThat sticky shit was still on the floor. Perhaps he’d forgotten it was there with all the scattered plastic and cellophane and aluminum cans and bottles and greasy napkins and dirty silverware surrounding it, but it was still there. He had slept for two nights surrounded by dog shit. He. Had. Slept. For. Two. Nights. Surrounded. By. Dog. Shit. Knowingly. \n\nWhen I confronted him his attitude was unchanged, except more insistent: No, it was not a big deal to have dog shit on your floor; it was *my* job to clean up because I was the one who had a problem with it; his life was far too hard and difficult to expect him to live like an adult. Except now this time, I’m *such* a bitch, I’m *such* an asshole, I have no empathy for him, surely if I really cared and loved him I would gladly clean everything up for him since it was only to make me happy anyway. I’m cruel, I’m selfish, I’m petty. I went out and bought new locks.\n\nWhen he spotted me changing them he first demanded a key to “his house” (lol), then continued to berate me over something so silly as wanting my house clean and I needed to grow up and stop nagging him about something he “couldn’t” do, and I just kept working without looking at him. Finally he said “You know what, fine. I’ll clean it up tomorrow. I promise, okay? Just give me a key.” I sighed and said, “If you can get it cleaned up tomorrow, then you can have a key.” (I’d already changed two locks and was working on the third, and needed to change them anyway since his dog had chewed up one of the locks so badly that it would cut your hand when you gripped it too strongly, so I wasn’t going to go back and un-change them. I agreed to this because I knew exactly what he would do. \n\nAnd he did. He spent the entire next day sleeping in until about two in the afternoon, because his job is *so hard* that he “needs” to stay up until four AM watching YouTube videos just to deal (he was a restaurant and bar manager, which isn’t an easy job by any stretch, but he made it sound like he was doing brain surgery on politicians’ kids for a living and his coping mechanisms were garbage). Then when he got up, he was doing exactly what I knew he would be doing; Sitting at his computer “working on stuff” (i.e., organizing his music library *again*) for hours and hours on end to further manage his apparently endless stress. He did this until late at night, which again I expected, and then did what I expected again: Said that he’d worked so hard the day before that I couldn’t possibly have assumed he’d actually clean anything, that he was feeling too sick to do it anyway, he was far too tired, and oopsies he lost track of time again. Haha, guess he can’t clean after all! I work full-time. I don’t have patience for this. \n\nI finished putting the new locks on while he was at work the next day. He was livid. He blew up my phone, crying about how evil I was and he was going to sue because he still needed his stuff. I do let him into the house to gather his things. He’s living with a friend again and keeps hinting he wants to come back, like “Oh wow this really IS a mess now that I look at it” (it’s been about four and a half weeks and I’m STILL cleaning up the wreck he left in my basement). And he wants a key because it’d be so convenient for him to just be able to stroll in and get his things when I’m not home, at any time. But this wasn’t just annoying for me, it was heartbreaking. I knew he was a bit messy when he lived with roommates but I didn’t know how much of the heavy lifting they were doing. He does love me a lot and I do still love him. He’s not evil, just remarkably selfish and lazy and whiny. If he’d managed to learn to take care of himself at some point we’d absolutely still be together, but it was just too much. I still sometimes question myself though.",
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      "body_en": "With me, it was multiple things. I basically had a heart-to-heart talk with myself that I realized that nothing I did was good enough for him and that he intentionally was moving the goal posts and the only way to win was to stop playing. \n\nHe would intentionally do things to scam me and that crap me out of money, people were coming to me to get paid and made me very embarrassed because I made me realize that I was my own husband and I wasn’t brought up for people to be doing that. I’m old-fashioned like that.\n\nHe finally started working at the same time as I did, and it was supposed to be 50-50 and when I asked him for his half of the bills, he threatened to beat me. Then with my daughter which his stepdaughter he raised her since she was three days old , he would go behind my back and basically beat her with a belt like a ridiculous amount of slaps it was unbelievable. She had bruises on her butt. I would tell him not to be touching my daughter and he would wait till I wasn’t in the room to do it\n\nHe was so greedy that he was supposed to send her to someone to babysit and they expected their money the same day and he was so cheap that he didn’t wanna pay it so instead he kept her at home he could’ve gotten my daughter took him from me as all because of his greed. We had someone babysitting her and he knew that he was supposed to been paying her. This was a different person, but anyway it was like over a month that she wasn’t paid in her daughter called me up, cussing me out over it and I was forced to have to pay back all that back pay. I distinctly remember crying, begging this man to choose me instead of his wallet and he did this whiny high pitched nooo. It turned me all the way off. \n\nAnd we’re not gonna go into before where he was very financially abuse towards me and emotionally abusive towards me I’ve had enough . I literally was so miserable that I was gonna take myself out if I didn’t divorce him.\n\nTo this day, he hasn’t found a girlfriend. I tried to speak right into him, but I can’t get him to work. He’s just living off of people and it’s really sad. He’s like 42 years old. He just expects people to take care of him. another thing that was Weighing really hard on our relationship was because he was expecting me to pay every bill and turn around and do 100% of all the housework and apparently everything was always 100% my fault as well. (the money part was before he got a job. He was paying 50% then it basically just went down to nothing very fast.)",
      "body_zh": "对我来说，有很多事情。我基本上与自己进行了一次心与心的交谈，我意识到我所做的一切对他来说都不够好，而且他故意移动球门柱，而获胜的唯一方法就是停止比赛。 \n\n他会故意做一些事情来欺骗我，让我没钱，人们来找我要钱，让我非常尴尬，因为我让我意识到我是我自己的丈夫，而我从小就不是为了让人们这样做而长大的。我就是这样的老派。\n\n他终于和我同时开始工作了，本来应该是50-50，当我向他要一半的账单时，他威胁要打我。然后，我的女儿是他的继女，他从三天大起就把她抚养长大，他会背着我用皮带打她，就像打了很多可笑的耳光，这令人难以置信。她的屁股上有瘀伤。我会告诉他不要碰我的女儿，他会等到我不在房间时才这样做\n\n他太贪心了，他应该把她送到别人那里去照顾孩子，他们当天就想要钱，而他太便宜了，他不想付钱，所以他把她留在家里，因为他的贪婪，他本可以让我女儿把他从我身边带走。我们有人照顾她，他知道他应该付钱给她。这是一个不同的人，但无论如何，她女儿打电话给我，咒骂我，我被迫偿还所有拖欠的工资，就像一个多月没有得到工资一样。我清楚地记得我哭了，恳求这个男人选择我而不是他的钱包，他做了这个抱怨的高调“不”。这让我彻底厌烦了。 \n\n我们不会讨论之前他对我的经济虐待和情感虐待，我已经受够了。我真的很痛苦，如果我不和他离婚，我就会自杀。\n\n直到今天，他还没有找到女朋友。我试图直接与他交谈，但我无法让他开始工作。他只是靠别人生活，这真的很可悲。他好像42岁了。他只是希望人们能够照顾他。另一件对我们的关系造成严重影响的事情是，他希望我支付所有账单，然后转身做 100% 的家务，显然一切也总是 100% 是我的错。 （钱部分是在他找到工作之前。他支付了 50%，然后基本上很快就变成了零。）"
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      "id": "oyjvm7r",
      "author": "EstroJen",
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      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjvm7r/",
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      "body_en": "This was when I was engaged. My mom had been a huge thorn in our side even before we got engaged. My ring wasn't good enough for her, although I loved it ($99 lab ruby). She basically hated everything I wanted and tried her best to over rule my choices. A year and a half of that, I broke down so hard and was sobbing in our bedroom. I went into mania and my libido became 24/7 arousal. That sounds great on paper, but it physically hurt.\n\nI asked my fiance if we could have sex or lay together naked in bed. I think I used the term \"to bring me back to earth and feel connected to someone.\" We were a fairly low libido couple up to that point. \n\nHe told me no, and that he didn't want to have sex with me, hug, kiss or hold hands at all. He moved into the spare bedroom. Later he told me I could sleep with other people if he didn't know about it. I regret that I did sleep with others because that was so shitty of me. I know it's no excuse but I felt so unloved and was so desperate for any affection that I did it. \n\nThe day he moved to the other room was such a rough day for me and I don't know why I didn't immediately break up with him.  I told my mom what had happened through tears and she said \"you don't have much of a libido, so this is fine.\" \n\nMeanwhile, she had made sure my house and all my possessions were safe in a prenup, but *I* didn't ever get that same protection from her. Her goal was to get me married and she didn't care. She thought it was cold feet. \n\nMy mood only got worse and I tried to hurt myself. My mom told me how stupid my actions were. She told me I couldn't cancel because she'd spent a bunch of money.\n\n I remember watching my mom and my fiance open wedding gifts while I stood in the hallway and thinking \"we're going to have to send all this back.\" \n\nI went through with the wedding but refused to sign paperwork until I saw some change in physical affection and sex, but that never came. \n\nI emailed my former fiance in 2024 (about 10 years after the wedding) and wanted to talk to him about what happened. I wanted to know what he was experiencing at the time and see if we could talk like adults, but he had blocked me. \n\nLater i found out this also happened with his first wife, and she apologized for not warning me because we seemed really happy online. It's still the most traumatic thing that ever happened to me and I no longer speak to my mother.",
      "body_zh": "那是我订婚的时候。甚至在我们订婚之前，我妈妈就一直是我们的眼中钉。我的戒指对她来说不够好，尽管我很喜欢它（99 美元的实验室红宝石）。她基本上讨厌我想要的一切，并尽力推翻我的选择。一年半的时间里，我崩溃了，在卧室里哭泣。我陷入了狂热，我的性欲变成了 24/7 的性唤起。这在纸面上听起来不错，但在身体上却很受伤。\n\n我问我的未婚夫我们是否可以做爱或者赤身裸体躺在床上。我想我用了这个词“让我回到现实并感受到与某人的联系”。到目前为止，我们的性欲相当低。 \n\n他告诉我不，他根本不想和我做爱、拥抱、亲吻或牵手。他搬进了空余的卧室。后来他告诉我，如果他不知道的话，我可以和其他人睡觉。我很后悔和别人一起睡，因为那对我来说太糟糕了。我知道这不是借口，但我感到如此不被爱，并且如此渴望得到任何爱，所以我这么做了。 \n\n他搬到另一个房间的那天对我来说真是艰难的一天，我不知道为什么我没有立即与他分手。  我流着泪告诉妈妈发生了什么事，她说：“你的性欲不强，所以没关系。” \n\n与此同时，她在婚前协议中确保了我的房子和我所有的财产都是安全的，但*我*从未从她那里得到同样的保护。她的目标是让我结婚，但她不在乎。她认为这是临阵退缩。 \n\n我的心情变得更糟，我试图伤害自己。我妈妈告诉我我的行为是多么愚蠢。她告诉我我不能取消，因为她花了很多钱。\n\n 我记得看着我妈妈和我的未婚夫打开结婚礼物，而我站在走廊里想着“我们必须把所有这些都寄回去。” \n\n我办理了婚礼，但拒绝签署文件，直到我看到身体感情和性方面发生了一些变化，但这从未发生。 \n\n我在 2024 年（大约结婚 10 年后）给我的前未婚夫发了电子邮件，想和他谈谈发生的事情。我想知道他当时正在经历什么，看看我们是否可以像成年人一样交谈，但他把我拉黑了。 \n\n后来我发现这也发生在他的第一任妻子身上，她为没有警告我而道歉，因为我们在网上看起来真的很开心。这仍然是发生在我身上最痛苦的事情，我不再和我的母亲说话。"
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      "id": "oyj9znb",
      "author": "Rinneseii",
      "created_utc": 1784490186,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj9znb/",
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      "body_en": "I realized that he would choose alcohol and substances/indulgence over me literally starving myself. \n\nWe never shared finances and since his credit was absolutely awful, I took on the entirety of our debt under my name when we bought a property together because including his credit lessened our ability of taking out a loan. At the time, it was okay and I didn't think too much of it since we were married. I trusted him to help pay it down. We moved out to this property, got new jobs, etc. \n\nHe always struggled with alcoholism to a degree, and was a massive stoner. Basically was stoned every waking moment when he wasn't working. He also vaped every day, ate out every day for lunch and dinner, gambled for fun at least once a week, etc. This was never an issue in the past because we never struggled with money, until we moved.\n\nThe job I managed to get turned out to not pay enough for me to properly live. I would have been okay, but I was drowning in the repayments of the newly acquired debt. I had tried to work with him to figure out or finances and get him to help me balance payments of all our bills, and he just acted unbothered. It was to the point where I couldn't afford to eat. I was eating a small meal a day and dropping weight like crazy. I had zero money spending required hobbies outside of work and home because I was just trying to save money. \n\nMeanwhile, his daily routine was going to work in the morning, going to the thai restaurant across the street for lunch, after work, going to the bar, getting drunk, throwing a 20 in the machine to gamble, coming home, hoping on the ps5 and gaming while drinking a 6 pack, smoking out of his bong all night, vaping, whatever. Go to bed, repeat. \n\nI begged him to make some sort of temporary life style change to help me. Because I knew he had the finances. But he was so unwilling to make any changed. I told him about how I was starving. He told me he had no extra money to give. \n\nThen would have the audacity to make comments about how I was getting too skinny and how he wasn't as attracted to me. \n\nOur relationship had other issues, but this whole situation really opened my eyes to this man not caring about my health or being a partner to me. So we got divorced and of course, he acted like I blind sided him. \n\nAnyway, I am in a happy relationship now with a man that goes out of his way for me. And I am well fed!",
      "body_zh": "我意识到他会选择酒精和物质/放纵，而不是让我自己挨饿。 \n\n我们从来没有分享过财务状况，而且由于他的信用非常糟糕，当我们一起购买房产时，我以我的名义承担了我们的全部债务，因为包括他的信用降低了我们获得贷款的能力。当时还好，结婚后我也没有想太多。我相信他会帮助还清这笔钱。我们搬到了这处房产，找到了新工作等等。 \n\n他总是在一定程度上与酗酒作斗争，并且是一个严重的瘾君子。基本上，当他不工作的时候，他醒着的时候都会被吸毒。他还每天吸电子烟，每天午餐和晚餐都在外面吃，每周至少赌博一次，等等。这在过去从来不是问题，因为我们从来没有为钱而烦恼，直到我们搬家。\n\n我设法找到的工作结果却不足以让我过上正常的生活。我本可以没事的，但我却陷入了偿还新债的泥沼之中。我曾试图与他合作解决财务问题，并让他帮助我平衡所有账单的支付，但他表现得无动于衷。已经到了连饭都吃不起的地步了。我每天只吃一小顿饭，体重却疯狂下降。在工作和家庭之外，我的爱好为零，因为我只是想省钱。 \n\n与此同时，他的日常生活是早上上班，去街对面的泰国餐厅吃午饭，下班后，去酒吧，喝醉，往机器里扔 20 来赌博，回到家，一边喝 6 包，一边指望着 PS5 玩游戏，整晚用烟枪抽烟，抽电子烟，诸如此类。去睡觉，重复。 \n\n我恳求他暂时改变生活方式来帮助我。因为我知道他有经济实力。但他却不愿意做出任何改变。我告诉他我是如何挨饿的。他告诉我他没有多余的钱可以捐。 \n\n然后就会厚颜无耻地评论我如何变得太瘦以及他如何对我不那么有吸引力。 \n\n我们的关系还有其他问题，但这整个情况确实让我看到了这个男人不关心我的健康或成为我的伴侣。所以我们离婚了，当然，他表现得就像是我蒙蔽了他。 \n\n不管怎样，我现在和一个为我竭尽全力的男人处于一段幸福的关系中。而且我吃饱了！"
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      "author": "mdsaifurrahman",
      "created_utc": 1784519966,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylyf74/",
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      "body_en": "Man, reading these comments is hitting way too close to home because for me it was pretty much the exact same vibe but with a crazy twist. We didn't have any cheating or explosive fights, it was just this slow, agonizing burn where you wake up one day and realize you are roommates with someone who actively drains your soul. The absolute last straw happened over something so stupidly small, but it just broke me.\n\n I came home after a brutal twelve hour shift, starving af and just wanting to decompress for a minute. I had bought this specific pint of expensive ice cream the night before, literally told them I was looking forward to it all day, and when I opened the freezer it was completely gone. Like, empty container sitting right there in the sink not even rinsed out. When I asked about it, they didn't even look up from their phone, just shrugged and said it wasn't a big deal and that I was overreacting. It wasn't about the ice cream, it was the total lack of respect and the realization that my happiness didn't even register on their radar anymore. I walked out to my car, sat in the driveway for an hour, and just knew I couldn't do this for another thirty years.\n\nHonestly, that whole feeling of dreading to go home is the absolute worst thing ever. You spend your entire workday just wishing you could be somewhere comfortable, but then the clock hits five and your stomach just drops because you gotta go back to the tension. We tried the whole marriage counseling thing for a couple months but it felt like pulling teeth because they just wanted to blame everything on me. \n\nThey literally told the therapist that my job was the problem because I was always too tired to entertain them, even though they sat on the couch all day doing absolutely nothing. The level of entitlement was insane lol. It is so wild how you can love someone so much at the start, and then over time they just become this complete stranger who makes you feel totally invisible in your own house. Pulling the trigger on the divorce papers was terrifying and I was stressed out of my mind, but the second I signed them, it felt like this massive weight was lifted off my chest. If you are sitting in your car dreading going inside your own house, that is your sign right there.",
      "body_zh": "伙计，阅读这些评论太贴近我的感受了，因为对我来说，这几乎是完全相同的氛围，但有一个疯狂的转折。我们没有任何作弊或爆炸性的争吵，只是这种缓慢而痛苦的燃烧，有一天你醒来，发现你和一个主动耗尽你灵魂的人是室友。压垮我的最后一根稻草发生在一些如此愚蠢的小事上，但它却让我崩溃了。\n\n 我在经历了残酷的十二小时轮班后回到家，肚子饿极了，只想减压一分钟。我前一天晚上买了这一品脱昂贵的冰淇淋，实际上告诉他们我一整天都在期待它，当我打开冰箱时它完全消失了。就像，空容器就放在水槽里，甚至没有被冲洗掉。当我问起这件事时，他们甚至没有从手机上抬起头来，只是耸耸肩说这没什么大不了的，我反应过度了。这与冰淇淋无关，而是完全缺乏尊重，并且意识到我的幸福甚至不再出现在他们的雷达上。我走到我的车旁，在车道上坐了一个小时，然后就知道我不能再做三十年了。\n\n老实说，那种害怕回家的感觉绝对是有史以来最糟糕的事情。你整个工作日都只是希望自己能在一个舒服的地方，但当时钟敲到五点时，你的胃就会下降，因为你必须回到紧张的状态。我们尝试了几个月的整个婚姻咨询，但感觉就像拔牙一样，因为他们只是想把一切都归咎于我。 \n\n他们确实告诉治疗师，我的工作是问题所在，因为我总是太累了，无法招待他们，尽管他们整天坐在沙发上什么也没做。权利水平太疯狂了，哈哈。你一开始如此爱一个人，然后随着时间的推移，他们就变得完全陌生，让你感觉自己在自己的房子里完全被忽视，这真是太疯狂了。扣动离婚文件的扳机是很可怕的，我压力很大，但当我签署离婚文件的那一刻，感觉就像这个沉重的负担从我的胸口卸下了。如果你坐在车里不敢进自己的房子，那就是你的标志。"
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      "author": "xaidxx",
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      "body_en": "after failing to isolate me from the world, especially my family, just to not only control me, she was trying to make me under her CONTROL. \n\nSince the first day, she was trying to find any fault, or weakness in me, so that she could use that against me, in order to control me. \nShe somewhat isolated me from society , and my family by secretly spreading rumors behind my back as having anger issues (bipolar), controlling & a lil-abusive husband, resulting in turning them against me and that too by leaving me alone with her, or else she was in danger. \nShe ruined my reputation and image by quietly discussing & showing doubt to my already fearful parents, that I might have an affair, which was causing me to return home late from work. But, infact, as a working women, I told her that due to end of year month appraisals, I ll return home late. But she used that against me infront of parents, who ofcourse were old, and very easy to be made fearful of unknown.\n\nThe marriage only lasted 10 months and ended in 2023, and not a single day I spent with joy, calm, and peace. \nBut the consequences of her actions have left permanent impact on my life, career, my mental health, my reputation infront of relatives & family, my confidence, my ability to trust in close relationships and marriage ever again. \n\nI never understood WHY? \nwhen the man is being the most cooperative and supportive to women as a brother, son, friend, and as a husband too, then why do they disrespect and insult him. \n\nDoes that mean that those abusive men are correct in treating women like that? Cuz if they don't, these women will ruin them. We should never forget that women are humans too, just like men.\n\nThey also lie, have hatred, are abusive, extremely manipulative (damsel in distress), and can kill ppl too. \n\nShe filed for divorce herself after our separation when I tried to confront her after I finally was able to talk to my family, and got to learn about multiple fake stories she combined and have spread about me all that time, yet she never complained or had any verbal fights with me over anything. She showed herself to be very happy and satisfied with me, but to the world, as being miserable with his mad and bi-polar husband.",
      "body_zh": "在未能将我与世界隔离，尤其是我的家人隔离之后，她不仅是为了控制我，还试图让我处于她的控制之下。 \n\n从第一天起，她就试图找出我的缺点、弱点，以此来对付我，从而控制我。 \n她在某种程度上将我与社会和我的家人隔离开来，她在背后秘密散布谣言，说我有愤怒问题（躁郁症），控制欲强，丈夫有虐待行为，导致他们反对我，而且还让我单独和她在一起，否则她就会处于危险之中。 \n她悄悄地向我本已害怕的父母讨论和表示怀疑，认为我可能有外遇，导致我下班很晚，从而毁了我的声誉和形象。但事实上，作为一名职业女性，我告诉她，由于年终月考核，我会很晚回家。但她在父母面前用这个来对付我，他们当然已经老了，很容易对未知感到恐惧。\n\n这段婚姻只维持了10个月，就在2023年结束了，我没有一天是快乐、平静、平安度过的。 \n但她行为的后果对我的生活、事业、我的心理健康、我在亲戚和家人面前的声誉、我的信心、我再次信任亲密关系和婚姻的能力产生了永久性的影响。 \n\n我一直不明白为什么？ \n当男人作为兄弟、儿子、朋友和丈夫对女人最合作和支持时，她们为什么不尊重和侮辱他。 \n\n这是否意味着那些施虐的男人这样对待女人是正确的？因为如果他们不这样做，这些女人就会毁了他们。我们永远不应该忘记，女人也是人，就像男人一样。\n\n他们还撒谎、怀有仇恨、辱骂、极具操纵性（陷入困境的少女），并且也可以杀人。 \n\n我们分居后，当我终于能够与家人交谈并了解到她组合并传播的关于我的多个虚假故事后，我试图与她对质时，她自己提出了离婚，但她从未抱怨或与我发生过任何言语争执。她表现得对我非常高兴和满意，但对世界来说，她对他疯狂和双向情感障碍的丈夫感到痛苦。"
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      "body_en": "My soon-to-be ex-wife is epileptic. 3 years ago this September, she had a seizure and lost her memory. Two weeks later, once she'd accepted what her life was, she told me she believed I was important in her life before based on her pictures and videos in her phone, but she didn't feel like she was IN LOVE with me. I offered to let her see other people, but she was kind of uncertain and uncomfortable to explore that.\n\nI think it was around this point I began to slowly mourn my marriage overtime because things were never the same. Her personality, behavior, and mannerisms remained the same, but her interests changed. Her taste in food, shows, movies, podcasts, books, all changed. And when our interests didn't have any \"overlap\" anymore, it was very difficult for either person to spend time with the other without it feeling like a chore.\n\nI'd considered divorce for a while, simply because I knew I was not happy despite how much I cared for her still. However, there were two outcomes that would have been detrimental to her had I initiated separation: I would keep the house, and she would have to find a place and/or companion on a timetable that was not at her convenience; I would leave the house, she would not be able to afford it, so we would have to sell it. I did not want either scenario. (We do not have kids.)\n\nTo wrap this up, she eventually told me she was not happy either. She recognized the same markers I had, and she initiated the separation/divorce two weeks before she told me sought out a lawyer. In that time, she'd found her own place and made her own plan. All she wanted was the car (her doctor allowed her to start working on getting her license again), the furniture that was handed down from her family, and the dogs. Losing one dog was the only thing I have trouble adjusting to because she was my baby, but we left that open-ended.\n\nAll-in-all, what had happened was nobody's fault. We were both exhausting ourselves trying to make it work, and having our efforts fall flat drained us further. We both want what's best for the other as well as ourselves, and honestly, this is the best way it could happened.",
      "body_zh": "我即将成为的前妻患有癫痫症。三年前的九月，她突发癫痫，失去了记忆。两周后，当她接受了自己的生活后，她告诉我，根据她手机里的照片和视频，她相信我以前在她的生活中很重要，但她并不觉得自己爱上了我。我提出让她见其他人，但她对探索这一点感到有点不确定和不舒服。\n\n我想正是在这个时候，我开始慢慢地哀悼我的婚姻，因为事情已经不再一样了。她的性格、行为和举止保持不变，但她的兴趣发生了变化。她对食物、节目、电影、播客、书籍的品味都发生了变化。当我们的兴趣不再有任何“重叠”时，任何一个人都很难与对方共度时光而不感觉像是一件苦差事。\n\n我有一段时间考虑过离婚，只是因为我知道尽管我仍然非常关心她，但我并不快乐。然而，如果我提出分居，有两个结果会对她不利：我会保留房子，她必须在不方便的时间表上找到一个地方和/或伴侣；我会离开房子，她买不起，所以我们不得不卖掉它。这两种情况我都不想要。 （我们没有孩子。）\n\n最后，她最终告诉我她也不高兴。她认出了我的相同标记，并在告诉我寻找律师的两周前提出了分居/离婚。那时，她找到了自己的位置，制定了自己的计划。她想要的只是汽车（她的医生允许她重新开始努力获得驾照）、家人传下来的家具和狗。失去一只狗是我唯一难以适应的事情，因为她是我的孩子，但我们对此没有任何限制。\n\n总而言之，所发生的事情不是任何人的错。为了让它发挥作用，我们都精疲力尽，而努力的失败让我们更加疲惫。我们都希望对方和我们自己都能得到最好的结果，老实说，这是最好的方式。"
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      "author": "Xo-Mo",
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      "body_en": "For me... we were financially tethered together, sharing both savings and checking... \n\nOur financial situation never really improved. We worked full time and barely paid rent and the bills, so luxuries, vacations, and \"extras\" were never really an option, even when one or both of us got a promotion or raise. The rent and utilities always went up equivalently.\n\nWhat hurt was that we got so burnt out emotionally, mentally, physically, and just had no time or alertness to remain a cohesive partnership. Because we were on a super-tight budget, our diets suffered and we both gained a bit of weight.\n\nThe ultimate desire for me was to have a kid or a few within 5 years of marriage. 6 years in and... nope. Just not a financial possibility. But she told me should go ahead and try - that it would work out... \n\nIn reality, she was lying to me, just to give me false hope. She got on Depo Provera (the shot) and showed me as she threw out her BC pills. She had me for a few months, including negative pregnancy tests and her faking missing her period. \n\nShe lied. It broke my heart when I went to get the mail, only to see a doctor's statement about her new dose of Depo Provera, in addition to the previous 2 years worth of doses...\n\nIt was the last straw for me emotionally.\n\nIt was another 2 years of silent coldness, emotionally uncooperative, paying bills, just biding time.\n\nI got home and she had already had her friends from work over, helping load a U-Haul truck with all her stuff. She told me she wanted a divorce.\n\nInstead of being an AH or angry like my brothers or dad, I sat down and sighed. I told her I was just trying to keep us liquid financially. And that I was fine with it.\n\nWe made a list, divided up things, and went our separate ways. The divorce was civil \"amicable\" and a couple of signatures on divorce contracts. No judge, no attorney for me, just... goodbye. Good luck.\n\nWe're friendly. She moved out, moved on. I moved out, struggled for a while, but got on my feet.",
      "body_zh": "对我来说...我们在经济上紧密相连，共享储蓄和支票... \n\n我们的财务状况从未真正改善。我们全职工作，几乎没有支付房租和账单，因此奢侈品、假期和“额外”从来都不是真正的选择，即使我们中的一个或两个人得到了晋升或加薪。租金和水电费总是同等上涨。\n\n令人痛苦的是，我们在情感上、精神上、身体上都精疲力竭，没有时间或警觉性来保持有凝聚力的伙伴关系。因为我们的预算非常紧张，所以我们的饮食受到了影响，我们的体重都增加了一些。\n\n我的最终愿望是在结婚五年内拥有一个或几个孩子。六年了……不。只是没有经济上的可能性。但她告诉我应该继续尝试——它会成功的...... \n\n事实上，她在骗我，只是为了给我虚假的希望。她服用了 Depo Provera（注射剂）并向我展示了她扔掉 BC 药片的情况。她怀了我几个月，怀孕测试结果呈阴性，还假装错过了月经。 \n\n她撒谎了。当我去取邮件时，只看到医生关于她新剂量的 Depo Provera 的声明，以及之前 2 年的剂量，我的心都碎了……\n\n这是压垮我情感上的最后一根稻草。\n\n又是两年的沉默冷漠，情感上的不合作，支付账单，只是等待时间。\n\n我回到家，她已经让她下班的朋友过来帮忙把她所有的东西装到一辆 U-Haul 卡车上。她告诉我她想离婚。\n\n我没有像我的兄弟或父亲那样“啊”或生气，而是坐下来叹了​​口气。我告诉她我只是想保持我们的财务流动性。我对此很满意。\n\n我们列了一个清单，分了东西，然后各奔东西。离婚是民事“友好”的，并且在离婚合同上有几个签名。没有法官，没有律师，只有……再见。祝你好运。\n\n我们很友好。她搬了出去，继续前进。我搬了出去，挣扎了一会儿，但还是站了起来。"
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      "id": "oykhvut",
      "author": "darybrain",
      "created_utc": 1784501671,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykhvut/",
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      "body_en": "My friend got together with a guy several years ago. A pretty passionate affair when together as he is a regional trucker so wasn't around every day. Within a year she got preganté and was having a hard time with it so sexy time became quite sporadic. She had a miscarriage and understandably didn't feel like doing anything for a while. No sexy time for him so he didn't like that. One of his next trips took him abroad for a few weeks and despite her pain when he returned they went at it apparently like a porno according to her and she actually got pregananat again. Same thing, felt awful, no sexy time for many weeks, had another miscarriage, felt shit, while he is upset she doesn't put out at all. \n\nThird time lucky, has a hard mainly bed ridden pregnancy, gives birth to a healthy child, but the first year is horribly painful with recovery, hormones, and body changes. He feels lonely and starts drinking much more than normal. By this time they are sleeping in different rooms as apparently she isn't as sexy as she used to be, doesn't like to be touched so much particularly when looking after the baby, and has given up on looking after her appearance. \n\nA few years later she gets prangent again and same as before, a very hard 9 months, no intimacy between them, but new baby is wonderful. He knows the next year, probably longer now with two kids, will be blue balls hell for him so while she is in the hospital bed, with both sets of parents in the room, recovering after giving birth he tells her he wants a divorce because their sex drives are too different and he doesn't find her attractive any more. He then just leaves to go home and pack. \n\nIt was surprising and disturbing to see the number of people that blamed her for not trying hard enough in the marriage. He got a place nearby so he could still occasionally see the kids and he still pays her rent knowing she wouldn't be able to work for a long time, but that's it. They barely say anything more than hello.",
      "body_zh": "我的朋友几年前和一个男人在一起了。因为他是一名地区卡车司机，所以不是每天都在一起，所以在一起的时候非常热情。不到一年，她就怀孕了，但她的日子很不好过，所以性感的时间变得非常零星。她流产了，有一段时间不想做任何事情，这是可以理解的。他没有性感的时间，所以他不喜欢那样。他接下来的一次旅行带他出国几周，尽管他回来时她很痛苦，但据她说，他们显然像看色情片一样，而她实际上又再次怀孕了。同样的事情，感觉很糟糕，好几个星期都没有性感的时间，又流产了，感觉很糟糕，而他很沮丧，她根本没有表现出来。 \n\n第三次很幸运，经历了一段艰难的主要是卧床不起的怀孕，生下了一个健康的孩子，但第一年由于恢复、激素和身体变化而非常痛苦。他感到孤独，开始比平时喝得更多。此时他们睡在不同的房间，显然她不像以前那么性感，不喜欢被触摸，特别是在照顾孩子的时候，并且已经放弃了对自己外表的照顾。 \n\n几年后，她再次怀孕，和以前一样，非常艰难的9个月，他们之间没有亲密关系，但新宝宝很棒。他知道明年，也许更长的时间，现在有两个孩子，对他来说将是蓝色球地狱，所以当她躺在医院的病床上，双方父母都在房间里，产后康复时，他告诉她他想离婚，因为他们的性欲太不同了，他不再觉得她有吸引力了。然后他就离开回家收拾行李。 \n\n看到有这么多人指责她在婚姻中不够努力，真是令人惊讶和不安。他在附近找到了一个地方，这样他仍然可以偶尔看看孩子们，他仍然支付她的房租，因为他知道她不能长期工作，但仅此而已。他们除了打招呼之外几乎没有说什么。"
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      "id": "oym4r6x",
      "author": "ausmed",
      "created_utc": 1784522702,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym4r6x/",
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      "body_en": "We'd been going to marriage counselling for months. I said I felt alone after years of raising our kids without his input or interest. One example was looking at a new school, I'd gone to all the intro stuff alone and when tried to tell him about it he said I could send them wherever but he didn't want to hear about it. Pretty much everything was like that. He even made a fuss about keeping the baby while I dropped out eldest at school (5 mins away) when he was working from home and it was pouring with rain. In counselling he'd acknowledged my feelings and made some changes.\n\nThen we went away for an extended period far far overseas to see his family, which went badly. I said I'd go if he did > 50% of the work and manage the first few nights as I struggle with jetlag. I ended up managing the kids the whole way there and then woke up in the middle of the first night to the baby screaming and he'd gone out. I got upset and the next day he told me I should be embarrassed not to be able to manage my own baby for half an hour. \n\nWhen we got back we went back to the counsellor again and he turned up saying actually he didn't believe he'd been uninvolved, that he hadn't been at any of these things because I had pushed him out. The counsellor completely bought it and I somehow found myself in a discussion about how I'd made him feel excluded for 7 years. She gave us homework to pick one issue and discuss it at home - he chose the school issue. \n\nSo we got in the car to go home and he turned to me all enthusiastic and said 'ok so tell me about this school, what did you like about it?'\n\nThere were a lot of times before that that I'd known it wasn't right, that he was emotionally abusive. But in that moment I realised he'd never had any intention of taking responsibility for anything. He thought he could just completely rewrite reality to one where I had to make up for excluding him and I'd go along with it. When we got home I said I wanted a divorce.",
      "body_zh": "我们已经去婚姻咨询几个月了。我说，在没有他的投入或兴趣的情况下抚养我们的孩子多年后，我感到孤独。一个例子是看一所新学校，我独自去了所有介绍性的东西，当试图告诉他这件事时，他说我可以将它们发送到任何地方，但他不想听。几乎一切都是这样。当我在学校（距离学校有 5 分钟路程）退学时，他甚至在照顾孩子的问题上大惊小怪，当时他在家工作，而且还下着倾盆大雨。在咨询过程中，他承认了我的感受并做出了一些改变。\n\n然后我们去很长一段时间去国外看望他的家人，情况很糟糕。我说，如果他能完成 50% 以上的工作，并且在我与时差作斗争的最初几个晚上，我就会去。我最终一路照顾着孩子们，然后在第一天半夜被婴儿的尖叫声惊醒，然后他就出去了。我很沮丧，第二天他告诉我，我应该为半个小时不能照顾自己的孩子而感到尴尬。 \n\n当我们回来时，我们再次回到辅导员那里，他出现说实际上他不相信自己没有参与其中，他没有参与任何这些事情，因为我把他赶了出去。辅导员完全相信了这一点，而我不知何故发现自己在讨论我如何让他感到被排斥了七年。她给我们布置了家庭作业，让我们选择一个问题并在家里讨论——他选择了学校问题。 \n\n于是我们上车回家，他热情地对我说：“好吧，告诉我关于这所学校的情况，你喜欢它什么？”\n\n在此之前有很多次我都知道这是不对的，他在情感上虐待我。但在那一刻我意识到他从来没有打算为任何事情承担责任。他认为他可以完全重写现实，让我必须弥补排除他的情况，并且我会同意。回到家后我说我想离婚。"
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    {
      "id": "oykjrvx",
      "author": "VegetableArugula8156",
      "created_utc": 1784502214,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykjrvx/",
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      "body_en": "Married 9 years, separated over her decision to work more. \n\nShe was a stay at home spouse for our 2 children and was actively homeschooling and doing exceptionally well at it too. I saw her spend way more time and effort educating our kids than I ever could. (40-50 hours weekly, I provided income she provided child care) She was a mother and a teacher and did a fair bit of chores for the home albeit I would take over after 5pm and handle dinner, dishes and bedtime as often as required. \n\nAbout a year before our marriage ended, she flipped a switch and said homeschooling was taxing her emotional state to the point where she was unhappy and needed a change. We agreed that happiness mattered and so she found part time work walking dogs. She would do this 8-12 hours a weekend and still provided the child care needed to facilitate my work and thus provide the income. The kids were of age to be enrolled in public school the following year. \n\nJump ahead a few months and shes left the dog walking in favor of a Kiln/pottery tech position at a local art studio. Pays a fraction more but comes with more than double the hours so shes working at least 4 days a week. \n\nI ask to reevaluate our finances and find a way for her income to contribute to the household (none of her money was ever used for the home/living expenses) while also enabling her to have what she wants. A little money for the family and home and she could keep the rest. \n\nLong story short she saw no need to contribute and opted to keep her income separate and told me I had no ground to stand on as I made more than 3 times what she does. \n\nWe split shortly after as this was more so the straw that broke the camels back. Kids are great, have two loving homes and we co parent. She got the hosue I bought and the mortgage paid for for a year as a result of the divorce.",
      "body_zh": "结婚九年，因她决定更多地工作而分居。 \n\n她是我们两个孩子的全职配偶，积极在家上学，而且表现也非常好。我看到她花费了比我更多的时间和精力来教育我们的孩子。 （每周 40-50 小时，我提供收入，她提供儿童保育）她是一名母亲和一名老师，做了不少家务活，尽管我会在下午 5 点后接手，并根据需要经常处理晚餐、洗碗和就寝时间。 \n\n大约在我们的婚姻结束前一年，她突然转变说，在家上学使她的情绪状态变得沉重，以至于她不快乐，需要改变。我们一致认为幸福很重要，所以她找到了遛狗的兼职工作。她每个周末会做 8 到 12 个小时的工作，并且仍然提供所需的托儿服务，以方便我的工作，从而提供收入。孩子们次年就到了入公立学校的年龄。 \n\n几个月后，她放弃了遛狗，转而在当地一家艺术工作室担任窑炉/陶器技术职位。工资稍高一些，但工作时间却多了一倍多，所以她每周至少工作 4 天。 \n\n我要求重新评估我们的财务状况，找到一种方法让她的收入为家庭做出贡献（她的钱没有用于家庭/生活开支），同时也使她能够拥有她想要的东西。给家人和家庭一点钱，她可以保留其余的。 \n\n长话短说，她认为没有必要捐款，并选择将她的收入分开，并告诉我我没有立足之地，因为我的收入是她的三倍多。 \n\n不久之后我们就分手了，因为这更是压垮骆驼的最后一根稻草。孩子们很棒，有两个充满爱的家，我们共同养育孩子。离婚后，她得到了我买的房子，并支付了一年的抵押贷款。"
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    {
      "id": "oykl81r",
      "author": "Faiths_got_fangs",
      "created_utc": 1784502638,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykl81r/",
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      "body_en": "We were already on the verge of divorce for a number of reasons, largely boiling down to his untreated depression which turns into anger issues which turns into fighting with absolutely everyone over absolutely everything. We had been separated but he kept begging for one more chance. \n\nI came home from a 12 hour workday and found the youngest kiddo sobbing hysterically on the floor with the oldest trying to comfort him while also glaring at my ex. I asked what was going on. Oldest and middle were going to walk to the pool. At the time, oldest was old enough to be at the pool alone but not old enough to supervise youngest by the pools rules. Youngest had to have an adult. \n\nEx was sitting in his recliner, doom scrolling as usual, and had apparently been home for hours. He'd been asked to go to the pool by youngest, but he bluntly refused. He wasn't about to get off his butt and go doom scroll his phone from the pool so the youngest could go swim with his brothers. So youngest was just sobbing because he wanted to go swim with his siblings and ex was just sitting in a recliner, scrolling his phone and watching him cry, with absolutely no emotion or empathy. He did not care. He was not about to get off his ass to do something with his little boy. \n\nThis was a man who had literally just been living in a different state from the kids for 5 months prior to this - not seeing them at all -  and who claimed he desperately missed us and wanted to be back together as a family. Who begged and pleaded constantly for one more chance. \n\nI picked kid up, took them to the pool and called my friend who had offered me a dirt cheap rental house on the other side of our new state a week earlier and told her I'd take it. I moved out with all three kids and filed the divorce.",
      "body_zh": "由于多种原因，我们已经处于离婚的边缘，主要归结为他未经治疗的抑郁症，这变成了愤怒问题，进而变成了为所有事情与每个人争吵。我们已经分开了，但他一直乞求再给一次机会。 \n\n我一天工作了 12 个小时回到家，发现最小的孩子在地板上歇斯底里地哭泣，最大的孩子试图安慰他，同时还瞪着我的前任。我问发生了什么事。老大和老二要步行到游泳池。当时，最大的孩子已经足够大，可以独自在泳池里玩耍，但还没有大到可以按照泳池规则监督最小的孩子。最小的必须有一个成年人。 \n\n埃克斯坐在躺椅上，厄运像往常一样滚动，显然已经回家几个小时了。老三约他去泳池，他却直截了当地拒绝了。他不打算从泳池里拿出手机，这样最小的孩子就可以和他的兄弟们一起去游泳。所以最小的孩子只是抽泣，因为他想和他的兄弟姐妹一起去游泳，而前男友只是坐在躺椅上，滚动手机，看着他哭泣，完全没有任何情感或同情心。他不在乎。他不打算停下来对他的小男孩做点什么。 \n\n在此之前，这个男人实际上只是在与孩子们不同的州生活了 5 个月，根本没有见到他们，他声称他非常想念我们，希望能和家人团聚。他不断地恳求并恳求再给一次机会。 \n\n我接了孩子，带他们去了游泳池，给我的朋友打电话，她一周前在我们新州的另一边为我提供了一套非常便宜的出租屋，并告诉她我会接受。我带着三个孩子搬了出去，并提出了离婚。"
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    {
      "id": "oylsp8b",
      "author": "orbital-technician",
      "created_utc": 1784517604,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylsp8b/",
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      "body_en": "She met a male friend on a multi day trip and started questioning our relationship. They never did anything. She wanted to spend a week with him later that summer. I was obviously not cool with that.\n\nWe had been in couples counseling and she didn't want to engage. She said I ended it, but the truth was I ended it because she refused to talk. After 10 hours of couples counseling where she only cried and said \"I can't speak\" you start to really question how involved this person is. I get it's emotional, but you have to eventually engage.\n\nThat was the end of a 14 year relationship. I dated, had some good and bad experiences, but the woman I'm with now is beyond what I fantasized about finding. It's been this insane connection for 2.5 years. I cannot envision not having this person in my life. I feel things about life I hadn't felt before. It's extremely shocking. Imagine feeling like your relationship life makes sense for the first time ever from a first date, after chatting casually on dating apps. Imagine leaving a date literally intoxicated after the most sensual kiss you've ever felt. We both left thinking, \"they will never like me, they were so much hotter than me\" and legitimately thinking the person was as hot as they were.\n\nThere is a world of experiences out here. Not everyone works, even if it 90% works. The difference between 90% and 100% is incomprehensible.\n\nI'm smitten. I've been smitten for 2.5 years. I can't see how this goes away at the age we are. We're blessed to have fallen into this. We must have done something right, or we experienced enough heartache to finally succeed.",
      "body_zh": "她在一次多日旅行中遇到了一位男性朋友，并开始质疑我们的关系。他们从来没有做过任何事。那年夏天晚些时候，她想和他一起度过一个星期。我显然对此不以为然。\n\n我们一直在进行夫妻咨询，但她不想参与。她说我结束了，但事实是我结束了，因为她拒绝说话。经过 10 个小时的夫妻咨询，她只是哭着说“我不能说话”，你开始真正质疑这个人的参与程度。我知道这很情绪化，但你最终必须参与其中。\n\n长达14年的关系就此结束。我约会过，经历过一些好的和坏的经历，但现在和我在一起的女人超出了我的想象。这种疯狂的联系已经持续了 2.5 年。我无法想象我的生活中没有这个人。我感受到了以前从未感受过的生活。实在是太震撼了。想象一下，在约会应用程序上随意聊天后，从第一次约会开始，你们的关系生活第一次变得有意义。想象一下，在你经历过的最感性的吻之后，让约会对象陶醉其中。我们离开时都在想，“他们永远不会喜欢我，他们比我性感得多”，并合理地认为这个人和他们一样性感。\n\n这里有一个充满体验的世界。不是每个人都能工作，即使 90% 都有效。 90%和100%之间的差别是无法理解的。\n\n我被迷住了。我已经迷恋2.5年了。我不明白在我们这个年纪这种情况会如何消失。我们很庆幸自己陷入了这样的境地。我们一定做了正确的事情，否则我们经历了足够的心痛才最终成功。"
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    {
      "id": "oyko70i",
      "author": "Childe_Rowland",
      "created_utc": 1784503527,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyko70i/",
      "score": null,
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      "body_en": "I spat on him. \n\nAt that point, it was years’ long worth of fights, anger, and fear. I was scared of him because he threw shit, screamed, punched himself and walls, and finally sexually assaulted me. He was scared of me because I was pissed and aggressive that he did it to me and felt no remorse. \n\nIt was around early 2020, right as people were starting to get Covid. No one could get a test unless they were wealthy. I knew I was sick: losing hair, winded from climbing our only stairs at home, feverish and exhausted. \n\nHowever, since I couldn’t get a test, he never believed me. Unless he could verify it with the internet or another man, my word was worth shit to him. \n\nOne night I held out a clump of my hair I just pulled from my head to show him, crying. \n\nHe said he had to check online first. \n\nI had it. I hocked a big, fat loogie right on his lap. He was disgusted and enraged. Yelled at me. Said we were done. \n\nI pleaded with him then, but it was for the best. He finally started to believe me after a hard-won colonoscopy (another crazy story itself), and it turned out I had stage III colon cancer. I had been losing blood, 20 pounds of weight, and my sanity for months, years. \n\nAnd he didn’t believe any of it until the doctor told him. It was at that point that I knew (and told him later) that if I had stayed any longer with him, I’d been dead within the year. \n\nNow I’m in remission (daresay cured), married to a man who values my life and my word. We’re planning for a baby via IVF. \n\nMost of all, I’m alive.",
      "body_zh": "我向他吐口水。 \n\n那时，这是长达数年的争斗、愤怒和恐惧。我很害怕他，因为他扔屎、尖叫、殴打自己和墙壁，最后对我进行了性侵犯。他害怕我，因为我对他对我做的事情感到愤怒和攻击性，并且没有感到悔恨。 \n\n那是在 2020 年初左右，人们开始感染新冠病毒。除非有钱，否则没有人能参加考试。我知道我病了：脱发、爬家里唯一的楼梯而气喘吁吁、发烧且疲惫不堪。 \n\n然而，由于我无法进行测试，他一直不相信我。除非他能通过互联网或其他人验证，否则我的话对他来说一文不值。 \n\n一天晚上，我哭着把刚从头上拔下来的一束头发拿给他看。 \n\n他说他得先上网查一下。 \n\n我有它。我把一个又大又胖的家伙放在他的腿上。他感到厌恶和愤怒。对我大喊大叫。说我们已经完成了。 \n\n我当时恳求他，但这是最好的。在一次来之不易的结肠镜检查（这本身就是另一个疯狂的故事）之后，他终于开始相信我，结果证明我患有第三期结肠癌。几个月、几年来，我一直在失血，体重减轻了 20 磅，理智也不断下降。 \n\n直到医生告诉他，他才相信这一切。就在那时，我知道（后来告诉他）如果我再和他呆在一起，我一年之内就会死。 \n\n现在我的病情得到了缓解（大胆治愈），嫁给了一个重视我的生命和诺言的男人。我们正在计划通过试管受精（IVF）生孩子。 \n\n最重要的是，我还活着。"
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    {
      "id": "oym7rj5",
      "author": "Tanerian",
      "created_utc": 1784524079,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym7rj5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "No final straw, no argument or big fight.\nHad a wonderful 18year marriage. Good partner, financially responsible, amazing mother, good wife, all around great person.\n\nWe just were very different when it came to habits, what we did for fun, and were very different people sexually. \n\nWe kinda hit a point when we realized we only did things together if our kid was involved. Otherwise we didn't have hobbies in common anymore. We were down to having sex like once every month or so.\n\nWe had conversations about it, even considered couples therapy, but after another chat we both agreed the therapy wouldnt do anything as we were already good at being open and honest with each other, and having deep conversations.\n\nRelationship ended with some bittersweet tears, us hugging and laughing with one another about how amicably it had just ended.\n\nWe are still amazing co-parents and friends. I don't feel any different about her than I ever did. Absolutely love that woman till the end of time, but sometimes love alone isn't enough.\n\nNow we are each dating new people, and are both cool/get along with each other's new partners.\n\nNew partners occasionally feel insecure about things tho! Not that I and the ex wife every hang out alone, but we still get on very well which can be intimidating for a lot of people.\n\nIts been 3 years since the split and everything is going well!\n\nHopefully this can add some positivity to the thread or mostly horror stories =p",
      "body_zh": "没有最后一根稻草，没有争论或大争吵。\n拥有一段美好的18年婚姻。好伴侣，有经济责任感，了不起的母亲，好妻子，周围都是伟大的人。\n\n我们只是在习惯、娱乐方式以及性方面截然不同。 \n\n当我们意识到只有孩子参与时我们才会一起做事情时，我们就达到了一个临界点。否则我们就没有共同爱好了。我们大约每月做一次爱。\n\n我们对此进行了交谈，甚至考虑过夫妻疗法，但在另一次交谈之后，我们都同意这种疗法不会起任何作用，因为我们已经擅长彼此开放和诚实，并进行深入的对话。\n\n这段关系以苦乐参半的泪水结束，我们互相拥抱、大笑，说这段关系刚刚结束是多么友好。\n\n我们仍然是很棒的共同父母和朋友。我对她的感觉和以前没有什么不同。绝对爱那个女人直到时间的尽头，但有时光有爱是不够的。\n\n现在我们都在和新朋友约会，并且与彼此的新伴侣相处得很酷。\n\n新伙伴有时会对一些事情感到不安全！我和前妻并不是每次都单独出去玩，但我们仍然相处得很好，这对很多人来说可能是令人生畏的。\n\n分手已经3年了，一切都很顺利！\n\n希望这可以为线程或主要是恐怖故事添加一些积极性=p"
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    {
      "id": "oyk8h8z",
      "author": "Hi2Czarny",
      "created_utc": 1784499152,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk8h8z/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not my story but back in Poland, my uncle married this woman back in 1997, they moved to France for work but she divorced him 2 years later in 1999 because she complained that my uncle spent too much time working late rather than helping her out at home with cleaning. She also then dropped that she in fact didn't want kids as kids were too messy and long story short, all she really wanted was a nice tidy apartment or house of her own.\n\nMy uncle then moved back to Poland, started dating again, remarried in 2004, had a daughter together, his new wife died in 2020 due to COVID, their daughter moved abroad to Boston for university in 2022 and he now lives by himself in an apartment in Warsaw. He's not lonely though as he does have friends and relatives he spends time with, but also enjoys just doing things himself.\n\nHowever, 3 years ago in 2023, my uncle's ex wife messaged him, saying she found him on Instagram, and DM'd him.\n\nShe told him of how she now owns a house in Poznan (she also moved back to Poland apparently), how she likes how her home iz neat and tidy but also that she's alone, never remarried as every guy she dated since wasn't good enough for her and she wanted to know if my uncle would be willing to try again now that he's single. She also said something along the lines of being jealous of my uncle's deceased wife as she stole the life she (the ex who divorced him) wished she had.",
      "body_zh": "这不是我的故事，而是在波兰，我叔叔于 1997 年与这个女人结婚，他们搬到法国工作，但两年后她在 1999 年与他离婚，因为她抱怨我叔叔花了太多时间工作到很晚，而不是帮她打扫卫生。然后她还表示，她实际上不想要孩子，因为孩子太乱了，长话短说，她真正想要的是一套漂亮整洁的公寓或自己的房子。\n\n然后我叔叔搬回波兰，再次开始约会，于 2004 年再婚，育有一个女儿，他的新婚妻子于 2020 年因新冠肺炎去世，他们的女儿于 2022 年移居国外波士顿上大学，现在他独自住在华沙的一套公寓里。他并不孤独，因为他有朋友和亲戚一起度过，而且他也喜欢自己做事。\n\n然而，三年前的 2023 年，我叔叔的前妻给他发消息，说她在 Instagram 上找到了他，并私信了他。\n\n她告诉他，她现在在波兹南拥有一所房子（显然她也搬回了波兰），她多么喜欢她的家干净整洁，而且她很孤独，从未再婚，因为从那以后她约会的每个男人都对她来说不够好，她想知道我叔叔是否愿意再次尝试，因为他是单身。她还说了一些类似嫉妒我叔叔已故妻子的话，因为她偷走了她（与他离婚的前任）希望拥有的生活。"
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    {
      "id": "oylavlk",
      "author": "MercuryMadness",
      "created_utc": 1784511065,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylavlk/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There was a long line of mistreatment but the nail in the coffin was sex.\n\n---\n\nWhen we met I was thinking I might be asexual so I was very open about it with him and he was pretty accepting. \n\nNine YEARS later and it was only getting worse for me. I asked him for space/time around sex, because having to \"compromise\" was starting to hurt me psychologically (we were typically intimate twice a month). \n\nUnderstandably he wasn't happy, so I offered to open things up on his side or separate to let him free, but he declined. He said he wanted me as a person more than he needed sexual intimacy and he would give me space.\n\nIn the week that followed he forced himself on me three separate times. On the third occasion I explicitly and firmly asked him to stop a few times and he ignored me. The next day I asked if heard me tell him to stop, kind of hoping maybe he didn't... but he just said \"I'm not deaf\" and walked away. \n\nThat was the final straw. It was hard because I still loved him, but I love our kids more and I refuse to show them toxicity is acceptable.\n\nIt's been eight months since then and I don't regret it. He makes no effort to see our three kids and has basically cut all contact, but I guess that's his loss. Our six year old already wants to change her name (I have told her she's too young to decide just yet) because she's so hurt. He knows and doesn't care 🤷‍♀️",
      "body_zh": "虐待的情况有一长串，但棺材上的钉子是性。\n\n---\n\n当我们见面时，我在想我可能是无性恋，所以我对他非常开放，他也很接受。 \n\n九年后，我的情况变得越来越糟。我问他在性方面有空间/时间，因为必须“妥协”开始在心理上伤害我（我们通常每月亲密两次）。 \n\n可以理解的是，他不高兴，所以我提出向他这边敞开心扉，或者分开，让他自由，但他拒绝了。他说他想要我这个人胜过他需要性亲密，他会给我空间。\n\n在接下来的一周里，他三次强迫我接受。第三次，我几次明确而坚决地要求他停下来，他都不理我。第二天，我问是否听到我叫他停下来，希望他没有……但他只是说“我没聋”就走开了。 \n\n那是最后一根稻草。这很难，因为我仍然爱他，但我更爱我们的孩子，我拒绝向他们表明毒性是可以接受的。\n\n从那时起已经过去了八个月，我并不后悔。他没有努力去看我们的三个孩子，基本上已经切断了所有联系，但我想这是他的损失。我们六岁的孩子已经想改名了（我告诉她她还太小，还不能决定），因为她很受伤。他知道但不在乎🤷‍♀️"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykkhp4",
      "author": "echoshatter",
      "created_utc": 1784502423,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykkhp4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Was with someone for 7 years, lived together for 5, had two dogs together. Not married but on the path.\n\nIt was the lack of contributing to the household.\n\nI paid for 100% of the bills. At first it was because she was still in school and not making much money, and I was like \"It's cool, I can take care of us.\" And then she finally got her job after college and ask if she could build up her savings. Like an idiot I agreed. But when her car finally kicked the bucket and she needed a new one, it was revealed she had maybe $1,000 to her name. She was blowing all her money on things like Starbucks and makeup. I also discovered she just wasn't taking care of things. She had unpaid parking tickets, failed to register her car, bills going to collections, etc. etc.\n\nI did 90% of the chores. This one always bugged me and it got worse and worse over time. She'd make spurts of effort when I called her out at first, but eventually she just wasn't really doing anything. And any time the dogs needed to go to the vet, it was me and my wallet.\n\nIn short, she was a deadbeat. And I was depressed for years but managed to take care of myself and her and our home and the dogs.....\n\nThe final strike was discovering she was cheating.\n\nFellas, let this be a lesson for you: if your girlfriend is a deadbeat, move on.",
      "body_zh": "和某人在一起7年，同居5年，养了两只狗。没有结婚，但是已经在路上了。\n\n这是缺乏对家庭的贡献。\n\n我支付了100%的账单。起初是因为她还在上学，赚的钱不多，我就想“这很酷，我可以照顾我们。”然后她终于在大学毕业后找到了工作，并询问她是否可以积累积蓄。我像个白痴一样同意了。但当她的车最终报废而她需要一辆新车时，据透露，她名下可能有 1,000 美元。她把所有的钱都花在了星巴克和化妆品上。我还发现她根本不关心事情。她有未付的停车罚单、未能登记她的汽车、账单被催收等等。\n\n90%的家务事都是我做的。这个问题一直困扰着我，而且随着时间的推移，情况变得越来越糟。当我一开始叫她出去时，她会做出很大的努力，但最终她什么也没做。每当狗需要去看兽医时，都是我和我的钱包。\n\n简而言之，她是个赖账者。我沮丧了很多年，但还是设法照顾自己、她、我们的家和狗......\n\n最后的打击是发现她作弊。\n\n伙计们，让这成为你的一个教训：如果你的女朋友是个赖账的人，那就继续吧。"
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    {
      "id": "oylgro2",
      "author": "William_S_Burros",
      "created_utc": 1784513165,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylgro2/",
      "score": null,
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      "body_en": "At its core, BPD involves unstable relationships (especially intimate relationships) stemming from a fear of abandonment.\n\nIn addition to relationship instability and fear of abandonment, the other diagnostic criteria include unstable self-image, impulsivity, self harm and/or suicidal ideation, emotion dysregulation, anger/rage issues, chronic feelings of emptiness, and periodic paranoia and/or dissociation. At least five of these nine criteria must be met for a clinical diagnosis.\n\nIt’s worth noting that these symptoms can be especially difficult to discern, especially in your own partner. So if you truly suspect your wife has it I highly recommend spending some time on r/bpdlovedones to understand how these symptoms manifest in actual behavior to see if it resonates with your experience.\n\nIt’s one of the most treatable personality disorders but it requires years of therapy (usually Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and often Rx to reduce symptom severity. Unfortunately, the nature of the disorder often prevents those who have it from seeking treatment. Moreover, most therapists are ill-equipped to properly treat it, unless it’s their area of specialty, and the American Psychological Association recommends those who are treating them to undergo their own concurrent therapy.",
      "body_zh": "从本质上讲，边缘性人格障碍涉及因害怕被遗弃而产生的不稳定关系（尤其是亲密关系）。\n\n除了关系不稳定和害怕被遗弃之外，其他诊断标准还包括自我形象不稳定、冲动、自残和/或自杀意念、情绪失调、愤怒/愤怒问题、慢性空虚感以及周期性偏执和/或分离。临床诊断必须满足这九个标准中的至少五个。\n\n值得注意的是，这些症状可能特别难以辨别，尤其是在您自己的伴侣身上。因此，如果您确实怀疑您的妻子患有这种疾病，我强烈建议您花一些时间在 r/bpdlovedones 上，了解这些症状在实际行为中的表现，看看它是否与您的经历产生共鸣。\n\n它是最容易治疗的人格障碍之一，但需要多年的治疗（通常是辩证行为疗法），并且通常需要接受治疗来减轻症状的严重程度。不幸的是，这种疾病的性质常常阻碍患者寻求治疗。此外，大多数治疗师都没有足够的能力来正确治疗它，除非这是他们的专业领域，美国心理学协会建议那些正在治疗他们的人接受自己的同步治疗。"
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      "id": "oylxrtg",
      "author": "TreasureChestOfSocks",
      "created_utc": 1784519690,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylxrtg/",
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      "body_en": "Oh - and my SIL got divorced because her husband converted to Islam. Like *REALLY* converted. He had very strict expectations on how she was going to live, dress, and behave, and he said that it didn’t matter if she converted to Islam herself or not (although obviously, in his opinion, she absolutely should). As his wife, she had to follow his determinations. Neither their son nor their daughters want anything to do with him now. Wonder why. \n\nOne thing she said that really stood out to me was how scarily calm he became. Before he was a gregarious, happy guy. He was your typical loud Midwesterner. He’d get angry sometimes but he was never violent - he certainly showed his emotions, though. Now he was always speaking in a soft voice, eerily “at peace” while he’d lay out exactly how she was meant to behave and why she needed to behave that way. And there was never any “normal”explanation for it. No head injury or tumor anyone could find or knew about. She thinks it’s because he started a job where he was the only American-born guy there, the place was otherwise run by a religious Pakistani family and they’d talk about religion a lot (we assume), but he won’t confirm or deny that as he got very distant from her and from everyone else around that time.",
      "body_zh": "哦 - 我的 SIL 离婚了，因为她的丈夫皈依了伊斯兰教。就像*真的*转换一样。他对她的生活、穿着和行为有着非常严格的期望，他说她自己是否皈依伊斯兰教并不重要（尽管显然，在他看来，她绝对应该这样做）。作为他的妻子，她必须遵从他的决定。他们的儿子和女儿现在都不想和他有任何关系。想知道为什么。 \n\n她说的让我印象深刻的一件事是他变得多么平静。以前他是一个合群、快乐的人。他是典型的吵闹的中西部人。他有时会生气，但他从不暴力——不过他确实表现出了自己的情绪。现在，他总是用轻柔的声音说话，出奇地“平静”，同时他会准确地阐述她应该如何表现以及为什么她需要那样表现。对此从来没有任何“正常”的解释。没有任何人能发现或知道的头部受伤或肿瘤。她认为这是因为他开始工作时，他是那里唯一在美国出生的人，这个地方原本是由一个有宗教信仰的巴基斯坦家庭经营的，他们会经常谈论宗教（我们假设），但他不会证实或否认这一点，因为他与她和当时的其他人都非常疏远。"
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      "author": "Ok_Description6786",
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      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym4e6y/",
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      "body_en": "He was usually verbally abusive but what broke the camels back was after he was mad at me for speaking out to someone about my struggles despite calling me names and blaming me for going through bullying at work. So he had blocked me everywhere for the umpteenth time. \n\nI found a way to contact him on his birthday despite everything and he cursed me out accusing me of being responsible for his failures in life (he had failed one of masters exams twice by then), and other terrible things I don’t want to say. I wasn’t. We didn’t even live in the same country at the time and he wasn’t taking any financial or other responsibility for me. I even paid his school fees. Said he didn’t love me and would never be with someone like me. Men like him stay with people like me because of kids (we didn’t have any kids yet). He also said if I liked to call myself wife or let his family convince me I was still with him, he would probably get along with it but he will be with other people and it would be my problem. Atleast polygamy was allowed in our culture and religion. \n\nI stopped making excuses that he did that only when he was mad or perhaps he was going through a hard time. He said the things he said because that’s how he really felt and he meant them.",
      "body_zh": "他通常会辱骂我，但真正让我崩溃的是，他对我向某人说出我的挣扎感到愤怒，尽管他辱骂我并指责我在工作中遭受欺凌。所以他已经无数次到处阻止我了。 \n\n尽管发生了一切，我还是在他生日那天找到了联系他的方法，他咒骂了我，指责我对他生活中的失败负责（当时他已经两次没有通过硕士考试），以及其他我不想说的可怕事情。我不是。当时我们甚至不住在同一个国家，他没有为我承担任何经济或其他责任。我什至还付了他的学费。说他不爱我，永远不会和我这样的人在一起。像他这样的男人因为孩子而和我这样的人呆在一起（我们还没有孩子）。他还说，如果我喜欢称自己为妻子，或者让他的家人说服我，我仍然和他在一起，他可能会同意，但他会和其他人在一起，这将是我的问题。至少我们的文化和宗教允许一夫多妻制。 \n\n我不再找借口说他只有在生气或者正在经历困难的时候才会这么做。他说这些话是因为这就是他的真实感受，也是他的真心话。"
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    {
      "id": "oymcpvh",
      "author": "Calm_Buddy_1369",
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      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymcpvh/",
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      "body_en": "I spent years on suicide watch for her. She was constantly saying how she just wanted to die, didn't have anything to live for, but, since she'd already been committed twice before, said she knew the system and would just get out if I had her committed again. She was going to therapy, but mainly to just get so much xanax and other meds she was just a zonked out zombie. Didn't work anymore, kept cutting more and more of our friends out of our life. I was cooking, cleaning, working, paying bills and caring for her elderly mother that lived with us as well. Kids had graduated high school and were starting to work, and she was always after their money, opened a credit card in our youngest's SSN. \n\nThe loneliest I have felt in my life was sitting on the couch next to my wife of 25 years while she was just scrolling facebook with ear buds in, shut off from anything outside her tiny screen. \n\nI left almost 2 years ago, divorce is done except for the paperwork. Magically, even thought she \"couldn't live without me\" she's managed to get a disability judgement in her favor and is now making more money that she has in the last 10 years, but still not enough to help with any bills.\n\nI'm looking forward to the day I forget her name.",
      "body_zh": "我花了很多年的时间来观察她的自杀情况。她不断地说她只是想死，没有什么可以活下去的，但是，由于她之前已经被犯过两次，她说她知道这个制度，如果我再让她犯，她就会离开。她要去接受治疗，但主要是为了得到这么多的阿普唑仑和其他药物，她只是一个昏昏欲睡的僵尸。不再工作了，越来越多的朋友从我们的生活中消失了。我做饭、打扫卫生、工作、支付账单并照顾她也和我们住在一起的年迈母亲。孩子们已经高中毕业并开始工作，她总是在追求他们的钱，在我们最小的孩子的社会安全号码上开了一张信用卡。 \n\n我一生中感到最孤独的时候是坐在沙发上，旁边是我结婚 25 年的妻子，而她只是戴着耳塞在 Facebook 上滚动，与她小屏幕之外的任何东西都隔绝了。 \n\n我差不多两年前离开了，除了文书工作外，离婚已经完成。神奇的是，即使她认为“没有我就活不下去”，她还是成功地获得了对她有利的残疾判决，现在赚的钱比过去十年多，但仍然不足以支付任何账单。\n\n我期待着忘记她名字的那一天。"
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    {
      "id": "oylq1b9",
      "author": "molly_lollyy",
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      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylq1b9/",
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      "body_en": "There were alot of reasons but the main one was I had to fight him tooth and nail to get him to help me clean the house he also lived in. \n\nOne weekend, we had some stuff going on friday and Saturday, so I asked if on sunday morning we could just spend 2 hours cleaning and then I wouldn't ask him to do anything the rest of the week. He agrees. Cut to Sunday, he sleeps until 2pm and when I wake him up saying he agreed to help me clean he looked me dead in the eyes and said \"i only agreed to it then bc I knew you would argue if I said no. I wasn't going to clean on my day off\" even though he didn't clean any day of the week.\n\nI calmly told him to forget it, dont worry about cleaning and that I wanted to be left alone for awhile and I would come out of the room when I was ready, he constantly came in the room to ask me some trivial shit that really wasnt important. It made me feel like a mother to a grown ass man. \n\nI left 4 months later, took some time for me to gather the courage to leave but looking back that was the moment that really made me feel like the marriage wasn't working no matter how hard I had tried.\n\nMy life got infinitely better once I left and I havent regretted it for one second.",
      "body_zh": "原因有很多，但最主要的是我必须竭尽全力地与他斗争才能让他帮我打扫他也住的房子。 \n\n一个周末，我们周五和周六有一些事情要做，所以我问周日早上我们是否可以只花 2 个小时打扫卫生，然后我就不会要求他在本周剩下的时间里做任何事情。他同意。镜头切换到周日，他睡到下午 2 点，当我叫醒他，说他同意帮我打扫卫生时，他死死地看着我的眼睛，说：“我才同意，因为我知道如果我说不，你会争论的。我不会在休息日打扫卫生”，尽管他一周中的任何一天都没有打扫卫生。\n\n我平静地告诉他算了，别担心打扫卫生，我想一个人呆一会儿，等我准备好了就从房间里出来，他不断地进房间问我一些不重要的鸡毛蒜皮的问题。这让我感觉自己就像一个成年男子的母亲。 \n\n4个月后我离开了，花了一些时间才鼓起勇气离开，但回想起来，那一刻真的让我觉得无论我多么努力，婚姻都行不通。\n\n我离开后，我的生活变得无限美好，我一秒钟都没有后悔过。"
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    {
      "id": "oyk38qr",
      "author": "ive_been_here_b4",
      "created_utc": 1784497758,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk38qr/",
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      "body_en": "When I was WFH I didn't mind it so much. But then I went back to the office and I'd come home (she didn't work) and I'd have to cook 95% of the time instead of 100%. She'd only make frozen meals while I cooked whole meals. The kids still complain that she never cooks. I'd clean up the kitchen, the living room and play room every night, I'd bathe all the kids and do the whole nighttime routine and put 2 out of the 3 to bed, while she talked to her sister and relaxed in the bedroom. I respect that raising the kids is a lot and I'd want her to relax, but she mostly let them play on electronics, she'd never take them outside, and most days she'd let her mom feed them lunch. Every weekend I'd take them out to do fun things, while she stayed home cleaning and mostly relaxing. She ended up working, cleaning houses with her mom twice a week and making enough for her spending and paying the HOA. I took over 12k in her debt. I paid every mortgage payment for 11 years and pretty much every utility bill. It all built up too much resentment. There was no talking to her about it, because that was just me criticizing her. I finally decided to tell her I want a divorce bc I'm going to transition.",
      "body_zh": "当我在家办公时，我并不太介意。但后来我回到办公室，回到家（她不工作），我必须 95% 的时间而不是 100% 的时间做饭。她只做冷冻食品，而我则做全餐。孩子们仍然抱怨她从不做饭。我每天晚上都会打扫厨房、客厅和游戏室，给所有的孩子洗澡，完成整个夜间例行公事，并让三个孩子中的两个上床睡觉，而她则和姐姐聊天，在卧室里放松。我尊重抚养孩子的繁重，我希望她放松，但她主要让他们玩电子产品，她从不带他们出去，大多数时候她会让她妈妈给他们喂午餐。每个周末我都会带他们出去做有趣的事情，而她则留在家里打扫卫生，大部分时间都在放松。她最终开始工作，每周和妈妈一起打扫两次房子，赚的钱足以支付她的开支和缴纳社区管理费。我接手了她12k多的债务。我支付了 11 年来的所有抵押贷款和几乎所有水电费。这一切都积累了太多的怨恨。我没有和她谈论这件事，因为那只是我批评她。我最终决定告诉她我想离婚，因为我要变性。"
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      "id": "oylwgxx",
      "author": "Dead_Pockett",
      "created_utc": 1784519145,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylwgxx/",
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      "body_en": "I lost my new job after a move, it wasn’t the right fit but the training was poor and the role changed wildly so I wasn’t disappointed, my disabilities really began to flare from stress and my depression levels increased. After months of not being able to get a job and arguing, we were getting into it one day when I was sick in the bathroom and she wouldn’t let me suffer in peace and just kept berating me, sh took her rings off and threw them at me saying she hated me. After that I spiraled and fell back into heavy isolation and suicidal ideation. After an impromptu trip home to see my father and get some space, I was greeted by so much anger and resentment. I tried to kill myself the night I got home after a panic attack (and a medication ment to help deal with them, that was new and contraindicated for me, so it spiraled me into an even greater pain and suffering state.) she did catch me taking the pills and brought me to the VA hospital (150 days of in patient residential therapy at a nice va facility in my state and I came out with the clarity and confidence to get out of there and start a new life. That was 4 years ago now and I'm doing much better and am much happier.",
      "body_zh": "搬家后我失去了新工作，它不合适，但培训很差，而且角色发生了巨大的变化，所以我并没有失望，我的残疾真的开始因压力而加剧，我的抑郁程度也增加了。经过几个月找不到工作和争吵后，有一天我在浴室里生病了，我们陷入了困境，她不让我安静地受苦，只是不停地斥责我，她摘下戒指扔给我，说她恨我。从那以后，我的情绪不断恶化，又陷入了严重的孤立和自杀念头之中。在临时回家看望父亲并获得一些空间后，我受到了如此多的愤怒和怨恨。恐慌发作后，我回到家的那天晚上，我试图自杀（并服用药物来帮助应对这些症状，这对我来说是新的和禁忌的，所以它让我陷入了更加痛苦和痛苦的状态。）她确实发现我在服用药物，并带我去了退伍军人管理局医院（在我所在州一个不错的退伍军人管理局设施中接受了 150 天的住院治疗，我带着清晰和自信离开那里并开始新的生活。那是 4 年前的事了，我做得更好，也更快乐。"
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    {
      "id": "oykg177",
      "author": "Humble-Grumble",
      "created_utc": 1784501151,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykg177/",
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      "body_en": "We'd been in marriage counseling for a while, all to address his complaints about me. He went on a week long work trip and I found myself truly at ease. He did this trip every year, so I knew it wasn't the same \"woohoo, I can do whatever I want, but I miss him,\" feel of previous years. I was genuinely relieved to not have to answer to him, not have to cook for him or clean up after him, not be beholden to the schedule he wanted to set, not have to explain why I wanted to hobby at night, or why I wanted to work out or walk the dog, I was able to just exist and take care of me. When he got back, I mentioned this in therapy and how I felt the workload wasn't evenly distributed. He had a meltdown and insisted that my issues weren't as important as his because I wasn't threatening to end the marriage like he was, so we needed to not focus on it and get back to his complaints. The following week, I told him that I was willing to grant him the divorce he kept threatening and he was shocked. We got along fine and were great friends, but we had different ideas of what marriage looked like that made us incompatible. It just took us a while to realize it.",
      "body_zh": "我们进行婚姻咨询已经有一段时间了，都是为了解决他对我的抱怨。他进行了为期一周的工作旅行，我发现自己真正放松了。他每年都会进行这次旅行，所以我知道这与前几年“哇哦，我可以做任何我想做的事情，但我想念他”的感觉不同。我真的很欣慰，因为我不必回答他，不必为他做饭或在他身后打扫卫生，不必受制于他想要设定的时间表，不必解释为什么我想在晚上有爱好，或者为什么我想锻炼或遛狗，我可以存在并照顾我。当他回来时，我在治疗中提到了这一点，以及我觉得工作量分布不均匀。他崩溃了，坚持认为我的问题没有他的那么重要，因为我没有像他那样威胁要结束婚姻，所以我们不需要关注它并回到他的抱怨上。接下来的一周，我告诉他我愿意同意他一直威胁的离婚，他很震惊。我们相处得很好，是好朋友，但我们对婚姻的看法不同，这使我们不相容。我们只是花了一段时间才意识到这一点。"
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    {
      "id": "oylf7al",
      "author": "_kishin_",
      "created_utc": 1784512602,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylf7al/",
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      "body_en": "Despite being in counseling both individually and together, she's a perfectionist who always puts me down. She never sees my side of any given topic. She has a burning desire to be right about everything. She's outright MEAN. It's always her way or the highway. If she did something like dropped food on the floor and the dog ate it, it's not her fault for dropping it, it's my fault for not getting the dog to not eat it. Or saying too many words to the dog so he won't eat it. \n\nWe stopped having sex regularly about 15 years ago. Now it's every 2 or so years. Even when we do it, she treats it like a chore. She wont' even kiss me during sex. No foreplay. None.\n\n During normal daily life, I can't kiss her or hug her, I have to ask and then I only get a cheek for a kiss and I hug her, she won't hug me back. Her hands are always down to her sides. I have ADHD and take rejection poorly so I always thought I was over reacting. I also sometimes feel she's gaslighting me. But I'm so turned around I can't kow for sure.\n\nTo answer your questions (probably) We've been married 26 years and I've never cheated. We have two grown adult children.",
      "body_zh": "尽管无论是单独还是集体咨询，她都是一个完美主义者，总是让我失望。对于任何特定话题，她都看不到我的立场。她有着强烈的愿望，希望一切事情都是正确的。她是彻头彻尾的刻薄。这总是她的方式或高速公路。如果她做了一些事情，比如把食物掉在地板上，而狗吃了它，那么掉食物不是她的错，而是我没有让狗不吃它的错。或者对狗说太多的话，所以他不吃它。 \n\n大约 15 年前我们就不再定期做爱了。现在是每两年左右一次。即使我们这样做，她也把它当作一件苦差事。她甚至不会在做爱时亲吻我。没有前戏。没有任何。\n\n 在正常的日常生活中，我不能亲她或拥抱她，我必须要求，然后我只得到一个脸颊的亲吻，我拥抱她，她不会拥抱我。她的双手总是垂在身体两侧。我患有多动症，对拒绝的接受能力很差，所以我一直认为自己反应过度。有时我也觉得她在给我加油。但我已经转过身来，无法确定。\n\n回答你的问题（可能）我们结婚 26 年了，我从未出轨过。我们有两个已经成年的孩子。"
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      "author": "Such_Work_5506",
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      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykmq2j/",
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      "body_en": "I’m not getting a divorce but my mother is; there was more so of a build up of narcissistic events from her ex husband but there was a final moment that pushed her to come to her senses. \n\nIt was his birthday, and they were in the car, on the way to go out for dinner. He asks my mom to use his phone to pull up the GPS system for the restaurant they were headed to. While reaching for his phone, his hands get stuck because the seatbelt was locking and it was difficult to move his hand in his pockets because there was a toght squeeze. Here comes the outburst. Like a toddler, he starts yelling out loud: “Why can’t you use your phone?!?”, “This is so stupid.” To which she replies: “Why are you yelling?” It eventually gets out of hand and he decides to turn the car around because he believes she is “inconsiderate” and does not care about his birthday. \nA few weeks later she tells this to her therapist among many other issues, to which he replies “It seems like he views you as someone who isn’t a person, but simply just a wife.” \n\nand that, was her final straw. We are now living somewhere new, and we have left him a note. the end!",
      "body_zh": "我不会离婚，但我妈妈会离婚；更重要的是，她的前夫不断积累自恋事件，但最后一刻促使她清醒过来。 \n\n那天是他的生日，他们在车里，准备出去吃晚饭。他让我妈妈用他的手机打开他们要去的餐厅的 GPS 系统。当他伸手去拿手机时，他的手被卡住了，因为安全带被锁住了，而且他的手插在口袋里也很紧，很难移动。爆发来了。就像一个小孩一样，他开始大声喊叫：“你为什么不能使用你的手机？！？”，“这太愚蠢了。”她回答道：“你为什么大喊大叫？”最终事情失去了控制，他决定把车掉头，因为他认为她“不体贴”并且不关心他的生日。 \n几周后，她向她的治疗师讲述了这一点以及其他许多问题，他回答说：“看来他认为你不是一个人，而只是一个妻子。” \n\n那，是她的最后一根稻草。我们现在搬到了新的地方，我们给他留了一张纸条。结束了！"
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    {
      "id": "oylk8ep",
      "author": "Little_Exam_2342",
      "created_utc": 1784514407,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylk8ep/",
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      "body_en": "I was barely 20 and in college. He was 25. We’d been together since I was 15. (You can do the math and figure out that this was doomed from the start lol)\n\nI was in college full time. He was playing World of Warcraft and smoking weed. \n\nWe had a 6ish month old baby.\n\nI came home at like 7pm after being in classes since 8am and our daughter is next to him in her bouncer SCREAMING absolute bloody murder. I rush over to her and pick her up. Before I could even touch her I could tell she was HOT to the touch.\n\nI run to take her temperature. I ask him how long she’s been like this. He doesn’t even look up from his computer and says “like what?” Thermometers goes off. 105F. \n\nI grabbed my daughter and left to call her doctor. Spent all night in the ER. (She ended up fine!)\n\nFiled for divorce shortly after. \n\nTook me years to realize how he’d groomed me and abused me for years. But I got there eventually. \n\nMy daughter is 16 now and doing great. I just bought a house a couple months ago and I’m getting remarried to an amazing guy next weekend.\n\nDivorcing that POS manbaby was the best decision I ever made.",
      "body_zh": "我当时才20岁，正在上大学。他当时 25 岁。我们从我 15 岁就在一起了。（你可以算一算，发现这从一开始就注定了，哈哈）\n\n我当时是全日制大学。他一边玩魔兽世界，一边吸大麻。 \n\n我们有一个 6 个月大的婴儿。\n\n我从早上 8 点开始上课，晚上 7 点左右回到家，我们的女儿就在他旁边，她的保镖尖叫着绝对血腥的谋杀。我冲过去抱起她。在我触摸她之前，我就知道她摸起来很热。\n\n我跑去给她量体温。我问他这样有多久了。他甚至没有从电脑上抬起头来，问道：“比如什么？”温度计熄灭。 105F。 \n\n我抱起女儿就去给她的医生打电话。在急诊室度过了一夜。 （她结局很好！）\n\n不久后提出离婚。 \n\n我花了很多年才意识到他多年来是如何培养我并虐待我的。但我最终还是到达了那里。 \n\n我女儿现在16岁了，过得很好。几个月前我刚买了一套房子，下周末我就要和一个很棒的男人再婚了。\n\n与那个 POS manbaby 离婚是我做过的最好的决定。"
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    {
      "id": "oyksf7t",
      "author": "UnlikelyRegret4",
      "created_utc": 1784504844,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyksf7t/",
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      "body_en": "In 2005 I was running a church youth organization while my (now ex) husband was the worship leader. The head pastor had \"a revelation from god\" that women should not be in any leadership position. He told me I was to finish my job that day and then let a man take over. I left without completing anything, and refrained from flipping him off on the way out the door. Told my (ex) husband what had happened, and he said, \"we need to trust the pastor's vision.\" It was the final straw of being marginalized, objectified and used as free labor for a faith I no longer could say I believed in as I had not seen any evidence it made those assholes better people. I worked up the courage to tell him I wanted a divorce, and he threatened to shoot my son and me with one of his eight guns if we left. Yeah, I'd say that was the last straw. I put trigger locks on while he was at work and ran out of there with our son. \n\nI raised our son on my own, got a good job, bought a home for us, put my kid through college. He is an atheist and I am agnostic. It's been a great fit for both of us. Life got so much better!",
      "body_zh": "2005 年，我经营着一个教会青年组织，而我（现在的前任）丈夫是崇拜领袖。首席牧师有“来自上帝的启示”，即女性不应该担任任何领导职务。他告诉我那天要完成我的工作，然后让一个人接手。我什么都没做就离开了，出门的时候也没有对他发脾气。告诉我的（前）丈夫发生了什么事，他说：“我们需要相信牧师的愿景。”这是被边缘化、物化并被用作自由劳动力的最后一根稻草，我不再可以说我相信这种信仰，因为我没有看到任何证据表明它使那些混蛋变得更好。我鼓起勇气告诉他我想离婚，他威胁说，如果我们离开，他就会用他的八支枪中的一支射杀我和我的儿子。是的，我想说那是最后一根稻草。当他工作时，我打开了扳机锁，然后带着我们的儿子跑出了那里。 \n\n我独自抚养我们的儿子，找到一份好工作，为我们买了一套房子，供我的孩子读完大学。他是无神论者，而我是不可知论者。这对我们俩来说都非常适合。生活变得好多了！"
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    {
      "id": "oylg304",
      "author": "sundialNshade",
      "created_utc": 1784512917,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylg304/",
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      "body_en": "Not divorced, but ended a 7 year relationship. It was after we talked about him quitting his job. He was miserable and I was very supportive of him taking medical leave or finding something else. But suggested he should at least try to make use of his built up PTO, inquire about medical leave, or at least quiet quit til he got fired so he'd be eligible for unemployment. Instead, he just up and quit. Without doing any of that. And spent the next 8 months racking up shared credit card debt, spending all of his bonus (which we were hoping to use to either pay for a wedding or toward a down payment on a house), and not working. \n\nAround this same time, one of my best friends was also contemplating quitting his job in a very similar field and situation. After we talked about it, he came to the decision to basically phone it in til he got fired. I realized my friend had valued my opinion more than my partner. And we had a more in-depth conversation than I did with the person who I shared finances, a home, and two dogs with. \n\nThat's when I realized it was never a partnership.",
      "body_zh": "没有离婚，但结束了7年的恋爱关系。那是在我们谈论他辞职之后。他很痛苦，我非常支持他请病假或寻找其他工作。但建议他至少应该尝试利用他积累的 PTO，询问病假，或者至少安静地辞职，直到他被解雇，这样他就有资格领取失业金。相反，他只是站起来退出了。没有做任何那样的事情。在接下来的 8 个月里，他承担了共同的信用卡债务，花掉了他所有的奖金（我们希望用这些奖金来支付婚礼费用或房子的首付），并且没有工作。 \n\n大约在同一时间，我最好的朋友之一也在考虑辞掉在非常相似的领域和情况下的工作。在我们讨论过之后，他决定基本上打电话过去，直到他被解雇。我意识到我的朋友比我的伴侣更重视我的意见。我们进行了比我与我共同拥有经济、房屋和两只狗的人进行的更深入的对话。 \n\n就在那时我意识到这从来都不是伙伴关系。"
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    {
      "id": "oymbsln",
      "author": "dramboxf",
      "created_utc": 1784526013,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymbsln/",
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      "body_en": "Not me, but my wife. (I'm her second husband.) They were together about 28 years, married for 24. Around year 21 it came out that his stepfather had sexually abused him and his brother when they were 8-10 years old. He'd hid this from my wife...and allowed their two children to spend overnight visits with the stepfather, unsupervised. My wife lost. her. shit. This was the shitty cherry on top of a slowly deteriorating marriage mostly due to progressing alcoholism (we believe) directly in response to his inability to deal with his abuse or accept help (therapy) for the way if affected him. It took about 3 years for the marriage to finally fall over and die, but it had been heading that way anyway. \n\nHe later ended up remarrying 3 more times in about six (!) years. The Sheriff still has an open/unsolved homicide on his 3rd wife (they know/strongly suspect he did it, but they couldn't prove it) and he ended up marrying his 4th wife, the SISTER of the 3rd wife. They later divorced due to violence and drinking, and subsequent to that he died in a fire in 2022.",
      "body_zh": "不是我，是我的妻子。 （我是她的第二任丈夫。）他们在一起大约 28 年，结婚 24 年。大约 21 年，他的继父在他和他的兄弟 8 至 10 岁时对他们进行了性虐待。他向我的妻子隐瞒了这件事……并允许他们的两个孩子在无人监管的情况下与继父过夜。我的妻子输了。她。拉屎。这是缓慢恶化的婚姻之上的烂樱桃，主要是由于不断酗酒（我们相信）直接导致他无法应对虐待或接受影响他的帮助（治疗）。这段婚姻花了大约3年的时间才最终破裂并消亡，但无论如何，它一直朝着这个方向发展。 \n\n后来他在大约六年（！）年内又再婚了 3 次。警长对他的第三任妻子仍然有一起未决的凶杀案（他们知道/强烈怀疑是他干的，但他们无法证明），他最终娶了他的第四任妻子，第三任妻子的妹妹。他们后来因暴力和酗酒而离婚，随后他于 2022 年死于火灾。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylqmrm",
      "author": "redditpdx",
      "created_utc": 1784516785,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylqmrm/",
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      "body_en": "Okay, so not me… but my wife’s friend. Her husband… he’s the type to always be out at the bar after work but he’s been out of work for a while now. Keeps going to the bar. Where’s the money coming from? After a little digging, a brutally obvious paper trail leads her to his OF equivalent site full of his dick pics and photos of his face. He’s now being blackmailed. Obviously this caused a huge fight and she now required location services on his phone as she was obviously very suspicious of him. Turns out his “friends” from the bar “convinced” him to try selling dick picks… and later “convinced” him to start hanging out at a local porn shop known for its glory holes… multiple times a week. A little more digging (she’s in healthcare) and finds out that he’s been getting STD tests. BUT since he’s out of work it’s a terrible time for divorce as she’s the breadwinner and will get hit with alimony so she’s biding her time pretending that it’s “working” just waiting for him to get a real job so she can peace the fuck out. \n\nNever been so happy to be boring.",
      "body_zh": "好吧，所以不是我……而是我妻子的朋友。她的丈夫……他是那种下班后总是去酒吧的人，但他已经失业有一段时间了。继续去酒吧。钱从哪里来？经过一番挖掘后，一条极其明显的纸迹将她带到了他的 OF 同等网站，里面满是他的鸡巴照片和脸部照片。他现在正遭受勒索。显然，这引起了一场激烈的争斗，她现在需要他手机上的定位服务，因为她显然对他非常怀疑。事实证明，他酒吧里的“朋友”“说服”他尝试出售鸡巴选择……后来又“说服”他开始在当地一家以荣耀洞闻名的色情商店闲逛……每周多次。再进一步挖掘（她在医疗保健行业），发现他一直在接受性病测试。但由于他失业了，现在离婚的时机很糟糕，因为她是养家糊口的人，会受到赡养费的打击，所以她在等待时机，假装这是“工作”，只是等待他找到一份真正的工作，这样她就可以安定下来了。 \n\n从来没有这么高兴过无聊。"
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    {
      "id": "oykng6n",
      "author": "Wickedrudemama",
      "created_utc": 1784503301,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykng6n/",
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      "body_en": "For our anniversary gift, his mother gave us a collage frame full of pictures of us and our daughter and a hand written letter. In her letter she talked about how in the 20 years of her marriage she looked back on it as bitter sweet. Happy that with all of the problems and bumps in the road she had her family and loving husband at the end. She looked back and felt like it was all worth it to be where they were and prayed that for us we would one day feel the same way. That one day 20 years down the road we’d be happy we made it through together. \n\nI sobbed reading it… and I looked my (ex) husband in the eyes and told him that I wouldn’t feel that way. That I knew if I stayed that 20 years from then I would hate him, hate him for ruining and wasting my life, hate him for showing our daughter that this was a relationship she should want. And I knew I would hate him because I already did. And then I told him I wanted a divorce and that as of that moment we were separated and asked for time to make arrangements to move out.",
      "body_zh": "作为我们的周年纪念礼物，他的母亲给了我们一个拼贴画框，里面装满了我们和女儿的照片以及一封手写的信。她在信中谈到，回顾20年的婚姻，她是如何苦涩甜蜜的。令人高兴的是，尽管经历了所有的问题和坎坷，她最终还是拥有了自己的家人和慈爱的丈夫。她回头看去，觉得来到他们所在的地方一切都是值得的，并祈祷我们有一天也会有同样的感觉。 20 年后的某一天，我们会很高兴我们能一起度过难关。 \n\n我读着它，抽泣着……我看着我（前）丈夫的眼睛，告诉他我不会有那种感觉。我知道如果我留下来20年后我会恨他，恨他毁掉和浪费我的生命，恨他向我们的女儿表明这是她应该想要的一段关系。我知道我会恨他，因为我已经恨他了。然后我告诉他我想离婚，从那一刻起我们就分居了，并请求时间安排搬出。"
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    {
      "id": "oylh205",
      "author": "Theodarius",
      "created_utc": 1784513268,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylh205/",
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      "body_en": "Some very traumatic stuff ended up happening to a family member. When I got home, I cried so fucking bad because I know exactly what they were going through. At this point I was with my wife for 15 years, and she asked me what is wrong. I honestly lost it so bad in my ugly crying that I couldnt even get the words out. \n\nAfter a bit I was able to calm down a little bit and was able to tell her what was going on and shared with her something that I had never ever told anyone in my life and I lost it again. The next day, we got into some argument about something, and she just goes \"why dont you just go back to crying like a little bitch like last night\". \n\nAfter I heard that, I literally went emotionless, and just stopped talking to her, give her any sort of reaction, for 2 days. In those two days I made plans to go live with my parents and we divorced not much later after that. \n\nThis was 10 years ago and those words still fuck with me. I have not been able to trust another person with my feelings.",
      "body_zh": "一些非常痛苦的事情最终发生在一位家庭成员身上。当我回到家时，我哭得很厉害，因为我完全知道他们正在经历什么。此时我和我妻子已经在一起15年了，她问我怎么了。老实说，我在丑陋的哭泣中失去了它，以至于我什至无法说出话来。 \n\n过了一会儿，我平静了一点，能够告诉她发生了什么事，并与她分享了一些我一生中从未告诉过任何人的事情，但我又失去了它。第二天，我们因为某事发生了一些争吵，她只是说“你为什么不像昨晚那样哭得像个小贱人”。 \n\n听到这句话后，我真的变得面无表情，两天内不再和她说话，也不给她任何反应。那两天我计划去和父母住，不久之后我们就离婚了。 \n\n那是十年前的事了，那些话仍然让我心烦意乱。我无法相信另一个人的感受。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjc6if",
      "author": "This-Assumption4123",
      "created_utc": 1784490795,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjc6if/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he turned his anger towards our kids.  It was an arranged marriage my parents set up when I was 16.  He was very violent to me but no help leaving.  Seven years of him beating me and I never tried to leave.  Then he turned on our kids.  That very night we snuck out with nothing but the clothes on our backs, I put the car paid off in my name in neutral and pushed it half a block before starting it I was so afraid to wake him up and I ran and never looked back.  He found me and tried to kill me, almost did, but he never touched my kids again.  We used to practice with my kids for them to hide in the crawlspace of the house if he found us and stay until police get there no matter what they heard and that’s exactly what saved them the day he found us.  It’s been a lifetime ago but I still remember the moment the light went off in my head realizing it wasn’t going to be just me being beaten and that meant something to me even when my life I had given up on.  They are grown now.",
      "body_zh": "当他把愤怒转向我们的孩子时。  这是我父母在我16岁时包办的婚姻。他对我非常暴力，但没有帮助我离开。  他打我七年了，我从来没有试图离开。  然后他就针对我们的孩子。  那天晚上，我们除了背上的衣服什么也没带就溜了出去，我把我名下还清的车调到空挡，推了半个街区才发动，我太害怕吵醒他了，我就跑了，再也没有回头。  他找到了我并试图杀了我，差一点就杀了我，但他再也没有碰过我的孩子。  我们曾经和我的孩子们一起练习，如果他发现我们，他们就躲在房子的狭小空间里，并一直待到警察到达那里，无论他们听到什么，这正是他找到我们那天拯救了他们的原因。  那已经是上辈子的事了，但我仍然记得我脑海中灵光一闪的那一刻，我意识到被殴打的不仅仅是我，即使我已经放弃了生活，这对我来说也意味着一些东西。  他们现在已经长大了。"
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    {
      "id": "oyl6pt7",
      "author": "Unwarranted_optimism",
      "created_utc": 1784509612,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl6pt7/",
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      "body_en": "I had figured out how to gray-rock my ex before I found out it was a survival technique. So, he got frustrated and started taking it out on our kids. \n\nMy kids and I had been taking care of a family friend’s dog while they traveled to visit family in Italy for the winter holidays. The ex did exactly nothing to care for/exercise this sweet pup. When the family came to pick her up, the mom slipped my older son $200 cash because she knew I would never accept it. They were gone by the time I knew. \n\nBecause I had been making dinner at that time, I told the kids that we would figure out what to do about the money after dinner and went to use the bathroom for literal moments. When I came out, I found the ex screaming at our youngest that he got to decide what happened with the money we had received yet had done nothing to earn. Our son was an 11-year-old boy at the time and he was in the fetal position, sobbing, and hiding under a blanket. I filed for divorce four days later",
      "body_zh": "在我发现这是一种生存技巧之前，我已经想出了如何让我的前任灰心丧气。所以，他很沮丧，开始对我们的孩子发脾气。 \n\n我和我的孩子们在寒假去意大利探望家人时一直在照顾一位朋友的狗。前任完全没有做任何事情来照顾/锻炼这只可爱的小狗。当家人来接她时，妈妈塞给了我大儿子 200 美元现金，因为她知道我永远不会接受。当我知道的时候他们已经走了。 \n\n因为当时我正在做晚饭，所以我告诉孩子们，晚饭后我们会想办法如何处理这些钱，然后就去洗手间了。当我出来时，我发现前任对我们最小的孩子尖叫，说他必须决定如何处理我们收到的钱，但没有做任何事情来赚钱。我们的儿子当时11岁，他像胎儿一样，躲在毯子下抽泣。四天后我提出离婚"
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    {
      "id": "oylh1cv",
      "author": "50at20",
      "created_utc": 1784513261,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylh1cv/",
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      "body_en": "Marriage counseling. \n\nIt was so much easier to see the blame shift and deflection when we were in a controlled environment with a professional. It showed me that if a professional couldn’t get through to her then I would never be able to either. And when she was facing accountability for her actions, she felt attacked and started weaponizing the conversations from the sessions in conversations outside the sessions. \n\nAfter one session when she tried the same thing on the counselor that she routinely did to me (DARVO) and the counselor called her out on it, she told me that this is who she is and I need to accept her the way she is… which is actually a very valid statement. However, I had come a long way in my own therapy and realized that the marriage would never work if I was the only one willing to acknowledge my faults and try to grow. \n\nAlmost 20 years of marriage gone, but now that I’m away from her my mental health and self image has improved drastically.",
      "body_zh": "婚姻咨询。 \n\n当我们与专业人士一起处于受控环境中时，更容易看到责任的转移和偏转。它告诉我，如果专业人士无法联系到她，那么我也永远无法联系到她。当她面临对自己行为的责任时，她感到受到了攻击，并开始在会议之外的对话中将会议中的对话武器化。 \n\n在一次治疗后，当她对辅导员尝试了她经常对我做的同样的事情（DARVO）时，辅导员对此提出了批评，她告诉我，这就是她，我需要接受她本来的样子……这实际上是一个非常有效的说法。然而，我在自己的治疗中已经取得了很大的进步，并意识到，如果我是唯一愿意承认自己的错误并努力成长的人，婚姻就永远不会成功。 \n\n差不多20年的婚姻已经过去了，但现在我离开了她，我的心理健康和自我形象有了很大的改善。"
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    {
      "id": "oyl1qhs",
      "author": "TheWizardry90",
      "created_utc": 1784507936,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl1qhs/",
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      "body_en": "We got married and our financials change drastically soon after. I got a huge promotion and she became a teacher in a great paying school district. She was constantly paying for her family’s shortcomings (late rent, missed car payments, vacations they had no business taking and etc.). None of them ever thought to pay back the money nor did she tell them she had to. Within a year she spent \\~$20k just on her family alone. \n\nMy dad ended up going to jail for some trouble he had years before my ex and I started dating and when I was in high school. I told her I was going to get him an attorney and bail him out in the meantime. \n\nShe froze our accounts not even a couple of hours later. I never saw her face again. I stayed with my mom and had family get my belongings. We divorced all through an attorney and just contacted each other through email. \n\nLast I heard of her she remarried and her parents and her brothers live in the house with her and her new husband",
      "body_zh": "我们结婚了，不久之后我们的财务状况就发生了巨大的变化。我获得了巨大的晋升，她成为了一个高薪学区的一名教师。她不断地为家人的缺点付出代价（拖欠租金、拖欠汽车付款、无事休假等等）。他们中没有人想过要还钱，她也没有告诉他们她必须这样做。一年之内，她仅在家人身上就花费了约 2 万美元。 \n\n我父亲最终因为一些麻烦而入狱，他在我和前任开始约会之前以及我上高中的时候就遇到过一些麻烦。我告诉她我将为他找一位律师，同时保释他。 \n\n不到几个小时，她就冻结了我们的账户。我再也没有见过她的脸。我和妈妈住在一起，让家人拿走我的物品。我们通过律师离婚，只是通过电子邮件联系对方。 \n\n我上次听说她时，她再婚了，她的父母和兄弟与她和她的新丈夫住在房子里"
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    {
      "id": "oyinf2e",
      "author": "chriswalkenspal",
      "created_utc": 1784484005,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyinf2e/",
      "score": null,
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      "body_en": "There are many factors that led up to it, but the two that are at the top of my mind this week are:\nDuring a particular rough \"argument\" I told her that if she hits me again it's over. It took four more instances over the next half a year for me to get the courage to act on it (one of which was later that same evening).\nAnd during our last \"argument\" she had told me that if I wasnt going to change than she needs to know so she can 'decide what to do.' I tried hard to show her change, practice what I was working on in therapy, the books I was reading. Pleading with her to be convinced that I do love her. She laid out all that was wrong with our lives and marriage and screamed, \"AND YOURE NOT CHANGING!!\"\nI knew then that in her eyes I'll never change. And I was so tired of our kids being witness to this and them seeing me like that. I told her that week I was moving out.\nIts been 6 months since then. And the fucked up part? I love her and miss her so much.",
      "body_zh": "导致这种情况的因素有很多，但本周我最关心的两个因素是：\n在一次特别粗暴的“争吵”中，我告诉她，如果她再打我，那就结束了。在接下来的半年里，我又经历了四次，才有勇气采取行动（其中一次是在当天晚上晚些时候）。\n在我们上次的“争论”中，她告诉我，如果我不打算改变，那么她需要知道，这样她才能“决定做什么”。我努力向她展示改变，练习我在治疗中所做的工作，以及我正在阅读的书籍。恳求她相信我确实爱她。她列出了我们生活和婚姻中所有的问题，并尖叫道：“而你却没有改变！”\n我那时就知道，在她眼里我永远不会改变。我厌倦了我们的孩子目睹这一切并看到我那样。那周我告诉她我要搬出去。\n从那时起已经过去了6个月。那操蛋的部分呢？我爱她并且非常想念她。"
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    {
      "id": "oyitek4",
      "author": "fleurettes_mom",
      "created_utc": 1784485608,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyitek4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he drank so much and so often that he was often blackout drunk - would say and do things to me - then argue and insult me when I confronted him the next day. I begged him to stop drinking.  Ignored. He would come home blackout drunk and fall asleep in his uniform. I would have to make excuses to the kids about why daddy is sleeping on the floor in the hallway.  - in his uniform with his hat still on drooling.   Then he would yell at me for not taking him to bed.   One day I realized he wasn’t working on his car in the garage in the evenings. He had many hidden bottles and refilled wine boxes filled with scotch.  I was done. \n\nI left him 45 years ago but that trauma is still like yesterday.   \n\nEveryday I am grateful for my loving husband of 33 years. A loving, sober, funny man that married me with 4 kids and raised my kids as his own. He stayed when I got disabled from a neuromuscular disease.\n\nIt is NOT worth staying. You deserve love and respect.",
      "body_zh": "当他喝得太多、喝得太多时，他经常醉得昏厥——会对我说一些话、做一些事——然后当我第二天和他对峙时，他会争吵并侮辱我。我恳求他别再喝酒了。  被忽略了。他会喝得醉醺醺地回到家，然后穿着制服睡着。我必须向孩子们找借口，解释为什么爸爸睡在走廊的地板上。  - 穿着制服，帽子上还挂着口水。   然后他会因为我不带他上床而对我大喊大叫。   有一天，我意识到他晚上并没有在车库里修车。他藏有许多瓶子和装满苏格兰威士忌的酒盒。  我已经完成了。 \n\n45 年前我离开了他，但那段创伤仍历历在目。   \n\n我每天都感谢我深爱着我33年的丈夫。一个充满爱心、冷静、风趣的男人，娶了我，育有 4 个孩子，并把我的孩子当作自己的孩子抚养长大。当我因神经肌肉疾病致残时，他留下来了。\n\n不值得留下来。你值得爱和尊重。"
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    {
      "id": "oylbaws",
      "author": "Dangerous-Fortune789",
      "created_utc": 1784511216,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylbaws/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I only found out about the infidelities after filing. I’m a dude who doesn’t know another divorced dude that filled. \n\nIt was somewhere between her best friend flipping a switch and hating me without her even realizing until me and other people brought it up, and when I was like oh hey that guy you hate, what’s his name? Anderson Tate? Yea he got arrested - and having her freak out saying that I like the guy, I’ve only ever heard of him from her at that point. It was a weird big ass freakout.\n\nAnyways looking back it was some kinda weird misandrist Instagram hypnosis thing as far as I can tell and I found out she was dating that best friend for a few years while we were married. It was weird and sucks. Lots of jokes about how she was just using me for money etc. I’m a good looking dude making Silicon Valley management money over 6ft with abs.. like why waste my time and fuck ip your daughters life.. it’s been really peaceful since ditching that loser.",
      "body_zh": "我是在提交申请后才发现不忠行为的。我是一个不认识另一个离婚的家伙。 \n\n介于她最好的朋友按下开关和讨厌我之间，她甚至没有意识到，直到我和其他人提起这件事，当我说哦，嘿，你讨厌的那个人，他叫什么名字？安德森·泰特？是的，他被捕了——她吓坏了，说我喜欢这个家伙，那时我才从她那里听说过他。这是一个奇怪的大屁股怪胎。\n\n不管怎样，回想起来，据我所知，这是一种有点奇怪的误解Instagram催眠的事情，我发现她在我们结婚的时候和那个最好的朋友约会了几年。这很奇怪而且很糟糕。很多笑话说她只是为了钱而利用我等等。我是一个长得帅的家伙，靠着腹肌赚着超过 6 英尺的硅谷管理资金.. 比如为什么要浪费我的时间去操你女儿的生活.. 自从抛弃那个失败者以来，一切真的很平静。"
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    {
      "id": "oyka7qd",
      "author": "Hereiam2018",
      "created_utc": 1784499567,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyka7qd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had to put down our much loved dog due to sudden tumour rupture- and I had to fight him (ex) every step of the way \n\nIt all happened within 48 hours from seemingly healthy dog to death - but my ex kept saying it’s my anxiety it’s my imagination, I’m not taking the dog anywhere, “his dog” is fine etc etc \n\nWe were both very very attached to our dog and I understand elements of this was grief and stress but there was no rational talking to him, our little guy is actively dying and I’m presenting a case to my ex husband as to why we need to get to vet asap\n\nThere were many many other things prior to this but this particular moment was the straw that broke the camels back, this is not the type of person or behaviour I want or need in time of extreme stress and emergency \n\nI filed for divorce two weeks later - patiently awaiting the divorce to get approved \n\nStill stuck living with him under one roof for foreseeable future due to finances though :(",
      "body_zh": "由于肿瘤突然破裂，我们不得不放下我们深爱的狗 - 我不得不每一步都与他（前）战斗 \n\n这一切都发生在 48 小时内，从看似健康的狗到死亡，但我的前任一直说这是我的焦虑，是我的想象，我不会带狗去任何地方，“他的狗”很好等等 \n\n我们都非常依恋我们的狗，我知道其中的因素是悲伤和压力，但没有与他进行理性的交谈，我们的小家伙快要死了，我正在向我的前夫提出一个案例，解释为什么我们需要尽快去兽医\n\n在此之前还有很多其他的事情，但这个特定的时刻是压垮骆驼的最后一根稻草，这不是我在极度压力和紧急情况下想要或需要的人或行为类型 \n\n两周后我提出离婚——耐心等待离婚获批 \n\n不过，由于经济原因，在可预见的未来，仍然与他住在一个屋檐下:("
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    {
      "id": "oyj2v1x",
      "author": "happy_camper_5252",
      "created_utc": 1784488164,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj2v1x/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I came home from a week in the hospital on a Friday. On Saturday, he was out for a few hours working out. I asked him if he would please hang out with me when he got back. I said I didn't care what we did, but that I wasn't doing well and I was scared to be alone. He said  oh absolutely, yes, he would be there for me.\n\nThen, when he got home: \"Actually I forgot the Mavericks game was on tonight, you care if I watch that instead?\" He could only watch it from his office. No room for me.\n\nThe complete disregard for me - not just my happiness, but my actuall well-being - just rocked me. I remember feeling dizzy and suddenly nothing felt real. I went for a drive and parked somewhere and sobbed. I had been feeling so alone in that relationship, and I thought that surely being in the hospital would bring some change, even short-lived. But it did not. My sister still had to convince me to leave him, but I was ready to consider it at that point.",
      "body_zh": "星期五，我在医院待了一周回家。周六，他出去锻炼了几个小时。我问他回来后是否愿意和我一起出去玩。我说我不在乎我们做了什么，但我做得不好，我害怕独自一人。他说哦，当然，是的，他会在我身边。\n\n然后，当他回到家时：“实际上我忘记了今晚小牛队的比赛，你介意我看吗？”他只能在自己的办公室里观看。没有我的空间。\n\n对我的完全漠视——不仅是我的幸福，还有我的实际幸福——让我震惊。我记得我感到头晕，突然间一切都感觉不真实了。我开车出去兜风，把车停在某个地方，然后抽泣起来。我在这段关系中感到非常孤独，我想住院肯定会带来一些改变，甚至是短暂的。但事实并非如此。我姐姐仍然必须说服我离开他，但那时我已经准备好考虑了。"
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    {
      "id": "oyinx6j",
      "author": "Marthamem",
      "created_utc": 1784484141,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyinx6j/",
      "score": null,
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      "body_en": "He made it increasingly clear that he held me in contempt. He would make up opinions for me and then contemptuously rip them apart, even though they were never actually my own opinions. They were just opinions that he felt I had.\n\nOne night we went to a concert. We were having a little trouble finding our seats and finally, he stared at me with disgust and stomped off. I eventually found the seats and there he was, in another big mood. After the concert, we were walking down a dark alley back to the car and he stomped off 15 or 20 feet in front of me. For some reason, I always look back on that as the night our marriage ended, watching him stride ahead of me down that dark street, although it took several more months for it to actually finish.\n\nThe very last day was the morning I came down, he was still asleep, and he had very prominently left out a handwritten list of our assets. I had taken my stuff, and was gone by that afternoon.",
      "body_zh": "他越来越清楚地表明他蔑视我。他会为我编造一些观点，然后轻蔑地将它们撕碎，尽管它们实际上并不是我自己的观点。这些只是他认为我有的意见。\n\n一天晚上我们去听一场音乐会。我们在找到座位时遇到了一些麻烦，最后，他厌恶地盯着我，然后跺着脚走开了。我最终找到了座位，他就在那里，心情又很愉快。音乐会结束后，我们沿着一条黑暗的小巷走回车里，他在我前面 15 或 20 英尺处跺着脚走开了。出于某种原因，我总是在我们婚姻结束的那天晚上回顾这一幕，看着他在我前面大步走过那条黑暗的街道，尽管它花了几个月的时间才真正结束。\n\n最后一天是我下来的早上，他还在睡觉，他在显眼的地方遗漏了一份手写的我们的资产清单。我拿了东西，下午就走了。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjnv5q",
      "author": "SpaceTrash42069",
      "created_utc": 1784493721,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjnv5q/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "An unplanned pregnancy due to a birth control failure. \n\nThere were a lot of talks about what should happen because we were both pro-choice, but didn’t want kids, but also felt like having an abortion was something we didn’t want to do. We both had good, stable jobs, owned our home and it just felt like we could give a child a good life, but we just never wanted kids. \n\nThen around week 9, I had a miscarriage, but my body didn’t expel the pregnancy (ie: incomplete abortion) and I had to have a D&C. My ex set his own schedule and worked from home, yet the day of the D&C he suddenly had to go to the office and have an in-person meeting. \n\nHe took me to my procedure, took me home after discharge and said he had to leave. When I objected he said, “You’re a nurse, you’ll know if you need help” and he left. \n\nIn my most vulnerable time, my spouse deserted me. I’d like to say I left him shortly there after, but it took me a bit to do so.",
      "body_zh": "由于节育失败而导致的意外怀孕。 \n\n有很多关于应该发生什么的讨论，因为我们都支持堕胎，但不想要孩子，但也觉得堕胎是我们不想做的事情。我们都有良好、稳定的工作，拥有自己的房子，感觉我们可以给孩子一个美好的生活，但我们从来不想要孩子。 \n\n然后在第 9 周左右，我流产了，但我的身体没有排出妊娠（即：不完全流产），我必须接受 D&C。我的前任制定了自己的时间表并在家工作，但在 D&C 的那天，他突然必须去办公室参加面对面的会议。 \n\n他带我去接受手术，出院后带我回家，并说他必须离开。当我反对时，他说：“你是一名护士，你会知道是否需要帮助”，然后他就离开了。 \n\n在我最脆弱的时候，我的配偶抛弃了我。我想说不久之后我就离开了他，但我花了一些时间才这样做。"
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    {
      "id": "oym83le",
      "author": "Buttacrumpet",
      "created_utc": 1784524235,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym83le/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We ran it out.\n\nEvery goal and every dream either of us had was dead or buried, either by way of environmental factors like employment issues and infertility issues or just shit luck. We were both 'small house with a white picket fence' sort of people, bought the future our parents' sold us, home, kids, a life, then we both blamed eachother for not getting any of it.\n\nThe anger turned towards eachother, and our families did the rest of the work tearing us apart.\n\nWe had come back together once before, and I had one or two opportunities to do so this last time,... but if we never had a chance at our best, I didn't imagine we had any level of chance at that point. Too much regret, resentment, and anger on every side. Nothing sweet would last long enough to be savored. It's time to see if other people can compliment us, rather than complicate.\n\nIf you're still out there, K, thanks for being there as long as you were. I'm sorry.",
      "body_zh": "我们用完了。\n\n我们的每一个目标和每一个梦想都已死亡或被埋葬，要么是由于就业问题和不孕问题等环境因素，要么只是运气不好。我们都是“有白色栅栏的小房子”的人，买了父母卖给我们的未来，房子，孩子，生活，然后我们都指责对方没有得到任何东西。\n\n愤怒转向彼此，我们的家人完成了剩下的工作，将我们分开。\n\n我们以前曾一起回来过一次，上次我有一两次机会这样做……但如果我们从未有过最好的机会，我不认为我们当时有任何机会。各方面都有太多的遗憾、怨恨和愤怒。没有什么甜的东西能够长久地被品尝。是时候看看其他人是否可以赞美我们，而不是让事情复杂化。\n\n如果你还在那里，K，谢谢你一直以来的陪伴。对不起。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykcbjg",
      "author": "robotrousers",
      "created_utc": 1784500103,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykcbjg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex, despite him making 5x my income and having agreed on an amount I would pay in rent, suddenly decided I should pay half his mortgage and all other expenses. After arguing back and forth (I kept pointing out the lack of equity I was building, and the huge income gap, but he just kept saying I wasn’t paying enough. Also asked if I would break up with him if he kicked me out) we settled on an amount I could manage. He barely spoke to me for the next 4 days. That Friday he asks me to go to the movies. I thought “yay! The cold shoulder is gone.” Nope. Barely spoke to me at dinner. While walking around, my hand brushed his. The speed at which he pulled his hand away was clear and intentional. When we got home I said “Hey why don’t you let me know when you’re done giving me the silent treatment cuz I’m sick of this bullshit.” Epic fight ensued, I slept in the living room and moved in with friends the next morning.",
      "body_zh": "我的前任，尽管他的收入是我的五倍，并且同意我支付的租金，但他突然决定我应该支付他一半的抵押贷款和所有其他费用。经过反复争论（我一直指出我正在建立的公平性不足，收入差距巨大，但他只是一直说我付的钱不够。还问如果他把我踢出去我是否会和他分手），我们最终确定了一个我可以管理的金额。接下来的四天里他几乎没有跟我说话。那个星期五他约我去看电影。我想：“耶！冷落已经消失了。”没有。吃饭的时候几乎没和我说话。当我走来走去时，我的手擦过他的手。他把手抽开的速度是明显而故意的。当我们回到家时，我说：“嘿，当你结束对我的沉默治疗时，为什么不告诉我，因为我厌倦了这种废话。”史诗般的战斗随之而来，我睡在客厅，第二天早上搬去和朋友住。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykxohd",
      "author": "badplayer888",
      "created_utc": 1784506561,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykxohd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she started putting herself before anything else, she cancelled a vacation we were going to take to go to concert with her friend that I had to pay for.  She did the same thing multiple times.  We constantly fought.  I could tell I didn’t want to be there anymore but I made the choice to return to her when I left once before.  I felt when I returned that I needed to be there cause no one else was fighting to be with me.  She put me on fertility pills and stopped wanted to have sex.  Then there was the hitting me even in front of others.  She always kinda treated it like, you’re a guy, you can handle it.   I knew there had to be better out there.  This isn’t the life I deserved.  I heard the same from pretty much everyone around me, just took time for me to believe it.  I hardened myself to make the decision and not let anything she would do affect me.   Still one of the best decisions I made.",
      "body_zh": "当她开始把自己放在第一位时，她取消了我们本来要和她朋友去听音乐会的假期，而我必须支付费用。  同样的事情她做了很多次。  我们不断地战斗。  我看得出来我不想再呆在那里了，但我在之前离开的时候就选择回到她身边。  当我回来时，我觉得我需要在那里，因为没有其他人愿意和我在一起。  她给我服用了生育药，并且不再想发生性行为。  然后就是当着别人的面打我。  她总是这样对待它，就像，你是个男人，你可以处理它。   我知道外面一定有更好的。  这不是我应得的生活。  我从周围的几乎每个人那里都听到了同样的说法，只是我花了一些时间才相信这一点。  我坚定了自己的决定，不让她的任何举动影响到我。   仍然是我做出的最好的决定之一。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym4d83",
      "author": "danume",
      "created_utc": 1784522526,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym4d83/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Death by a thousand cuts. There wasn’t one big thing that ended the marriage. It was a lot of little things that built up over time.\nBefore a big trip to see her family, we agreed that when we got back, we would focus on the issues in our marriage instead of her career, which had been the main focus for years. But when we returned, it went back to the same pattern of her focusing on her career and not leaving much time or energy for our relationship.\nThe other thing I realized was that when I started recognizing my own needs and actually voicing them, it felt like those needs were a burden to her. That’s when I started to understand that we had some deeper differences in what we needed from a marriage.\nIn the end, I had to be the one to make the decision to end it. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I realized we weren’t building the kind of partnership that either of us needed.",
      "body_zh": "千刀万剐而死。没有一件大事结束了这段婚姻。随着时间的推移，有很多小事情逐渐积累起来。\n在去探望她的家人之前，我们同意当我们回来时，我们会关注我们的婚姻问题，而不是她多年来的主要关注点。但当我们回来时，又回到了同样的模式，她专注于自己的事业，没有为我们的关系留下太多时间或精力。\n我意识到的另一件事是，当我开始认识到自己的需求并真正表达出来时，感觉这些需求对她来说是一种负担。从那时起我开始明白，我们对婚姻的需求存在一些更深层次的差异。\n最后，我必须成为那个决定结束这一切的人。这是我做过的最困难的事情之一，但我意识到我们并没有建立我们双方都需要的那种伙伴关系。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkdey",
      "author": "Possible_Plane151",
      "created_utc": 1784514458,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkdey/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex’s family HATED me and my ex never took my side. His mother in particular treated me like an outsider and went out of her way to antagonize me. I was from a different part of the country than them and it was like she culturally just would never accept me (think American southerners disdainfully calling people from up north ‘Yankees’ for example). She had a habit of stopping by unannounced even though she knew I didn’t like it as a victim of a home invasion, one day she dropped by when I was home alone taking a nap and flipped her shit when nobody opened the door for her because she saw my car was there. My ex took her side and blew up at me for not letting her in even though I was literally asleep and we had previously agreed she should call or text before stopping by so I would be expecting her. It seems small but I knew it was over that day, I left him a few months later.",
      "body_zh": "我前任的家人讨厌我，我前任从来没有站在我一边。他的母亲尤其把我当作局外人，并且不遗余力地与我对抗。我来自这个国家与他们不同的地方，就好像她在文化上永远不会接受我（例如，想想美国南方人轻蔑地称来自北方的人为“洋基队”）。她有一个习惯，就是不请自来地过来，尽管她知道我不喜欢作为入室盗窃的受害者，有一天，当我独自在家小睡时，她顺便过来了，当没有人为她开门时，她就翻了个身，因为她看到我的车在那里。我的前夫站在她一边，对我大发雷霆，因为我不让她进来，尽管我真的睡着了，我们之前同意她应该在过来之前打电话或发短信，这样我就会等她。这看起来很小，但我知道那一天就结束了，几个月后我离开了他。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj0t73",
      "author": "ZetKaZet",
      "created_utc": 1784487598,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj0t73/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I found a lump in my breast, it took 4 weeks to get an examination (long appointment times even for acute conditions). All this time he pretended that I didn't exist, he completely pushed me out. I needed support, at least a little, but all I got was silence, disinterest and ignorance.\n\nI begged him to go with me to the mammogram, he just turned around and went to play his favorite computer game. He didn't say anything (and of course he didn't go with me).\n\nThe examination showed that it wasn't cancer. But within six months we were divorced. I'm not mad at him, I just don't want to share my life with him anymore.\n\nNow I know that it was good that this was revealed. Without this incident, I would never have found the courage to divorce, although our marriage was empty for many years, without love, without emotions, without kisses and without shared experiences and hobbies.",
      "body_zh": "当我发现乳房有肿块时，花了 4 周时间才进行检查（即使是急性病症，预约时间也很长）。一直以来他都假装我不存在，彻底把我赶了出去。我需要支持，至少需要一点支持，但我得到的只是沉默、漠不关心和无知。\n\n我恳求他和我一起去拍乳房X光检查，他只是转身去玩他最喜欢的电脑游戏。他什么也没说（当然他也没有和我一起去）。\n\n检查结果显示不是癌症。但六个月之内我们就离婚了。我不是生他的气，我只是不想再和他分享我的生活了。\n\n现在我知道这件事被揭露是件好事。如果没有这件事，我永远也没有勇气离婚，尽管我们的婚姻多年来一直是空虚的，没有爱，没有情感，没有亲吻，没有共同的经历和爱好。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjc08j",
      "author": "letsmeatagain",
      "created_utc": 1784490746,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjc08j/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I can’t say there was a last straw, but for about a year and a half we lived like housemates, barely saw each other naked, didn’t do anything together, he was kinda depressed but didn’t do anything about it, I got tired of offering things we should do together. We still very much cared for each other and loved each other, but it just wasn’t romantic anymore. I don’t remember a certain event that made me go ‘I’m done’ but more like an overall feeling of ‘if we don’t end this, this will be my life’ and both of us agreed we needed to end it. We’re still best friends, broke up over five years ago, didn’t bother with a divorce even though we live hours away from each other, both have dated other people, and I’m always rooting for him to be happy and he does for me. We ended things when we weren’t in love but still very much liked each other.",
      "body_zh": "我不能说这是最后一根稻草，但大约一年半的时间里，我们像室友一样生活，几乎没有见过对方裸体，没有一起做任何事情，他有点沮丧，但没有采取任何行动，我厌倦了提供我们应该一起做的事情。我们仍然非常关心彼此，彼此相爱，但不再浪漫了。我不记得有哪件事让我“我完了”，但更像是一种整体感觉“如果我们不结束这一切，这将是我的生活”，我们都同意我们需要结束它。我们仍然是最好的朋友，五年多前就分手了，即使我们住的地方相距几个小时，我们也没有离婚，两人都约会过其他人，我总是支持他快乐，他也为我加油。当我们不相爱但仍然非常喜欢对方时，我们就结束了事情。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym5486",
      "author": "Rogzilla",
      "created_utc": 1784522866,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym5486/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Honestly, there wasn’t really a last straw. We just grew apart and realized, despite 17 years of marriage and two kids, we just weren’t in love anymore. We are both pretty non-confrontational though so it took us a while to finally discuss it. I felt it coming and tried to reignite our love but my ex decided to just push me away in hopes that I would be the one to initiate the conversation. I never did so we had an unfortunately timed one right before my birthday. \n\nWe are still get along though and are literally sitting in the living room watching Game Grumps as I type this. We’ve been cohabitating for a bit but we are close to me moving out as she’s just about done with school and starting her new career. \n\nIt’s been tough, with therapy and long nights of crying. But I’m in a much better place now and ready for my next chapter.",
      "body_zh": "老实说，并没有真正的最后一根稻草。当我们渐渐疏远时，我们意识到，尽管我们已经结婚 17 年并且有了两个孩子，但我们只是不再相爱了。不过，我们都不太有对抗性，所以我们花了一段时间才最终讨论这个问题。我感觉到它的到来，并试图重新点燃我们的爱，但我的前任决定把我推开，希望我能成为发起谈话的人。我从来没有这样做过，所以不幸的是，我们在我生日之前举办了一次。 \n\n不过，我们仍然相处得很好，当我打字的时候，我们真的坐在客厅里看《游戏脾气暴躁》。我们已经同居了一段时间，但我们很快就要搬出去了，因为她即将完成学业并开始她的新职业生涯。 \n\n这很艰难，需要治疗和长夜的哭泣。但我现在处于一个更好的位置，并为我的下一个篇章做好了准备。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylbuq5",
      "author": "AyutoNex",
      "created_utc": 1784511412,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylbuq5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she said, \"I don't love you anymore.. I love you as a friend but that's it.\"   \n  \nI was willing to put in the work for therapy and working through problems. She wasn't invested anymore and just checked boxes. Eventually we both decided it was done. \n\nSuper hard when one person has moved on emotionally/physically and the other person hasn't. \n\nI'm now in the process of the divorce and also falling out of love with her. \n\nOne of the hardest lessons I am now learning after 14 years of marriage is people change. People are allowed to change. I believed in \"till death do us part\" but I'm now realizing that can be toxic. \n\nDo I want this? No.. But do I accept it? Yes...  I am now working on loving her as a friend and not letting hatred or resentment form. Its a practice for sure. Secular Buddhism has helped me.",
      "body_zh": "当她说：“我不再爱你了......我爱你作为朋友，但仅此而已。”   \n  \n我愿意投入治疗和解决问题的工作。她不再投资，只是勾选了复选框。最终我们都决定完成。 \n\n当一个人在情感/身体上有所进步而另一个人却没有时，这是非常困难的。 \n\n我现在正处于离婚的过程中，也不再爱她了。 \n\n结婚 14 年后，我学到的最难的一课就是人会改变。人们被允许改变。我相信“直到死亡将我们分开”，但我现在意识到这可能是有毒的。 \n\n我想要这个吗？不..但是我接受吗？是的……我现在正在努力像朋友一样爱她，而不是让仇恨或怨恨形成。这肯定是一种实践。世俗佛教对我有帮助。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyimruc",
      "author": "mokatter",
      "created_utc": 1784483832,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyimruc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I cut my hand quite badly (accidentally of course), and called him and asked if he could possibly leave work 10 minutes early… or at the very least come straight home to take me to emergency. He was working the late shift. He said he couldn’t leave early and he had plans to go see live music at a nearby spot with a bunch of the guys. He asked if the cut was really that bad and couldn’t I just drive myself. \n\nBlood had literally spurted up and stained the front of the upper cabinets, I had bled through a dish towel. I ended up calling my parents and my dad came and took me to ER. I had to get 15 stitches and partially cut my tendon (or ligament). So yes it was that bad… and it was also the moment I realized how bad my marriage was. I left him about 3 months later and I am now married to a wonderful man.",
      "body_zh": "我的手被割得很严重（当然是意外），然后打电话给他，问他是否可以提前 10 分钟下班……或者至少直接回家带我去急诊室。他正在值晚班。他说他不能早点离开，他计划和一群人一起去附近的地方看现场音乐。他问伤口是否真的那么严重，我不能自己开车吗？ \n\n血真的喷了出来，沾满了上层柜子的前面，我的血还流到了洗碗巾上。我最终给我的父母打电话，我父亲来带我去了急诊室。我不得不缝 15 针，并部分割断我的肌腱（或韧带）。所以是的，事情就是那么糟糕……也是那一刻我意识到我的婚姻有多么糟糕。大约三个月后我离开了他，现在我嫁给了一个很棒的男人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylnn4v",
      "author": "Polar_Version875",
      "created_utc": 1784515651,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylnn4v/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My bff looked me in the eyes and said “imagine your daughter grows up, gets married to a man like her dad, and has the same kind of relationship with him that you do with her dad. How would you feel? Because \\*you know\\* kids recreate their parent’s relationships.”\n\nI cried. My chest literally hurt, my heart squeezed so hard.\n\nPreviously his openly mocking me, neglecting his kids, stopping me from accessing education or medical care, and eventual alcoholism and physical violence against me had not been enough.\n\nThen she said “you have read the statistics around his situation and behavior - what did it say is the likelihood that he doesn’t allow you to live through leaving?”\n\nI left him that week while he was at work and got full custody. It’s been almost exactly 6 years. We have all never been happier.",
      "body_zh": "我的好朋友看着我的眼睛说：“想象一下，你的女儿长大了，嫁给了一个像她父亲一样的男人，并且与他的关系就像你与她父亲的关系一样。你会有什么感觉？因为\\*你知道\\*孩子们会重现父母的关系。”\n\n我哭了。我的胸口真的很痛，我的心很紧。\n\n此前他公开嘲笑我，忽视他的孩子，阻止我接受教育或医疗保健，最终对我酗酒和身体暴力还不够。\n\n然后她说：“你已经阅读了有关他的情况和行为的统计数据 - 它说的是他不允许你度过离开的可能性是什么？”\n\n那周，当他在工作时，我离开了他，并获得了完全监护权。已经快整整6年了。我们都从未如此幸福过。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyinnih",
      "author": "lovealert911",
      "created_utc": 1784484069,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyinnih/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "For me it was culmination of things over the years which made me realize weren't truly compatible.\n\nAt some point you ask yourself if you can *imagine the rest of your life* being the way things are.\n\n(Over time we're either *growing together* or *growing apart*. There is no neutral.)\n\nLife is too short to be trying to change water into wine.\n\nIdeally you want to find someone *who already is* what you want in a partner.\n\nWhen you realize someone is *unable/unwilling* to meet your needs it's usually best to move on.\n\nNo one is \"stuck\" with anyone. Suffering is optional.\n\n***\"Better to admit you walked through the wrong door than to spend your life in the wrong room.\"*** \\- Unknown\n\n***\"Happiness isn't getting what you want, it's wanting what you got.\"*** \\- Garth Brooks",
      "body_zh": "对我来说，这是多年来事情的高潮，让我意识到并不真正兼容。\n\n在某些时候，你会问自己是否可以“想象你的余生”就是这样。\n\n（随着时间的推移，我们要么“一起成长”，要么“渐行渐远”。没有中立的。）\n\n生命太短暂，没有必要试图把水变成酒。\n\n理想情况下，您希望找到一个*已经是您想要的伴侣的人。\n\n当您意识到某人“无法/不愿意”满足您的需求时，通常最好继续前进。\n\n没有人会与任何人“粘在一起”。苦难是可选的。\n\n***“与其在错误的房间里度过一生，不如承认自己走错了门。”*** \\- 未知\n\n***“幸福不是得到你想要的，而是想要你得到的。”*** \\- Garth Brooks"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj20dm",
      "author": "ice-eight",
      "created_utc": 1784487924,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj20dm/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I had a 10 year old reddit account with over a million karma. It wasn't a secret or anything. My ex wife and her friend, both of whom are internal auditors, went through every comment I had ever made and found 2 bad ones. They weren't *that* bad, it was more along the lines of, comments where in hindsight I can definitely understand why they upset her but it definitely wasn't my intention at the time.\n\nShe told everyone she knew that her husband had been keeping a secret reddit account where I talked trash about her to strangers. I felt violated that she and her BFF had read through the whole thing and also felt that she was overreacting. I mean 10 years and I only made 2 comments somewhat critical of her and they were year old and had like 3 karma each.",
      "body_zh": "我有一个已有 10 年历史的 Reddit 帐户，拥有超过 100 万业力。这不是什么秘密。我的前妻和她的朋友都是内部审计员，他们仔细检查了我发表的每条评论，发现了两条不好的评论。他们并没有“那么”糟糕，更多的是，事后看来，我绝对可以理解为什么他们让她心烦意乱，但这绝对不是我当时的意图。\n\n她告诉所有她认识的人，她丈夫一直在保留一个秘密的 Reddit 帐户，我在这个帐户上向陌生人谈论她的坏话。我觉得她和她最好的朋友读完了整件事，而且觉得她反应过度，这让我感到受到了侵犯。我的意思是 10 年，我只发表了 2 条对她有些批评的评论，他们都已经几岁了，每条都有 3 个业力。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykej05",
      "author": "bridiacuaird",
      "created_utc": 1784500724,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykej05/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It wasn’t so much a last straw as much as a gradual, cumulative realization.. a trip to Europe botched for me because he decided, for an unknown reason, to stonewall me. Him being upset that I didn’t want to invite some people he knew (that I had never met) to my 30th birthday party. Sitting in the car waiting while I packed necessities for a family trip. Snacks, water, etc.. acting like I’m being too much for that.\n\nBeing derisive at me not knowing about a feature in our new car. My 10 year old even felt the need to stick up for me. He was then told to shut up by his father.\n\nAlso, never admitting he’s wrong unless I prod him to, and even then, usually not. Having no grace for imperfections in me, and yet I let a lot of things that he does slide.",
      "body_zh": "与其说这是最后一根稻草，不如说是一种逐渐的、累积的认识……一次欧洲之旅对我来说很糟糕，因为他出于某种未知的原因决定阻止我。他因为我不想邀请一些他认识的人（我从未见过）来参加我的 30 岁生日聚会而感到不安。坐在车里等待，我收拾着家庭旅行的必需品。零食、水等等……表现得好像我受不了了。\n\n嘲笑我不知道我们新车的一个功能。我 10 岁的孩子甚至觉得有必要支持我。然后他的父亲就叫他闭嘴。\n\n另外，除非我督促他，否则永远不要承认他错了，即使这样，通常也不会。我对自己的不完美毫无宽容，但我却忽略了他做的很多事情。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjuu0p",
      "author": "Top-Jury1392",
      "created_utc": 1784495603,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjuu0p/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex has severe mental health issues that renders them both dangerous and a lot of extra \"work\" to ensure their health and safety.  I diligently did my spousal duties to ensure their safety and health for years.  Eventually, I was close to fracturing and asked them to check into a hospital because I had nothing left within myself.  They looked me in the eyes and called me a selfish asshole and that it was my duty to go out of my way to make sure they had everything and just kept reminding me \"in SICKNESS and health.\" I realized then that they had no want to be better, and that they simply didn't care about the way their illness affected me or the kids.  It took a bit to detangle, but that was absolutely the last straw.",
      "body_zh": "我的前任有严重的心理健康问题，这使他们既危险又需要大量额外的“工作”来确保他们的健康和安全。  多年来，我勤勉地履行配偶职责，确保他们的安全和健康。  最后，我快要崩溃了，要求他们去医院检查，因为我体内已经没有了。  他们看着我的眼睛，说我是一个自私的混蛋，我有责任不遗余力地确保他们拥有一切，并不断提醒我“无论疾病还是健康”。然后我意识到他们并不想变得更好，他们根本不关心他们的疾病对我或孩子们的影响。  虽然花了一些时间才解开，但这绝对是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl1lcq",
      "author": "canned-fishasshole",
      "created_utc": 1784507887,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl1lcq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She wasnt concerned when a wheel flew off my truck and I smashed into a guard rail in January \n  Then a few days later her co worker and some mutual friends came over for dinner, he gifted her a puzzle  from their work she wanted. \n Her eyes lit up and she gave a very endearing thank you and said aww you do listen.\n\n I had just given her a 10qt kitchen aid mixer for Christmas and she responded with \" good job\"\n\n I knew right then and there that she didnt love me.\n  I thought she was cheating and everyone told me she and him were nothing but co workers.\n\n  Turns out she was planning on leaving me for 2 years, had everything planned for doing so in may.\n \n I heard she just moved in with him, guess I was right.",
      "body_zh": "一月份，当我的卡车的轮子飞落而我撞上护栏时，她并不担心 \n  几天后，她的同事和一些共同的朋友过来吃晚饭，他送给她一个她想要的他们工作中的拼图。 \n 她的眼睛亮了起来，她非常可爱地表示感谢，并说哇哦，你一定会听的。\n\n 我刚刚送给她一个 10 夸脱的厨房辅助搅拌机作为圣诞节礼物，她回答说“干得好”\n\n 我当时就知道她不爱我。\n  我以为她在作弊，每个人都告诉我她和他只是同事。\n\n  原来她计划离开我两年，五月份就已经做好了一切计划。\n \n 我听说她刚刚搬去和他住在一起，我猜我是对的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymb7ii",
      "author": "Soldier-Girl94",
      "created_utc": 1784525726,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymb7ii/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He punched me in the face. Not for the first time, but it was definitely the last. It was like a lightbulb went off in my head. I knew I had to get out. I went to his sister's house, told her and her BF (who my ex was terrified of) they got me cleaned up and helped me get ahold of my family across the country. My dad bought me a plane ticket and I was gone the next day. Took nothing with me, I was lucky I had my military ID in my pocket that day so I could get on the plane. Never spoke to him again, everything was handled by a 3rd party with the divorce. Didn't have any money or kids. \n\nAll worth it, I'm now happily married to a wonderful man. We have 3 beautiful kids. Couldn't ask for anything better.",
      "body_zh": "他打了我的脸。这不是第一次，但绝对是最后一次。就像我脑子里的一个灯泡熄灭了。我知道我必须出去。我去了他姐姐的家，告诉她和她的男朋友（我的前男友很害怕）他们把我清理干净了，并帮助我联系了全国各地的家人。我爸爸给我买了一张机票，第二天我就走了。我什么也没带，幸运的是那天我口袋里有军人身份证，这样我就可以上飞机了。再也没有和他说过话，离婚时一切都是由第三者处理的。没有钱，也没有孩子。 \n\n一切都是值得的，我现在幸福地嫁给了一个很棒的男人。我们有3个漂亮的孩子。不能要求更好的了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylnhfz",
      "author": "Kevin686766",
      "created_utc": 1784515592,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylnhfz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We where together for ten years. It was something I can't describe. The relationship we had. It was perfect. We loved each other. Two parts didn't exist. We where one perfect balance of happiness. Soulmates.\n\n Then I had a injury at work. \n\nIt injured my head and they had to remove part of my scull. They took some of my brain and tried to fix it up.\n\nI wasn't the same. The hospital kept me a couple weeks. Said I would either recover after a few months maybe six or never but wouldn't be the same.\n\nThe past and history is different at this point.\n\nI remember telling her to move and leave me.\n\nMy family told me she said that it was to much and she had to leave.\n\nEither way I lost my soul and my soulmate.",
      "body_zh": "我们在一起十年了。这是我无法描述的事情。我们曾经的关系。太完美了。我们彼此相爱。有两个部分不存在。我们是幸福的完美平衡点。灵魂伴侣。\n\n 后来我在工作中受伤了。 \n\n我的头受伤了，他们不得不切除我的部分船桨。他们拿走了我的一些大脑并试图修复它。\n\n我不一样。医院让我住了几个星期。说我要么会在几个月后或者六个月后康复，要么永远不会康复，但不会是一样的。\n\n过去和历史在这一点上已经不同了。\n\n我记得告诉她搬走并离开我。\n\n我的家人告诉我，她说这太过分了，她必须离开。\n\n不管怎样，我失去了我的灵魂和我的灵魂伴侣。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylhgdy",
      "author": "Altruistic_Cap3472",
      "created_utc": 1784513411,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylhgdy/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She actually called it out first. For most of our marriage, she made more money than me. She had long imagined herself having a nice, easy, low paying job while taking care of the house, while her husband made enough money for the whole family, and that was never me.\n\nAt one point, I had a choice between a really good-paying job where I would never be home, and a lower-paying job with more potential and fewer hours. I took the lower-paying job, and she said we should get a divorce. I said I was open to discussing it, and that's when it became apparent that she was only threatening the divorce with the hopes that it would scare me into taking the job I didn't want. *That* was the final straw.",
      "body_zh": "原来是她先喊出来的。在我们婚姻的大部分时间里，她赚的钱都比我多。她一直幻想着自己能有一份不错、轻松、低薪的工作，同时还能照顾家庭，而她的丈夫则赚足够的钱养活整个家庭，但那从来不是我。\n\n有一次，我面临着一个选择，要么是一份薪水很高但永远不会回家的工作，要么是一份薪水较低但潜力更大、工作时间更少的工作。我接受了低薪工作，她说我们应该离婚。我说我愿意讨论这个问题，就在那时，很明显她只是威胁要离婚，希望以此吓唬我接受我不想要的工作。 *那*是最后一根稻草。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjwjng",
      "author": "how2dresswell",
      "created_utc": 1784496040,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjwjng/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "he was meeting friends (couples) at a town christmas lighting; i said \"awesome! let me grab my jacket\" and he told me he didn't want me to go. then came home like nothing was wrong\n\nfor context, we had been in therapy immediately after the wedding (he told me pretty much the day after we got married that he made a mistake and he has too much childhood trauma to be a husband or a father) and he was waxing and waning with that- some days he was feeling like everything was great, the next day acting like everything was doomed\n\n i realized he was never going to make a decision (either actually TRY or don't) so i left\n\nalso found out, after the fact, that he was cheating on me with a co worker",
      "body_zh": "他在镇上的圣诞点灯会上与朋友（情侣）会面；我说“太棒了！让我拿起我的夹克”，他告诉我他不想让我走。然后就回家了，好像什么都没有发生一样\n\n就背景而言，我们在婚礼后立即接受了治疗（他几乎在我们结婚后的第二天就告诉我，他犯了一个错误，他有太多的童年创伤，无法成为丈夫或父亲），他对此也有起有落——有些日子他感觉一切都很好，第二天又表现得好像一切都注定了\n\n 我意识到他永远不会做出决定（无论是尝试还是不尝试），所以我离开了\n\n事后还发现他和同事一起欺骗我"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjk49d",
      "author": "GlitterBirb",
      "created_utc": 1784492701,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjk49d/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There was no last straw, really. That was the challenge. Drawing the line when I realized it was actually crossed a long time ago.  \n  \nIt was more maturing and self reflection on my part and realizing that I was in an abusive relationship with someone with a likely personality disorder, and it would harm the kids. His mother and I were close and that made it extra hard because she simply didn't believe that he \"meant\" any of the things that he did, and it made me question myself at several points. My own parents also found it hard to believe that someone so likeable and successful was a different person behind closed doors. Reading about domestic abuse, NPD and ASPD helped keep me sane.",
      "body_zh": "确实，没有最后一根稻草。这就是挑战。当我意识到它实际上很久以前就被跨越时，我就划清了界限。  \n  \n对我来说，这是更加成熟和自我反思，并意识到我与可能患有人格障碍的人处于虐待关系，这会伤害孩子。他的母亲和我很亲密，这让事情变得格外困难，因为她根本不相信他所做的任何事情都是“认真的”，这让我在很多方面质疑自己。我自己的父母也很难相信一个如此可爱和成功的人在闭门造车后却是另一个人。阅读有关家庭暴力、NPD 和 ASPD 的内容有助于我保持理智。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl0xlp",
      "author": "PothosHustle",
      "created_utc": 1784507662,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl0xlp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He smashed my birthday cake at my birthday we were celebrating at my grandma's on the first major holiday after my grandpa had passed away. He was so drunk, he also groped me in a really gross way right in front of my dad, passed out on the bathroom floor just as we were sitting down to dinner and I had to break in to wake him up, he shouted at my mom while I was crying about the cake smash and when we were leaving, he ran back inside, shoving my grandma out of the way because he thought he'd left a half drunk beer behind. I was humiliated that it had gotten so bad and began making plans to move immediately, filling for divorce and moved out two months later.",
      "body_zh": "在我爷爷去世后的第一个重大节日，我们在奶奶家庆祝我的生日时，他打碎了我的生日蛋糕。他醉得很厉害，还在我爸爸面前用一种非常恶心的方式摸我，就在我们坐下来吃晚饭的时候昏倒在浴室的地板上，我不得不闯进来叫醒他，当我为蛋糕破碎而哭泣时，他对我妈妈大喊大叫，当我们离开时，他跑回屋里，把我奶奶推开，因为他以为他留下了半醉的啤酒。我对事情变得如此糟糕感到羞辱，并开始计划立即搬家，办理离婚手续，两个月后搬出。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyipedq",
      "author": "RamblingBrambles",
      "created_utc": 1784484538,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyipedq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I had dealt with 5 years of being treated like shit. Basically a maid he could fuck and terrorize when he was drunk (every night) along with the occasional death threats (but they were \"jokes\" according to him)\n\nI woke up early one morning and was sitting in the livingroom with my dog drinking coffee. He eventually got up and came out all pissed off that i got out of bed before him, accusing me of not wanting to be around him. Just being really nasty for the dumbest reasons. \n\nThe moment his truck was out of our driveway, I called my mom and asked her to help me pack my shit. I was out of that house in maybe 2 hours. He got to come home to an empty house.",
      "body_zh": "我已经经历了 5 年被当作狗屎一样对待的经历。基本上是一个他可以在他喝醉的时候操和恐吓的女仆（每天晚上），偶尔还会受到死亡威胁（但据他说，这些都是“笑话”）\n\n一天早上我醒得很早，和我的狗坐在客厅里喝咖啡。他最终站起来，因为我在他之前起床而非常生气，指责我不想和他在一起。只是因为最愚蠢的原因而变得非常令人讨厌。 \n\n当他的卡车驶出我们的车道时，我打电话给我妈妈，请她帮我收拾我的东西。大约两个小时后我就离开了那所房子。他必须回到家，看到一间空房子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylh71i",
      "author": "Blakelock82",
      "created_utc": 1784513318,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylh71i/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She hit me. I grew up in a single parent house and my mom always taught us to not hit girls and when we were old enough explained how my dad would beat the shit out of her. So I learned early on, you don't hit girls, and you don't hit your partner. \n\nMy ex wife however had a flare for the dramatics and after months and months of issues, we were having an argument and she slapped me. That was it. I packed my things, moved out within an hour and never went back. It's taken me nearly 20 years to recover and come back from the mistake I made of marrying my ex. As tough as it's been, as costly as it's been, leaving was one of the best decisions I've ever made.",
      "body_zh": "她打了我。我在单亲家庭长大，我妈妈总是教我们不要打女孩，当我们足够大的时候，我爸爸会解释如何把她打得屁滚尿流。所以我很早就知道，你不能打女孩，也不能打你的伴侣。 \n\n然而，我的前妻很喜欢戏剧化，经过几个月的问题，我们发生了争吵，她打了我一巴掌。就是这样。我收拾好东西，一个小时内就搬走了，再也没有回去。我花了近20年的时间才从与前任结婚的错误中恢复过来。尽管这很艰难，尽管代价高昂，但离开是我做过的最好的决定之一。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl5ks9",
      "author": "operalobotomy",
      "created_utc": 1784509227,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl5ks9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My kids being around all the time was their last straw.\n\nI got sole custody of my kids due to the addiction issues their other parent has. About a year later, my spouse quit their full time job, withdrew their retirement fund, and moved an hour away to be closer to their writing partner for the comic books they wanted to make. Once their retirement fund cleared their bank account, they asked for a divorce. They claimed their reason is that my oldest, who has anxiety, ADHD and is on the spectrum, is going to snap and kill someone someday. They refused marriage counseling. They said I wasn't the problem but my kids were. \n\nThey lived with us for ten years.",
      "body_zh": "我的孩子们一直在身边是他们的最后一根稻草。\n\n由于我的孩子的另一位父母有成瘾问题，我获得了他们的唯一监护权。大约一年后，我的配偶辞去了全职工作，提取了退休基金，并搬到一个小时以外的地方，以便离他们想要制作的漫画书的写作伙伴更近。当他们的退休基金结清银行账户后，他们要求离婚。他们声称他们的理由是我的大儿子患有焦虑症、多动症并且患有自闭症谱系障碍，有一天他会发脾气并杀死某人。他们拒绝婚姻咨询。他们说我不是问题，但我的孩子们有问题。 \n\n他们和我们一起生活了十年。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymc09c",
      "author": "LWdkw",
      "created_utc": 1784526118,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymc09c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We already knew we weren't doing well but we had young kids so we were really, really trying.\n\nI'm dutch so we do gift giving at St. Nicholas. He was supposed to get me two gifts. Two days before he realized he forgot about my gifts, I said okay: we'll wrap this thing I just bought myself, and then just get me one thing.\n\nThen he forgot even that. My kids even asked: why did Sinterklaas bring you so few gifta mommy?\n\nAnd that night he started another checkin: are we on the right path? And I just didn't have the energy to assure him that we were getting better. I was so, so tired of putting in the energy to NOT break up. I just couldn't do it any more.",
      "body_zh": "我们已经知道我们做得不好，但我们有小孩，所以我们真的非常努力。\n\n我是荷兰人，所以我们在圣尼古拉斯送礼。他应该给我送两件礼物。在他意识到他忘记了我的礼物的前两天，我说好吧：我们把我自己刚买的这个东西包起来，然后给我拿一件东西。\n\n然后他甚至忘记了这一点。我的孩子们甚至问：为什么圣诞老人给妈妈带了这么少的礼物？\n\n那天晚上，他又开始了一次检查：我们走在正确的道路上吗？我只是没有精力向他保证我们正在变得更好。我实在是太厌倦了投入精力不分手。我只是不能再这么做了。"
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    {
      "id": "oym62rs",
      "author": "ConsiderThis_42",
      "created_utc": 1784523298,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym62rs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I got breast cancer and he immediately found another woman to replace me before I even got out of the hospital from surgery. Up to that point, he broke all the other vows except \"til death do you part\" and I wasn't going to wait around for that one. \n\nHe checked all of the boxes for narcissism and to a narcissist forgiveness is just a game they play with fools. Now I immediately leave any church congregation when the minister or priest that tells me that I must forgive someone like him because they do not have enough life experience to advise someone like me. I got put through hell trying to make a marriage to a narcissist work. Never again.",
      "body_zh": "当我得了乳腺癌时，在我手术出院之前，他立即找了另一个女人来代替我。到那时，他打破了所有其他誓言，除了“直到死亡将你们分开”，而我不会等待那个誓言。 \n\n他检查了所有自恋的方框，对于自恋者来说，宽恕只是他们与傻瓜玩的游戏。现在，当牧师或神父告诉我，我必须原谅像他这样的人，因为他们没有足够的生活经验来为像我这样的人提供建议时，我立即离开任何教会会众。为了与自恋者的作品联姻，我经历了地狱般的痛苦。再也不会了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylp18c",
      "author": "Confident_One_9430",
      "created_utc": 1784516171,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylp18c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "6 marriage counselors. \nNothing was ever her fault. \nEach time they suggested we try something to fix stuff, she would change it to \"you need to change it. I'm fine\".\nAnd shame on me for putting up with it for a decade. \n\nShe overdrafted our checkings by buying some fucking pampered chef thing, and blamed me because I had paid the mortgage on time \"without telling her\".\nI couldn't do it anymore. 22 years of marriage, nothing that ever happened was her fault, and i literally never heard her apologize for one thing. \n\nHappily remarried now to someone that strives to be an equal partner in my life, and challenges me to be better.",
      "body_zh": "6名婚姻顾问。 \n没有什么是她的错。 \n每次他们建议我们尝试一些东西来解决问题时，她都会将其更改为“你需要更改它。我很好”。\n我为自己忍受了十年而感到羞愧。 \n\n她透支了我们的支票，买了一些他妈的娇惯的厨师用品，并责怪我，因为我“没有告诉她”按时支付了抵押贷款。\n我再也做不到了。 22年的婚姻，发生的任何事情都不是她的错，我真的从未听到她为一件事道歉。 \n\n现在幸福地再婚，嫁给了一个努力成为我生活中平等伙伴并挑战我变得更好的人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykq06l",
      "author": "Subulba",
      "created_utc": 1784504081,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykq06l/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My brand new husband left the wedding because he became so jealous that I was dancing with my male best friend (of over a decade). I spent my wedding night with my sister and I didn't see him until 3pm the next day.\n\nBestie and I have never had anything but an entirely platonic relationship and we were dancing in a group with our friends and his gf (who I adore) after I had asked betrothed to dance with me and he said no....\n\n Filed for divorce three months later and redeemed the free anniversary cake my bakery gave us as an apology for screwing up the frosting on the wedding cake as my divorce cake.\n\nGood riddance",
      "body_zh": "我的新丈夫离开了婚礼，因为他非常嫉妒我和我最好的男性朋友（十多年了）跳舞。我和姐姐一起度过了新婚之夜，直到第二天下午 3 点才见到他。\n\n闺蜜和我除了完全柏拉图式的关系之外从未有过任何东西，在我要求未婚夫和我跳舞但他拒绝后，我们和我们的朋友和他的女朋友（我崇拜的）一起跳舞。\n\n 三个月后提出离婚，并兑换了我的面包店送给我们的免费周年纪念蛋糕，作为我把婚礼蛋糕上的糖霜搞砸作为离婚蛋糕的道歉。\n\n祝你摆脱困境"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykwci3",
      "author": "whatyourmamasaid",
      "created_utc": 1784506124,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykwci3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The water got turned off when I was in PA school.  I’d done the clear majority of the bills/house/kid/car/yard care for 7 yrs while he finished his masters (lotsa procrastination.)  So when it was my turn in grad school, he slid into his typical complacency yet assured me he was on top of everything.  No you weren’t!  Bec by the time the water gets turned off, the bills have been delinquent for months!!\n\nThat’s it, we’re done.  Never had a late bill or creditor call since!  He’s mad bec he has no one to clean or cook or mow.  Kid doesn’t talk to him much.  “I never get a second date” was his big complaint on FB!",
      "body_zh": "当我在宾夕法尼亚州学校时，水被关闭了。  7年里，我承担了大部分的账单/房子/孩子/汽车/庭院护理，而他完成了硕士学位（很多拖延。）所以当轮到我读研究生时，他陷入了他典型的自满情绪，但向我保证他在一切事情上都是最重要的。  不，你不是！  因为当水被关闭时，账单已经拖欠几个月了！\n\n就这样，我们完成了。  从那以后再也没有收到过迟交的账单或债权人的电话！  他很生气，因为没有人可以打扫、做饭或割草。  孩子不怎么跟他说话。  “我从来没有第二次约会”是他在脸书上最大的抱怨！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykuug5",
      "author": "luckstang7",
      "created_utc": 1784505634,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykuug5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After a decade I was still a party of one vs him and his parents. Didn’t matter what the issue or conflict was, everything was always entirely my fault and nothing I did was right. I was expected to be a machine, not a human. Years of those little conflicts and demands built up over all that time. Then it was the constant needling during the pandemic - it was a problem I was always home, existing, not making enough money for him to do what he wanted to do, verbal attacks every time I’d come out of the bedroom about absolutely anything and everything. The exhaustion from it all finally won out.",
      "body_zh": "十年后，我仍然是他和他父母的一伙人。无论问题或冲突是什么，一切都完全是我的错，我所做的一切都是对的。我被期望成为一台机器，而不是一个人。多年来这些小小的冲突和要求一直在积累。然后是大流行期间不断的针刺——这是一个问题，我总是呆在家里，存在，没有赚到足够的钱让他做他想做的事，每次我从卧室出来时，我都会对任何事情进行言语攻击。一切带来的疲惫终于战胜了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyll4xq",
      "author": "GiveMeGhostStories",
      "created_utc": 1784514733,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyll4xq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not me, but my mom. For about three years her husband was a mentally and verbally abusive man whose alcohol consumption was increasing, especially after he retired from the military. Then he was drinking from the time he woke up until he passed out. The final straw was when it turned physical and he threw my mom up against the wall and choked her until she almost passed out. \n\nThankfully they didn’t have kids together so that made the divorce simpler, and her attorney made him pay all the legal fees.\n\nIt’s been almost twenty years since then and we are doing so much better without him!",
      "body_zh": "不是我，是我妈妈。大约三年来，她的丈夫在精神和言语上都受到虐待，他的饮酒量不断增加，尤其是在他从军队退役后。然后他从醒来到昏倒都在喝酒。最后一根稻草是当事情变成身体上的时候，他把我妈妈推到墙上并掐住她的脖子，直到她几乎昏倒。 \n\n值得庆幸的是，他们没有一起生孩子，这样离婚就更简单了，她的律师让他支付了所有的律师费。\n\n从那时起已经快二十年了，没有他我们做得更好！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykgfb1",
      "author": "ChampionshipBetter91",
      "created_utc": 1784501260,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykgfb1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My XH is an alcoholic.\n\nLife with an addict is chaos, so... My life was exhausting, working and holding everything together, while he worked to wreck it all.\n\nHe was headed into rehab for the third time, and my mother asked if I loved him, and I hesitated answering, realizing that I really did not. At least, not anymore.\n\nOnce I admitted that to myself, and began drawing boundaries, hoo boy... When I refused to pay for a fourth stint in rehab, and then a vacation, he threw some tantrums that bordered on violent. I kicked him out, took my rings off, and hired a lawyer two days later.",
      "body_zh": "我的XH是个酒鬼。\n\n和瘾君子在一起的生活是混乱的，所以……我的生活很疲惫，我努力把一切都放在一起，而他则努力破坏这一切。\n\n他第三次进入康复中心，我母亲问我是否爱他，我犹豫着回答，意识到我真的不爱。至少，不再是了。\n\n一旦我向自己承认了这一点，并开始划清界限，天哪……当我拒绝支付第四次康复治疗费用以及随后的假期费用时，他就发脾气，近乎暴力。我把他赶了出去，摘下了戒指，两天后聘请了一名律师。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylwgh5",
      "author": "chinupshouldersback",
      "created_utc": 1784519139,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylwgh5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I gave him space in a couples counseling session to apologize. (TW for SA) At this point, unbeknownst to him, I had already consulted a lawyer.   \n\n\n>!I explained that when he had sex with my body when I was sick, I did not consent.  !<He insisted that it was \"miscommunication issues\". I explained that from his perspective, >!I was asleep the entire time!<. He chuckled and said that from his perspective, >!it wasn't even really that long!<.\n\nThere was no going back from that. The look on his face when he said it was so snide and nasty. He fully believed he was in the right!",
      "body_zh": "我在夫妻咨询会上给了他道歉的空间。 （TW代表SA）此时，在他不知情的情况下，我已经咨询了律师。   \n\n\n>！我解释说，当我生病时他与我的身体发生性关系，我不同意。  ！<他坚称这是“沟通不畅的问题”。我解释说，从他的角度来看，>！我一直在睡觉！<。他笑道，从他的角度来看，>！其实并没有那么长！<。\n\n从此再也没有回头路了。当他说这句话的时候，他脸上的表情是如此的冷嘲热讽和令人厌恶。他坚信自己是对的！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiwgbj",
      "author": "Darthscary",
      "created_utc": 1784486443,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiwgbj/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She got a flat in the middle of a rainy night on a small shoulder, was prone to UTI’s so I had her take my car since she was complaining about having to pee while on the phone with her earlier.  Pitch black, raining, on a small shoulder in the middle of rush hour. \n\nAfter replacing the tire, I throw my back out - the kind that makes you so immobile, the spasms knock you to the ground.  Get home, my back just gets worse and immediately climbed into bed asking her to grab a heating pad.\n\nNot only did she say “No,” but she complained about doing it and couldn’t be bothered.",
      "body_zh": "她在雨夜的时候肩膀太小，容易患尿路感染，所以我让她开我的车，因为她之前抱怨在打电话时不得不撒尿。  高峰时段，漆黑一片，下着雨，在一个小路肩上。 \n\n更换轮胎后，我向后仰去——那种让你一动不动、痉挛把你撞倒在地的方式。  回到家，我的背部变得更糟，我立即爬到床上让她拿一个加热垫。\n\n她不仅说“不”，而且还抱怨这样做，并且不屑一顾。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykx4ex",
      "author": "Laitholiel",
      "created_utc": 1784506378,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykx4ex/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not divorced, but feeling like my husband hates me. Nothing I do is enough. Any “bad” thing completely outweighs the good I do. We got in a fight where he was screaming at me as usual (even though \\*I’m\\* the irrational, emotional one) and he accused me of being a bad mother, said I was miserable to parent with, and said being married to me was like a prison sentence. I gave birth 6 months ago and I have no one here. Admittedly I cry a lot and feel overwhelmed because my baby only sleeps in increments of 1-2 hours and wants to contact nap. FWIW, I know I’m a good mother.",
      "body_zh": "没有离婚，但是感觉老公讨厌我。我所做的一切都不够。任何“坏”事都完全超过我所做的好事。我们吵了一架，他像往常一样对我尖叫（尽管“我”是一个不理智、情绪化的人），他指责我是一个坏母亲，说我很难养育孩子，还说和我结婚就像坐牢一样。我六个月前生了孩子，但这里没有人。不可否认，我经常哭并且感到不知所措，因为我的宝宝只睡 1-2 小时，并且想要小睡。 FWIW，我知道我是一个好母亲。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykq9ol",
      "author": "SouthernAndSarcastic",
      "created_utc": 1784504164,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykq9ol/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I went to the hospital thinking I had a heart attack & he was too drunk to pick me up when I was discharged. I had to Uber home. And I told him I needed him that weekend because I was scared something would happen & I would be home alone with our young kids (the Dr wanted to admit me for a stress test but I promised I would go on Monday). He was gone literally all weekend on & off until around 11PM on Sunday. When I told him my feelings he said “what did you want me to do?”.  Got my shit in order & left him a few months later. Best decision I have ever made.",
      "body_zh": "我去医院以为我心脏病发作了，当我出院时他喝得太醉了来接我。我不得不打优步回家。我告诉他那个周末我需要他，因为我害怕会发生什么事情&我会独自在家和我们的孩子在一起（医生想让我接受压力测试，但我保证我会在周一去）。他整个周末都断断续续地不在，直到周日晚上 11 点左右。当我告诉他我的感受时，他说“你想让我做什么？”。  几个月后，我的事情就安排好了并离开了他。我做过的最好的决定。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyltfnm",
      "author": "Chevalier77",
      "created_utc": 1784517899,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyltfnm/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Mine was mixing my laundry with hers.  I don't even remember why i did it, but something about that caused damage to one of her things. \n\nWe both fought about it,  and now we're laughing about how silly it was.  But at the time there was her mom's cancer,  stuff with her sisters kids, work drama.  It all got to be too much stress at once and my ADHD brand of chaos and messiness wasn't diagnosed back then (I'm getting evaluated soon, yay)\n\nWe both stayed friends after, and we both miss our relationship, and we're both currently dating someone. It's strange.",
      "body_zh": "我的把我的衣服和她的衣服混合在一起。  我什至不记得我为什么这么做，但其中的一些事情导致了她的一件东西的损坏。 \n\n我们都为此争吵过，现在我们都在嘲笑这件事是多么愚蠢。  但当时她妈妈得了癌症，还有她姐妹们的孩子，工作上的戏剧性事件。  这一切都一下子承受了太大的压力，而我的多动症品牌的混乱和凌乱当时还没有被诊断出来（我很快就会接受评估，是的）\n\n之后我们都保持了朋友关系，我们都怀念我们的关系，而且我们目前都在约会某人。很奇怪。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj6x21",
      "author": "yellowbythedozen",
      "created_utc": 1784489344,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj6x21/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "In our last session of marriage counselling, she mentioned that she doesn’t have an emotional connection with me because she doesn’t trust me. The counsellor recommended we try re-establishing a connection by holding hands or cuddling, which I already knew she hated both, so when she said exactly that I wasn’t surprised, but at no point in her response did I get any indication she was willing to try. She also mentioned how she doesn’t know if she’s gay, and associated sex with rape.\n\nSo those were a lot of the final nails in the coffin on this marriage.",
      "body_zh": "在我们上次的婚姻咨询中，她提到她与我没有情感联系，因为她不信任我。咨询师建议我们尝试通过牵手或拥抱来重新建立联系，我已经知道她讨厌这两种方式，所以当她准确地说出我并不感到惊讶时，但在她的回应中我没有得到任何迹象表明她愿意尝试。她还提到她不知道自己是否是同性恋，并将性与强奸联系在一起。\n\n所以，这些都是这段婚姻棺材上的最后一颗钉子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk9j3v",
      "author": "Zella_981",
      "created_utc": 1784499400,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk9j3v/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had already split everything cause we were not in a good place but decided to try and live as roommates for the sake of keeping the house we bought together. But I was paying almost 60% of the bills and he around 40ish% (we did it proportionally to salaries) and when I voiced I was not happy with that arrangement again cause I had the shittier bedroom and smaller office, he said it is best to part ways. And I agreed.\nWe also started fighting more and more.\nSo him kinda setting the step for it made it easier for me to finally be done with it as well.",
      "body_zh": "我们已经分了一切，因为我们住的地方不太好，但为了保留我们一起买的房子，我们决定尝试以室友的方式生活。但我支付了近 60% 的账单，他支付了大约 40%（我们按工资比例支付），当我表示我再次对这种安排不满意，因为我的卧室更糟糕，办公室更小，他说最好分道扬镳。我同意了。\n我们也开始越来越吵架。\n所以他为这件事设定了一个步骤，让我也更容易最终完成它。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl8ol6",
      "author": "Curious_Reveal4626",
      "created_utc": 1784510292,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl8ol6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Me corrio de la casa, me fui y a los 3 dias me llaman mis papas que donde andaba que mi ex comento que llevaba 3 dias si llegar poniendome como un irresponsable, decidi volver y pues en esos 3 dias pues tuve algo de accion y quedo un preservativo en la guantera que luego ella encontro y en la siguiente discicion que tuvimos me manda una foto de un wey sin camisa con el condon que encontro, dando su opinion de la calidad del condon. Jaja ni la pense La mande a la VRG mi compa y a los dias quizo una reconciliación y que creen. La volvi a Mandar a la VRG.",
      "body_zh": "Me corrio de la casa, me fui y a los 3 dias me llaman mis papas que donde andaba que mi ex comento que llevaba 3 dias si llegar poniendome como un irresponsable, decidi volver y pues en esos 3 dias pues tuve algo de accion y quedo un preservativo en la关泰拉·鲁戈·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃拉·埃里克Jaja ni la pense La mande a la VRG mi compa y a los dias quizo una reconciliación y que creen. La volvi a Mandar a la VRG。"
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    {
      "id": "oym1y9y",
      "author": "acupofsunshinetea",
      "created_utc": 1784521461,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym1y9y/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "i asked him why he treated our female friend better than me, his wife, and pointed out a recent example where she said something that was exactly like something i would say and he reacted positively while if i would have said it he’d have belittled me or been rude toward me for it. it was the first time i’d found an example of him treating me poorly that he could “see” - and he admitted he didn’t know why, but it had just become a habit. so i said i think we should separate then if mistreating me has become so common for you that it’s formed a habit.",
      "body_zh": "我问他为什么他对待我们的女性朋友比我（他的妻子）更好，并指出了最近的一个例子，她说的话与我所说的一模一样，他反应积极，而如果我这么说，他会因此贬低我或对我粗鲁。这是我第一次发现他能“看到”他对我不好的例子——他承认他不知道为什么，但这已经成为一种习惯。所以我说，如果虐待我对你来说已经变得如此普遍，以至于形成了一种习惯，那么我认为我们应该分开。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjyzei",
      "author": "Lonely_Owl_3",
      "created_utc": 1784496652,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjyzei/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my gastroenterologist told me ' I am not supposed to give martial advice, but I highly recommend you leave your husband before the stress kills you.' This was after months of mysterious abdominal pain (which almost resulted in an unnecessary appendectomy) as well a colonoscopy to try and determine the cause. After the colonoscopy came back clean, he sat me down and asked what else was going on and I broke down about the emotional and psychological abuse that I had been experiencing for years. I took his advice and the pain mysteriously stopped.",
      "body_zh": "当我的胃肠科医生告诉我“我不应该提供军事建议，但我强烈建议你在压力杀死你之前离开你的丈夫。”这是在经历了几个月神秘的腹痛（几乎导致不必要的阑尾切除术）以及结肠镜检查以尝试确定原因之后。结肠镜检查结果干净后，他让我坐下来，问还发生了什么事，我崩溃了，因为我多年来一直在经历情感和心理虐待。我听从了他的建议，疼痛神秘地停止了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylk6ob",
      "author": "lazymusings123",
      "created_utc": 1784514390,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylk6ob/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Gave my husband an ultimatum to quit drinking…he did, but it took him two years from when I asked for him to actually do it. We had another baby. When she was eight weeks old, he told me he was really “thinking about” going to talk to someone since he was unemployed and “lacking motivation.” He told me he had no motivation to do anything since he had quit drinking. We had two young daughters. I knew deep down he was never going to make the appointment to talk to someone, and I couldn’t wait around. My life too. A sad situation for everyone involved.",
      "body_zh": "给我丈夫下了最后通牒，要求他戒酒……他做到了，但从我要求他真正戒酒开始，他花了两年时间。我们又生了一个孩子。当她八周大时，他告诉我，他真的“考虑”去和某人谈谈，因为他失业并且“缺乏动力”。他告诉我，自从戒酒后，他没有动力做任何事情。我们有两个年幼的女儿。我内心深处知道他永远不会预约与某人交谈，我不能等待。我的生活也是如此。对于所有相关人员来说，这是一个悲伤的情况。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj6zyf",
      "author": "BikeTemporary2291",
      "created_utc": 1784489366,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj6zyf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "IRS agent showing up to the house. Put liens on everything we owned. Everything about my husband‘s ”company” had been a total lie and we were completely buried in tax debt. I had no clue because he insisted on handling all the financials. Four children, a new home we’d built, new furniture… \n\n\n\nIt was one thing do go through financial difficulties, but a whole other to be lied to about it by the person you’re building a life with. happily divorced 25 years (and according to my adult children he is currently again buried in property tax debt)",
      "body_zh": "国税局特工出现在房子里。对我们拥有的一切进行留置权。关于我丈夫的“公司”的一切都是彻头彻尾的谎言，我们完全陷入了税收债务之中。我不知道，因为他坚持要处理所有的财务事宜。四个孩子，我们建造的新家，新家具…… \n\n\n\n经历经济困难是一回事，而与你一起生活的人对此撒谎则完全是另一回事。幸福地离婚了 25 年（根据我成年子女的说法，他目前再次陷入财产税债务之中）"
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    {
      "id": "oyjjehs",
      "author": "gluten-free-pancakes",
      "created_utc": 1784492522,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjjehs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I told him I was really struggling with my mental health and was scared I was going to hurt myself and he told me he “didn’t have time for that because of school.” After I brought it up again, he claimed he would never say something like that. After that he told me he’d met his soulmate and they were all gonna be a throuple and after I went to therapy, I could join the poly relationship and it would fix our marriage. I said no thank you, he told me to leave. I left shortly after that and filed for divorce under “irreconcilable differences”",
      "body_zh": "我告诉他，我的心理健康状况确实很差，很害怕我会伤害自己，他告诉我，“因为上学，他没有时间这么做”。当我再次提起这件事时，他声称他永远不会说这样的话。之后他告诉我他遇到了他的灵魂伴侣，他们都会成为一对，在我接受治疗后，我可以加入多聚关系，这将修复我们的婚姻。我说不用了，谢谢，他让我离开。不久之后我就离开了，并以“不可调和的分歧”为由提出离婚。"
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    {
      "id": "oyku9b2",
      "author": "AspiringITgurll",
      "created_utc": 1784505440,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyku9b2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My hand flared up mysteriously after my son’s 1st birthday party. During diaper changes, if my son accidentally kicked my hand, it was 10/10 pain. I couldn’t move it and went to the ER two days in a row to find an explanation to no avail.\n\nWhen I returned from the second ER visit, he suggested I take a pain killer (I didn’t) and then left me to care for my 1 and 2 year old while he went golfing for 8 hours. When I asked if he was really going golfing after I had just left the ER, he said “well my buddy is already on his way so I have to!”",
      "body_zh": "在我儿子的一岁生日聚会后，我的手神秘地发热。换尿布的时候，如果我儿子不小心踢到我的手，那是十分痛苦的。我无法移动它，连续两天去急诊室寻找解释却无济于事。\n\n当我第二次急诊室回来时，他建议我服用止痛药（我没有服用），然后让我照顾我 1 岁和 2 岁的孩子，而他则去打 8 个小时的高尔夫球。当我问我刚离开急诊室后他是否真的要去打高尔夫球时，他说：“好吧，我的朋友已经在路上了，所以我必须去！”"
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    {
      "id": "oykfjvq",
      "author": "Goodlittlewitch",
      "created_utc": 1784501019,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykfjvq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "In a drunken rage (one of many), he outlined that I only had value as a human being because I had married him  \nAnd “rode his coattails” to become someone anyone would even want to be forced to associate with. He then went on to list everyone he could think of (including my dead mother and many other women) who were “higher value” and “had actually done something worth anything” with their lives. 3 kids, a house he rarely spent any time in,  a wife he couldn’t have cared less about unless it helped him image. \n\nThat was it for me.",
      "body_zh": "在醉酒的愤怒中（其中之一），他概述了我作为一个人的价值，因为我嫁给了他  \n并“搭上了他的顺风车”，成为任何人都愿意被迫与之交往的人。然后，他继续列出了他能想到的每个人（包括我死去的母亲和许多其他女性），她们的一生“具有更高的价值”并且“实际上做了一些有价值的事情”。三个孩子，一栋他很少呆在里面的房子，一个他不可能不关心的妻子，除非这有助于他树立形象。 \n\n对我来说就是这样。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjd8zm",
      "author": "Luvscoffee85",
      "created_utc": 1784491079,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjd8zm/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My sign was not wanting to come home to him from work.\n\nI would rather have worked a double shift and from there go to a 2nd job, than ever have to come home to him.\n\nHe wasn’t a happy man in any sense and when he was in one of his moods, I ended up being his favorite punching bag.\n\nBefore leaving, I was literally so stressed from being screamed at/pushed around/blamed for everything going wrong in his life all the time, that I would be sick all the time, my hair started falling out, and just flinch at any change in his mood.",
      "body_zh": "我的信号是不想下班回家见他。\n\n我宁愿做两班倒，然后再做第二份工作，也不愿回家见他。\n\n从任何意义上说，他都不是一个快乐的人，当他心情不好时，我最终成为他最喜欢的出气筒。\n\n在离开之前，我真的因为生活中所有出问题的事情而被尖叫/被推来推去/被指责而感到压力很大，以至于我一直生病，我的头发开始脱落，并且对他情绪的任何变化都会退缩。"
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    {
      "id": "oyjt0qd",
      "author": "poppyannebutterfly",
      "created_utc": 1784495128,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjt0qd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he started telling my son that I was evil, a theif, and that I tried to kill him (never tried because ....death penalty) I recorded it all took the kiddo and filed for divorce.  I was able to terminate any parental rights he had with the kids because of certain  unique circumstances so he is dad in name only.  He loves the kids dearly now that his mental health is better but he stays in check because he knows he has zero rights to the kids and I can block visits at any point in time if he becomes mentally unstable again.",
      "body_zh": "当他开始告诉我的儿子我是邪恶的，是一个小偷，并且我试图杀死他（从未尝试过，因为......死刑）时，我把这一切都记录下来并提出离婚。  由于某些特殊情况，我能够终止他对孩子们的任何父母权利，所以他只是名义上的父亲。  他现在非常爱孩子们，因为他的心理健康状况更好了，但他仍然保持控制，因为他知道他对孩子们的权利为零，如果他再次精神不稳定，我可以随时阻止探视。"
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    {
      "id": "oyj32ls",
      "author": "WyomingCatHouse",
      "created_utc": 1784488225,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj32ls/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My first husband believed that once the ring was on the finger, he didn't need to make any effort. At all. Bad with money, ran up credit cards, didn't pay bills, was so lazy that the neighbors would come out to help me do chores because they knew he was useless. Gained a lot of weight, had really bad hygiene and fancied himself a \"rugged mountain man\" who could survive in the wilderness (major LOL). At some point, I realized I might as well be alone, since I did everything and paid for everything  and he contributed Nothing.",
      "body_zh": "我的第一任丈夫相信，一旦戒指戴在手指上，他就不需要做任何努力。完全没有。不花钱，刷了信用卡，不付账单，太懒了，邻居们都会出来帮我做家务，因为他们知道他没用。体重增加了很多，卫生条件很差，自以为是一个可以在荒野生存的“粗犷的山人”（大笑）。在某个时刻，我意识到我可能还是一个人，因为我做了一切，付出了一切，而他什么也没贡献。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylm5u4",
      "author": "DisastrousMenu3697",
      "created_utc": 1784515105,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylm5u4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "9 time out of 10 she was pulling away from any attempts at affection or intimacy.  ever really enjoyed talking or going out and doing anything together.\n\nNever asking how my day was, ever. I’d get home and she’d be engrossed in iPad for 3 hours.\n\nalways finding things to fault me for - I could vacuum the house and clean all the dishes and put all the washing out, and the only thing she’d say would be “you’ve left the sink full of dirty water”.\n\nFinally she makes orange squash by pouring water first then adding the squash.",
      "body_zh": "十分之九的她都会放弃任何表达爱意或亲密的尝试。  曾经非常喜欢一起聊天或出去做任何事情。\n\n从来没有问过我今天过得怎么样。我回到家，她会全神贯注于 iPad 三个小时。\n\n总是找一些事情来责备我——我可以用吸尘器打扫房子，清理所有的盘子，把所有的洗涤物都倒掉，而她唯一会说的就是“你把水槽里装满了脏水”。\n\n最后，她先倒水，然后加入南瓜，制成橙色南瓜。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylfhkp",
      "author": "Middle_Tea1014",
      "created_utc": 1784512704,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylfhkp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He started being mentally cruel and critical of everything I did, especially after I refused to put anything else on my credit card for. I started having health issues, gaining weight and having migraine headaches. Even the Marriage Counselor pulled me aside after one session and said that I needed to exit the marriage. \n\nI had never heard the term narcissist before, and when the counselor gave me homework to look it up, I broke down and cried because it described him so well. Ex had me thinking I was losing my mind.",
      "body_zh": "他开始在精神上残忍地批评我所做的一切，尤其是在我拒绝在信用卡上存入任何其他东西之后。我开始出现健康问题、体重增加和偏头痛。就连婚姻咨询师在一次咨询后就把我拉到一边，说我需要退出婚姻。 \n\n我以前从未听说过自恋者这个词，当辅导员给我做作业去查这个词时，我崩溃了，哭了，因为它太贴切地描述了他。前任让我觉得我疯了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylqvf6",
      "author": "OttabMike",
      "created_utc": 1784516879,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylqvf6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She was a control freak who always thought she called the shots. She decided one time that I needed to toss my old military uniforms. I told her: no way, they’re important mementos. Six months later, I went to check on them in the spare closet. Gone.\n\nWhen I confronted her, she just smirked and said, \"I threw those out months ago. If it took you this long to notice, you clearly didn't care about them.\" I didn't leave right away, but the damage was done and from that point on there was no saving the marriage.",
      "body_zh": "她是一个控制狂，总是认为自己说了算。有一次她决定我需要扔掉我的旧军装。我告诉她：不行，它们是重要的纪念品。六个月后，我去备用衣柜里检查了它们。走了。\n\n当我面对她时，她只是傻笑着说：“几个月前我就把它们扔掉了。如果你花了这么长时间才注意到，那么你显然并不关心它们。”我没有立即离开，但损害已经造成，从那时起，婚姻就无法挽救了。"
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    {
      "id": "oyl3ds9",
      "author": "Say-what-tho",
      "created_utc": 1784508492,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl3ds9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My husband hadn’t had a full time job in 6 years. Our children were 4 and 6 years old and we had lost our home and moved in with his parents about a year before. I had just pawned some sentimental jewelry from a family member who had passed and another piece that was equally special to me in order to have enough gas money to get to work at the job I hated.   \nAs we pulled into Walmart to get a few things with the last money in our bank account he joyfully told me he was joining ANOTHER online hockey league.",
      "body_zh": "我丈夫已经六年没有找到全职工作了。我们的孩子分别是 4 岁和 6 岁，大约一年前我们失去了家，搬去和他的父母住在一起。我刚刚从一位去世的家庭成员那里典当了一些感伤的珠宝，还有另一件对我来说同样特别的珠宝，以便有足够的汽油钱去做我讨厌的工作。   \n当我们把车开进沃尔玛，用银行账户里最后的钱买一些东西时，他高兴地告诉我他要加入另一个在线曲棍球联赛。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykcqzs",
      "author": "Impressive-Metal-218",
      "created_utc": 1784500218,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykcqzs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he left me home alone during my peak suicide watch to go to a furry convention and then came back with \"new ideas\" to make me work on. I felt like an abused workhorse. A slave in my own home. Even in my depressed state, I was the one making all our money and he asserted himself as my \"manager\". Never asked him to. He never actually added much of value. I needed an assistant to color in my linework and he one day promoted himself to my boss. My mind snapped and I ran away home to live with my mom.",
      "body_zh": "当他在我自杀高峰期把我独自留在家里去参加一个毛茸茸的会议，然后带着“新想法”回来让我继续努力时。我感觉自己像一匹被虐待的主力。我自己家里的奴隶。即使在我沮丧的状态下，我仍然是赚我们所有钱的人，而他则声称自己是我的“经理”。从来没有要求他这样做。他实际上从未增加太多价值。我需要一名助手为我的线条上色，有一天他晋升为我的老板。我的心突然崩溃了，我跑回家和妈妈住在一起。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykz4ui",
      "author": "AndAlrightOk",
      "created_utc": 1784507049,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykz4ui/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had just watched a movie that had a scene about a miscarriage. He didn't know I had experienced that before because I just never thought to bring it up (I always do now, at least a few months into a new relationship). Well, I got really emotional and froze up and didn't know how to talk about it while I was in that state.\n\nIt probably took only 5-10 minutes of him attempting to comfort me before he got so mad at me for not explaining myself that he left our apartment and drove away for a few hours.",
      "body_zh": "我们刚刚看了一部关于流产的电影。他不知道我以前经历过这种事，因为我从来没想过要提起它（我现在总是这样做，至少在建立新关系几个月后）。好吧，我真的很情绪化，僵住了，在那种状态下不知道如何谈论它。\n\n他可能只花了 5 到 10 分钟试图安慰我，然后他就因为我没有解释自己而对我非常生气，以至于他离开了我们的公寓，开车走了几个小时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym9f7t",
      "author": "RealManHumanMan",
      "created_utc": 1784524860,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym9f7t/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I said “I am having a very hard time with my mother’s recent death, please don’t leave me alone on thanksgiving” and she did anyway.  (Her family and I did NOT get along, I asked her to stay home with me for a quiet and calm thanksgiving, just us and the dogs and not leave for an entire week to go stay with her binge-drinking, loud partying gigantic family, she did it anyway.). That was it for me, 13 years and I had enough of always being just an “extra” in her life.  New girlfriend actually loves me.",
      "body_zh": "我说“我母亲最近去世了，我很难受，请不要在感恩节留下我一个人”，但她还是这么做了。  （她的家人和我相处得不好，我让她留在家里和我一起度过一个安静而平静的感恩节，只有我们和狗，整个星期都不要离开去和她酗酒、大声聚会的大家庭住在一起，无论如何她还是这么做了。）这对我来说就是这样，13年了，我已经受够了永远只是她生活中的“额外”。  新女友其实很爱我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym4kro",
      "author": "SirCarboy",
      "created_utc": 1784522621,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym4kro/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Verbal abuse in front of children.  I called it inappropriate.  She wanted an apology for my response but felt none was needed from her as her behaviour was justified.\n\nShe admitted in counselling that her behaviour was justified.\n\nI told her everyone else in my world, even people who don't like me, treat me with more respect and speak more kindly to me.  She said \"they don't have to live with you\".  48 hours later the penny dropped for me and I realised nobody was forcing her to live with me either.",
      "body_zh": "在孩子面前辱骂。  我称其为不恰当。  她希望我为我的回应道歉，但觉得她不需要道歉，因为她的行为是合理的。\n\n她在咨询中承认自己的行为是合理的。\n\n我告诉她世界上的其他人，即使是那些不喜欢我的人，也要更加尊重我，对我说话更加友善。  她说“他们不必和你住在一起”。  48 小时后，我的心终于落下来了，我意识到也没有人强迫她和我住在一起。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjy1ty",
      "author": "Topologicus",
      "created_utc": 1784496442,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjy1ty/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "For me there was not a last straw or last thing that happened or one event that caused the whole thing to finally fail. It was more like the evolution of an amorphous blob of confusion and finding myself in a situation where suddenly everything is so fucked up I don't know how to deal with it, when it's like a slowly changing temperature and i realize the anxiety is so high and I'm not even sure how it happened and have to leave. There's just no way to reduce it to a single situation or final event.",
      "body_zh": "对我来说，没有最后一根稻草或最后发生的一件事或一个事件导致整个事情最终失败。这更像是一团无定形的混乱的演变，发现自己陷入了一种境地，突然一切都变得如此糟糕，我不知道如何处理它，当它就像一个缓慢变化的温度时，我意识到焦虑如此之高，我什至不确定它是如何发生的，不得不离开。没有办法将其简化为单一情况或最终事件。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk4l6j",
      "author": "Moonman_goodbyee",
      "created_utc": 1784498159,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk4l6j/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I started saying bad things about her to other people.\n\nIt had been a very rough relationship with details I don't want to share, I put up with it for years as she was a good mother and didn't want my daughter to lose her. I never said a bad thing about her, once it stated slipping out I realised that I was actually thinking what was really going on. \n\nOnce you start talking bad about the person you're supposed to love, it's probably time to reevaluate and move on. It took me 16 years too long.",
      "body_zh": "当我开始向别人说她的坏话时。\n\n这是一段非常艰难的关系，其中的细节我不想分享，我忍受了很多年，因为她是一个好母亲，不想让我的女儿失去她。我从来没有说过她的坏话，一旦说溜出去，我就意识到我实际上在想到底发生了什么。 \n\n一旦你开始说你应该爱的人的坏话，可能是时候重新评估并继续前进了。我花了16年的时间。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymavg7",
      "author": "ramyashuanida",
      "created_utc": 1784525562,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymavg7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "May be the other person just want to win every argument? A lot of people do this, whatever it takes to win that fight- \"dishonesty, straight out lies, not confronting anything\".  \nI think most of us don't want to acknowledge our flaws becoz once we do that ,we need to come out of our comfort zone and work on it, instead of doing that we are being dishonest about it, that might leave the other person hopeless, they might feel like leaving us cos that's is the only option that will be left for them",
      "body_zh": "也许对方只是想赢得所有争论？很多人都会这样做，不惜一切代价赢得这场战斗——“不诚实，直截了当的谎言，不面对任何事情”。  \n我认为我们大多数人都不想承认自己的缺陷，因为一旦我们这样做了，我们需要走出我们的舒适区并努力解决它，而不是这样做，我们对此不诚实，这可能会让对方绝望，他们可能会想离开我们，因为这是他们唯一的选择"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylcyva",
      "author": "Kowai03",
      "created_utc": 1784511807,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylcyva/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I mean it was infidelity on his part but I'd also like to add that what motivated me to push the divorce through was that I wanted to have another child and I saw my only chance was to do it via IVF with a sperm donor. You can't do that while married. \n\nMy ex started cheating around the time I was pregnant with our first child. But our son died suddenly at 6 weeks old. My ex continued his affair for 2 years while using me for grief support. He knew I desperately wanted to be a mother again too.",
      "body_zh": "我的意思是，这是他的不忠，但我还想补充一点，促使我离婚的原因是我想再要一个孩子，我发现我唯一的机会就是通过精子捐赠者进行体外受精来实现这一点。结婚后你不能这样做。 \n\n我的前夫在我怀第一个孩子的时候就开始出轨。但我们的儿子在六周大时突然去世了。我的前任继续他的外遇两年了，同时利用我来支持悲伤。他知道我也非常想再次成为一名母亲。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyirukl",
      "author": "nudetayne7",
      "created_utc": 1784485191,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyirukl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He moved me out of our small town (where I had a business) to a big city so that he could go to school. I was devastated to leave, but was supportive of this change for his career. 3 months later he told me that he changed his mind about school, and was already on the second round of interviews for a new job in another state without telling me. \nOh, and he told me that if ICE asked him about his undocumented friend, he wasn’t sure whether he’d rat him out or not. Immediate divorce proceedings.",
      "body_zh": "他把我从我们的小镇（我在那里做生意）搬到了一个大城市，这样他就可以去上学了。离开让我很伤心，但我支持他职业生涯的这一改变。三个月后，他告诉我他改变了对学校的想法，并且在没有告诉我的情况下已经在另一个州参加新工作的第二轮面试。 \n哦，他告诉我，如果 ICE 询问他的无证朋友的情况，他不确定是否会出卖他。立即办理离婚手续。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym0iwl",
      "author": "ecksmoh",
      "created_utc": 1784520853,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym0iwl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Covid and political strife transformed her into a literal monster. Abuse, drug addiction, and layered untreated mental illness, in tandem with her sudden refusal to acknowledge that she ever loved me. BPD is horrific. I’d say I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, but the most evil thing about BPD is the person will gladly set the world on fire before ever seeing it in themselves enough to seek treatment. I didn’t divorce my wife, I divorced a stranger. I lost my wife well before the divorce.",
      "body_zh": "新冠疫情和政治冲突让她变成了名副其实的怪物。虐待、毒瘾和未经治疗的分层精神疾病，再加上她突然拒绝承认她曾经爱过我。 BPD 太可怕了。我想说，我不希望我最大的敌人得病，但边缘性人格障碍最邪恶的一点是，这个人在自己看到它足以寻求治疗之前，就会很高兴地让世界着火。我没有和我的妻子离婚，我和一个陌生人离婚了。我在离婚前就失去了妻子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjsnud",
      "author": "No-Mall3942",
      "created_utc": 1784495024,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjsnud/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was a terrible husband who had mommy issues that needed to be resolved and she was smart enough to realize it and tbh I'm in a much better spot mentally and truly acting as an adult managing a household as a single dad. \n\nTherapy probably could have saved us but she's a bit younger and can't blame her for not wanting to stick around to see if I would change. \n\nAlso don't think I would have looked inward and worked on myself enough to see this if she didn't divorce me. \n\nWierdly thankful.",
      "body_zh": "我是一个糟糕的丈夫，有妈妈的问题需要解决，而她足够聪明，意识到了这一点，而且说实话，我在精神上处于更好的位置，并且真正作为一个成年人以单亲父亲的身份管理家庭。 \n\n治疗或许可以拯救我们，但她还年轻一点，不能责怪她不想留下来看看我是否会改变。 \n\n如果她不和我离婚，我也不认为我会向内审视并努力自我认识到这一点。 \n\n莫名的感激。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykhjoj",
      "author": "Mach5Driver",
      "created_utc": 1784501575,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykhjoj/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There were many last straws. She said that she would break the generational cycle of abuse that came from her mother, like I was going to with my father. Unfortunately, she had no idea of how to actually do that. My daughter didn't grow up with an abusive alcoholic father, but did wind up with a narc mother. \n\nI got a lot of abuse, then she wondered why I wasn't sexually attracted to her anymore. It was like a switch flipped when we said I Do. She wasn't like that until we were married.",
      "body_zh": "还有很多最后一根稻草。她说她将打破来自她母亲的虐待的代际循环，就像我要打破我父亲的虐待循环一样。不幸的是，她不知道如何真正做到这一点。我女儿并不是在一个酗酒成性的父亲的陪伴下长大的，但她的母亲却是一个缉毒犯。 \n\n我受到了很多虐待，然后她想知道为什么我不再对她产生性吸引力。当我们说“我愿意”时，就像开关被打开一样。在我们结婚之前，她不是这样的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylgdzr",
      "author": "PracticalAndContent",
      "created_utc": 1784513027,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylgdzr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He said: I don’t care what you or anyone else says, I’m going to do what I want and I don’t care if we end up sleeping in our cars. \n\nSaid by a 34 year old man in 1994 with a very cush, stable, flexible, well paying job. \n\nHe wanted to be an entrepreneur like his role model, Donald Trump, but all of his business ideas failed and lost lots of money.\n\nI didn’t work as hard as I did to get to where I was just to end up living in my car. Divorcing him was the right decision for me to make.",
      "body_zh": "他说：我不在乎你或其他人说什么，我会做我想做的事，我不在乎我们是否最终睡在车里。 \n\n一位 34 岁的男子在 1994 年说道，他有一份非常轻松、稳定、灵活、高薪的工作。 \n\n他想成为像他的榜样唐纳德·特朗普一样的企业家，但他所有的商业想法都失败了，并损失了很多钱。\n\n我并没有像以前那样努力工作，只是为了最终住在我的车里。和他离婚对我来说是正确的决定。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyll9z3",
      "author": "Megzpuzzle",
      "created_utc": 1784514784,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyll9z3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He was drinking and driving with our then 4 year old son in the car with him. He was an addict who wouldn’t admit to himself that he quit one thing and began self medicating with something else. No matter how much I begged. When I found the empty containers I made a couples therapy appointment to try and sit him down in a neutral zone and talk about it ( we’d been going to this therapist so this wasn’t new ) and he got up and walked out when I brought it up and I left that night.",
      "body_zh": "他酒后驾车，车里还有我们当时 4 岁的儿子。他是一个瘾君子，不愿意承认自己戒掉了一件事，并开始用其他东西进行自我治疗。无论我如何哀求。当我发现空容器时，我预约了夫妻治疗，尝试让他坐在中立区讨论这件事（我们一直去找这位治疗师，所以这并不新鲜），当我提起这件事时，他起身走了出去，那天晚上我就离开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylaoje",
      "author": "youmangylittlecur",
      "created_utc": 1784510996,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylaoje/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had cats who ate (eat? They’re still alive and with me) a wet diet. I’d ask him to rinse the cans out before putting them in the recycling (smell…bugs…) and one night, after again reminding him (it had been years at this point), he flat out told me he just wasn’t ever going to do it. I remember just looking at him, then saying that it was such a small thing that took seconds to do, but it would have made me feel seen and heard…and he chose not to. I couldn’t ever unsee that.",
      "body_zh": "我们有一些猫吃（吃？它们还活着并且和我在一起）湿粮。我会要求他在将罐子放入回收站之前将其冲洗干净（闻起来……虫子……），有一天晚上，在再次提醒他之后（这一点已经很多年了），他直截了当地告诉我他永远不会这样做。我记得我只是看着他，然后说这是一件小事，只需几秒钟就能完成，但这会让我感觉被看到和听到……而他选择不这样做。我永远无法忽视这一点。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjafzv",
      "author": "epsilon_be",
      "created_utc": 1784490316,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjafzv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Probably a combination of her mother knocking my teeth out, she and her mother locking me on the 7th floor balcony with my hand between the door, her letting our son play/destroy something she knew was valuable to me and she and her family not accepting our son his autism is not curable or treatable with vitamin/mineral supplements, whatever Facebook groups say.\n\nMy son and I are out now, he is in a special education facility now and is doing great with professional support.",
      "body_zh": "可能是她母亲打掉我的牙齿，她和她母亲把我锁在七楼的阳台上，我的手放在门之间，她让我们的儿子玩/毁掉她知道对我有价值的东西，她和她的家人不接受我们的儿子，无论Facebook群组说什么，他的自闭症无法通过维生素/矿物质补充剂治愈或治疗。\n\n我和我的儿子现在已经出院了，他现在在特殊教育机构，在专业支持下表现得很好。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym9p4b",
      "author": "RL-is-lame",
      "created_utc": 1784524992,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym9p4b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He was moving to a different state to go to medical school without consulting with me first. He didn’t ask if I would be willing to move, and didn’t think that I, too, was just starting out in my career, moving would be impossible for me.\n\nWe were married and he wasn’t sharing his long-term plans with me. And I think at that moment I realized, there was no longer “us” and that we needed to end it mutually… which was good. We had no shared kids, so the divorce was swift.",
      "body_zh": "他在没有事先咨询我的情况下就搬到另一个州去医学院。他没有问我是否愿意搬家，也不认为我也刚刚起步，搬家对我来说是不可能的。\n\n我们结婚了，他没有与我分享他的长期计划。我想在那一刻我意识到，不再有“我们”，我们需要相互结束它……这很好。我们没有共同的孩子，所以离婚很快。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrngv",
      "author": "serkesh",
      "created_utc": 1784517186,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrngv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The lies. They came out slowly over time and I always forgave because it was just one and she had a good reason (supposedly) problem was that it wasn’t one. Just one that I had to find out every few months. The big 7 were: was previously married. Was still married (to a second guy). Had a kid. Had 2 kids. Had 3 kids. Was 22 years older than she told me (she didn’t look it) even her name turned out to technically be a lie (went by something similar to her middle name)",
      "body_zh": "谎言。随着时间的推移，它们慢慢地出来，我总是原谅，因为这只是一个，而她有一个很好的理由（据说）问题是它不是一个。只是我每隔几个月就必须找出来的一个。最大的 7 名是： 曾经结婚过。仍然已婚（与第二个男人）。有一个孩子。有 2 个孩子。有3个孩子。比她告诉我的年龄大 22 岁（她看起来不像），甚至她的名字严格来说也是个谎言（与她的中间名类似）"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjqr0n",
      "author": "Redford_Grimsby",
      "created_utc": 1784494489,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjqr0n/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Married as young conservative Christians in the US Midwest. \n\nBoth separately left religion behind. Both wanted to restart our lives and get a fresh start. No bad blood or anything. Last straw was realizing that it was hard to both completely reset while staying together. \n\nDivorced and supported each other in finding new lives outside of a controlling worldview. \n5 years later, we’re still good friends and both have found good partners for our new selves 👍",
      "body_zh": "作为年轻的保守派基督徒在美国中西部结婚。 \n\n两人都分别抛弃了宗教。两人都想重新开始我们的生活并有一个新的开始。没有坏血或任何东西。最后一根稻草是意识到，在一起时很难完全重置。 \n\n离婚后互相支持，在控制性的世界观之外寻找新的生活。 \n5年过去了，我们还是好朋友，都为新的自己找到了好伴侣👍"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykrp27",
      "author": "oddartist",
      "created_utc": 1784504614,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykrp27/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had a large yard. He kept saying we should have a pool for the kids. Guess who was concerned about having a pool and children? NOT him. I repeatedly told him I did NOT want a pool. \n\n  \nI came home from my self-employed work to him telling me he had made an appointment for a pool quote. I immediately went to my gf's house and broke down. I was soooooo tired of not being heard/being ignored. I didn't realize her relative was a local divorce lawyer.....",
      "body_zh": "我们有一个大院子。他一直说我们应该为孩子们准备一个游泳池。猜猜谁担心有游泳池和孩子？不是他。我反复告诉他我不想要游泳池。 \n\n  \n我做完个体户工作回到家，他告诉我他已经预约了报价。我立即去了我女朋友家，崩溃了。我厌倦了不被听到/被忽视。我没想到她的亲戚是当地的离婚律师......"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyit75x",
      "author": "dare2107",
      "created_utc": 1784485552,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyit75x/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "back in November 2023, the ex-wife stated that she was no longer happy in the marriage and she wanted to go on her own way. \n\nSome context: I lost my eyesight in 2019 do to diabetes and high blood pressure. It changed the dynamic of the marriage  \n\n\nI believe she didn't want to be a caregiver so she made the decision to leave. After a couple of years of getting myself together, I filed for divorce and it was finalized back in December of last year.",
      "body_zh": "早在2023年11月，前妻就表示自己对婚姻不再幸福，想走自己的路。 \n\n一些背景：由于糖尿病和高血压，我在 2019 年失去了视力。它改变了婚姻的动态  \n\n\n我相信她不想成为一名护理人员，所以她决定离开。经过几年的磨合，我提出了离婚，并于去年 12 月完成。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjrrhs",
      "author": "lissam3",
      "created_utc": 1784494771,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjrrhs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "This was 30 years ago. I woke my husband up and said I needed to go to the hospital. I had felt sick all day and my side hirt. He told me he wasn't going to take me to the hospital to run up a bill. I got myself and my 6 mo old daughter and drove to her babysitters. I about collapsed on her front step. \nWell, by now you've figured out I had a hot appendix. He didnt come to the hospital until AFTER I had it taken out. Yeah, I was gone 2 weeks later.",
      "body_zh": "这是30年前的事了。我叫醒了丈夫，说我需要去医院。我一整天都感觉不舒服，而且身体有疼痛感。他告诉我他不会带我去医院处理账单。我带着我 6 个月大的女儿开车去见她的保姆。我差点晕倒在她门前的台阶上。 \n好吧，现在你已经发现我有阑尾炎了。直到我把它取出来之后，他才来医院。是的，两周后我就走了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym35nz",
      "author": "LooksGay",
      "created_utc": 1784521989,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym35nz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I found CP on my ex-husbands laptop and he later gave me a neck/shoulder injury while I was packing a duffel bag to go to my mom's house. Took me longer to get out of that relationship than I'm proud to admit. We were together 3 years, married 3 months before everything imploded tooke me a while to realize that me being 14 and him being 19 when we met should have been a red flag for me... I'm so beyond happy to have my current and amazing husband.",
      "body_zh": "我在我前夫的笔记本电脑上发现了 CP，后来当我收拾行李准备去妈妈家时，他打伤了我的颈部/肩部。我花了比我自豪地承认的更长的时间来摆脱这种关系。我们在一起三年了，结婚三个月后，一切都崩溃了，我花了一段时间才意识到，我们见面时我14岁，他19岁，这对我来说应该是一个危险信号……我非常高兴能拥有我现在的、出色的丈夫。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykb91o",
      "author": "satine112",
      "created_utc": 1784499826,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykb91o/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I need to leave mine. He yells/raises his voice at me, is not a safe space for me to go to for comfort, I have to have sex with him or he’ll complain and be in a mood and ruin the day/demand to know why/badger me into it, does not help clean, won’t cook meals, and when he’s working (self employed wfh) he’s raging yelling at his brother/business partner). He frequently walks 6+ feet ahead of me, and generally makes my sparkle dull when he’s around",
      "body_zh": "我需要离开我的。他对我大喊大叫/提高嗓门，这对我来说不是一个可以寻求安慰的安全空间，我必须与他发生性关系，否则他会抱怨并心情不好，毁了这一天/要求知道为什么/缠着我，不帮忙打扫卫生，不会做饭，当他工作时（自雇人士），他对他的兄弟/商业伙伴大喊大叫）。他经常走在我前面 6 英尺以上，当他在身边时，通常会让我的光芒变得暗淡"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjgh2m",
      "author": "Seven_bushes",
      "created_utc": 1784491853,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjgh2m/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Early 90s I was married to a verbally and emotionally abusive asshole who had my self esteem in the gutter. I got my first real pc and made friends on the internet. I realized I wasn’t what he made me believe I was. The next time he called me a fucking fat ugly lazy cunt, I told him that was it and moved out. \n\nHe used to say he was going to divorce me every time we argued; I think he was truly surprised when I said it and followed through.",
      "body_zh": "90 年代初，我嫁给了一个在言语和情感上虐待我的混蛋，他让我的自尊陷入了低谷。我拥有了第一台真正的电脑，并在互联网上结识了朋友。我意识到我并不是他让我相信的那样。下次他骂我是个该死的又肥又丑的懒女人时，我告诉他就是这样，然后就搬走了。 \n\n每次我们吵架，他就说要和我离婚。我认为当我说出这句话并付诸实施时，他真的很惊讶。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl2ckl",
      "author": "Sennten",
      "created_utc": 1784508145,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl2ckl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She bought a trampoline I told her we didnt need, couldnt afford, and wouldn't use. I told her that I was reaching my breaking point and that if it arrived and she didnt get it set up within a week Id be extremely upset. Three weeks later it was still sitting there on the front stoop where it had been dropped off by the delivery driver, unopened, and coming home to see that AGAIN, for the third week in a row... it broke me, and I was done",
      "body_zh": "她买了一张蹦床，我告诉她我们不需要、买不起、也不会使用。我告诉她，我已经达到了极限，如果它到达了，而她没有在一周内完成设置，我会非常沮丧。三周后，它仍然坐在门廊上，被送货司机扔下来，未开封，回家后又看到了它，连续第三周……这让我心碎，我完了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylg2y7",
      "author": "Lennygracelove",
      "created_utc": 1784512917,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylg2y7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Been working on myself since forever, career wise. Took a second part-time job, realized I didn't like working so much and also didn't like being home.\n\nI've missed a fair amount of my children's teen years, but I realized if I'm home, he isn't motivated to do anything - I literally have to plan the day. He is an early riser, but will stay in bed watching videos until I wake up, then accuse ME of wasting the morning. Make that make sense.",
      "body_zh": "从职业生涯的角度来看，我一直在为自己努力。做了第二份兼职工作，意识到我不太喜欢工作，也不喜欢呆在家里。\n\n我错过了孩子们相当多的青少年时期，但我意识到，如果我在家，他就没有动力做任何事情——我实际上必须计划这一天。他是一个早起的人，但会躺在床上看视频直到我醒来，然后指责我浪费了早上。让这变得有意义。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyljq48",
      "author": "TheWaywardWarlok",
      "created_utc": 1784514224,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyljq48/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Dear Lord, I've read thru the last 15 long form answers here, rough. My wife and I have been through a lot over the years including the loss of a child, but we always huddled together and fought through it together. I still can't really grasp that it's been 30+ years we've been married. \n\n   I have no advise for anyone, as I feel like I'm the outlier, I got lucky.  \n\nBut yeah, when the other one is to busy to care about you...time to go.",
      "body_zh": "亲爱的主，我已经粗略地读完了最后 15 个长篇答案。这些年来，我和妻子经历了很多事情，包括失去孩子，但我们总是挤在一起，一起度过难关。我仍然无法真正理解我们已经结婚三十多年了。 \n\n   我没有给任何人建议，因为我觉得我是局外人，我很幸运。  \n\n但是，是的，当另一个人太忙而无暇关心你时……是时候离开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjr2ou",
      "author": "FerretBusinessQueen",
      "created_utc": 1784494579,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjr2ou/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex and I just realized for like the thousandth time that we loved each other but had very different values/were very different people. \n\nWe got divorced during COVID sitting on the couch next to each other and holding hands. We are both happily with other people and he will always be one of my closest, best loved friends but the fighting every day and fighting internally to keep something up that wasn’t actually there was exhausting.",
      "body_zh": "我和我的前任刚刚第一千次意识到我们彼此相爱，但价值观截然不同/是截然不同的人。 \n\n新冠疫情期间，我们离婚了，坐在沙发上，手牵着手。我们和其他人在一起都很开心，他永远是我最亲密、最可爱的朋友之一，但每天都在争吵，为了保持一些实际上并不存在的事情而在内心进行斗争，这让我筋疲力尽。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk2wcx",
      "author": "Silly-Dot-2322",
      "created_utc": 1784497657,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk2wcx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Since I retired, I did retire early, I enjoy when my spouse comes home, but equally enjoy when he leaves in the morning. I find myself dreading the weekends, because he's home all day, for 72 long hours of listening to griping and just extra noise. When I worked, weekends were the best.\n\nI love him, and can't imagine my life without him, but this post made me wonder why I dread the weekends.\n\nWhen he retires, I just can't imagine...",
      "body_zh": "自从我退休以来，我确实很早就退休了，我喜欢我的配偶回家，但同样喜欢他早上离开。我发现自己害怕周末，因为他一整天都在家，72个小时里我都在听着牢骚和额外的噪音。当我工作时，周末是最好的。\n\n我爱他，无法想象没有他我的生活，但这篇文章让我想知道为什么我害怕周末。\n\n当他退休时，我简直无法想象......"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylzlnu",
      "author": "Key-Specific-4368",
      "created_utc": 1784520465,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylzlnu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she said she didn't realize how bad my health can get. Keeping in mind I still manage to function enough in general and always held down a job.\n\nShe hasn't worked in years. I have helped her bathe or get dressed before when her health is bad. Which happens regularly.\n\nAlso being the one who carries the relationship, often. At some point I just stopped doing all the work because it sucks feeling I'm in a one sided relationship.",
      "body_zh": "当她说她没有意识到我的健康状况会变得多么糟糕时。请记住，我总体上仍然能够发挥足够的作用，并且始终保住一份工作。\n\n她已经很多年没有工作了。以前她身体不好的时候，我曾帮她洗澡或穿衣服。这经常发生。\n\n也常常是维持这种关系的人。在某些时候，我停止了所有的工作，因为我处于一种单方面的关系中，这种感觉很糟糕。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkse1",
      "author": "Littlepudding556",
      "created_utc": 1784514609,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkse1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There’s no single specific answer, because it can be something small, something really bad, or even something quite ordinary.\n\nFor example: When you’re sick, the other person shows no concern at all. You cough all night, but they just keep sleeping as if nothing’s happening. It could also be forgetting an important date. If you’ve already been ignored and neglected many times before, this one incident might become the final straw.",
      "body_zh": "没有一个具体的答案，因为它可能是一些小事情，一些非常糟糕的事情，甚至是一些非常普通的事情。\n\n例如：当你生病时，对方根本不关心。你咳嗽了一整夜，但他们只是继续睡觉，好像什么也没发生一样。也可能是忘记了一个重要的日期。如果你之前已经多次被忽视和忽视，这一次事件可能会成为压垮你的最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykleq6",
      "author": "actuallyamermaidtho",
      "created_utc": 1784502694,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykleq6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex and I were struggling financially. Like REALLY struggling. House was about to be foreclosed on, we had liens on the property... I remember stressing about how we were going to buy groceries AND put gas in the car. \nTrying to lighten the mood, I made a joke: \"I'm going to have to start selling myself on the corner!\" And his reaction... shocked me. His eyes lit up and he said \"Yeah? How much could you make doing that?\"",
      "body_zh": "我和我的前任在经济上陷入困境。就像真的很挣扎一样。房子即将被取消赎回权，我们对房产有留置权……我记得强调我们将如何购买杂货并给汽车加油。 \n为了缓和气氛，我开了个玩笑：“我要开始在街角推销自己了！”而他的反应……令我震惊。他的眼睛一亮，说道：“是吗？这样做你能赚多少钱？”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyimei6",
      "author": "SilentSerel",
      "created_utc": 1784483732,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyimei6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The ball got rolling when I went to an appointment and the receptionist said that I looked a lot sadder when I left than I did when I came in. I knew it was because I was dreading going home to him. \n\nThen, shortly after that, I miscarried and he told me to stop crying and act like a normal person. He refused to take me to the hospital, so I took myself, went to my mother's house after I got out, and hired the attorney.",
      "body_zh": "当我去赴约时，接待员说我离开时看起来比进来时更加悲伤。我知道这是因为我害怕回家见他。 \n\n然后，不久之后，我流产了，他告诉我不要哭，像正常人一样行事。他不肯带我去医院，我就自己出院后去了我母亲家，并请了律师。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylpr57",
      "author": "Relevant_Bee_7373",
      "created_utc": 1784516448,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylpr57/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Id often times be very excited for her to get home, having dinners ready for her, watching out the window timing everything right.\n\nShe was never excited or happy to see me which hurt, after so many times i hated the fact that i was happy to see her.\n\nEventually after her daughter..my stepdaughter moved out she tells me \" the only reason i put up with you was for her\" I felt used, being the main provider....Last straw",
      "body_zh": "我常常为她回家感到非常兴奋，为她准备好晚餐，看着窗外一切都安排得很好。\n\n她从来没有兴奋或高兴地看到我，这让我很受伤，很多次之后我讨厌我很高兴见到她这一事实。\n\n最终，在她女儿……我的继女搬出去后，她告诉我“我忍受你的唯一原因是为了她”，我觉得自己被利用了，成为主要的养家糊口……最后一根稻草"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj9mjv",
      "author": "Brave-Diamond-8717",
      "created_utc": 1784490083,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj9mjv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The last straw. His aunt had a crazy outburst and tantrum a day before my bday in Cusco. After 2 hours of his aunt screaming about random things. We all went for dinner. Came back to the hotel and I asked him to go for a drink after all the chaos and he said no. I said I will go by myself and he said if you leave it is over. So I left and then he wasn't at the hotel. I didnt see him for a week while on my bday trip.",
      "body_zh": "最后一根稻草。我在库斯科生日的前一天，他的姨妈突然发脾气。两个小时后，他的姨妈因为一些随机的事情而尖叫。我们都去吃晚饭了。回到酒店后，我请他去喝一杯，他拒绝了。我说我自己去，他说你走了就完了。于是我就离开了，然后他就不在酒店了。在我的生日旅行中，我已经有一个星期没有见到他了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyju61y",
      "author": "CapnAnonymouse",
      "created_utc": 1784495445,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyju61y/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Cheating was technically a factor, but the actual nail in the coffin was him trying to DARVO that shit on me, blaming me and saying the breach of privacy was as bad or worse than what he'd done.\n\nWhen it became clear that he wasn't going to apologize, he instead said that he'd be willing to go to couple's therapy with me (after YEARS of saying no). Actually pissed me off in the moment because I knew it was bluster.",
      "body_zh": "从技术上讲，作弊是一个因素，但真正致命的是他试图在 DARVO 身上拉屎，指责我，并说侵犯隐私与他所做的一样糟糕，甚至更糟。\n\n当很明显他不会道歉时，他反而说他愿意和我一起去夫妻治疗（在多年来拒绝之后）。实际上那一刻让我很生气，因为我知道这是咆哮。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjo1xz",
      "author": "VanFlander",
      "created_utc": 1784493775,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjo1xz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Cleaning all her shit up. Granted she was austitic and depressed so was I but I felt a cleaner place would help us mentally. Her place looked like a hoarder home. I cleaned it up over a year and she was happy for awhile until she went back to throwing things on the ground and piling up things again. Had a mature conversation together. Couldn't fix what she was going through. Maybe someone else can. That was it.",
      "body_zh": "把她所有的屎都清理干净。虽然她患有自闭症和抑郁症，我也是如此，但我觉得一个更干净的地方会对我们的精神有所帮助。她的住处看起来就像一个囤积者的家。我花了一年多的时间把它清理干净，她高兴了一段时间，直到她又开始把东西扔在地上，然后又把东西堆起来。一起进行了一次成熟的交谈。无法解决她正在经历的事情。也许其他人可以。就是这样。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyll4x5",
      "author": "Notorum",
      "created_utc": 1784514733,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyll4x5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Hmmmm. I divorced my wife three years ago now. We got married young and as we aged I became a very different person. I realized I was ace (a-sexual) and that was never a deal breaker for me. I continued on that way for a couple years as we had kids; however, it was when I realized that I was telling my friends about this revelation in myself but I wasn't comfortable telling her was when I knew it was done.",
      "body_zh": "嗯嗯。我三年前与妻子离婚了。我们年轻时就结婚了，随着年龄的增长，我变成了一个非常不同的人。我意识到我是王牌（无性恋），这对我来说从来都不是一个破坏性的事情。当我们有了孩子后，我继续这样做了几年。然而，当我意识到我正在告诉我的朋友我自己的这一启示时，但当我知道事情已经完成时，我不愿意告诉她。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymenig",
      "author": "CrashBash_Ash",
      "created_utc": 1784527416,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymenig/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He threatened to shoot me and told me it “would solve all his problems.” Then he pretended like it was a joke and mocked me for being upset and not being able to take a joke. I asked him, “Do you really want to kill me?” He said, “No, I don’t want to go to prison.” ——- which to me actually meant that he would like to, but the consequence of prison was the only thing detering him from actually doing it.",
      "body_zh": "他威胁要开枪打死我，并告诉我这“可以解决他所有的问题”。然后他假装这是一个笑话，嘲笑我不高兴，开不起玩笑。我问他：“你真的想杀我吗？”他说：“不，我不想进监狱。” ——对我来说，这实际上意味着他愿意这样做，但入狱的后果是唯一阻止他真正这样做的因素。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk6ejz",
      "author": "LizardPossum",
      "created_utc": 1784498679,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk6ejz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not that there WASN'T infidelity because there was, but I did try to forgive him. The thing that really did it was that he went to jail and I spent a couple of months without him. And my life was instantly better.\n\nNobody picking apart everything I did. Nobody accusing me of sleeping with every man I made eye contact with. It just felt like I could breathe again and I didn't wanna give that up.",
      "body_zh": "并不是说没有不忠，因为确实有，但我确实试图原谅他。真正造成这种情况的是他进了监狱，而我在没有他的情况下度过了几个月。我的生活立刻变得更好了。\n\n没有人拆散我所做的一切。没有人指责我和每一个我目光接触过的男人都睡过。只是感觉我又可以呼吸了，我不想放弃。"
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    {
      "id": "oylxv2w",
      "author": "Monotone-Man19",
      "created_utc": 1784519728,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylxv2w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Her absolute inability to apologize or admit to being wrong. This resulted in the last argument, and divorce. For her, maintaining pride was more important than maintaining relationships, and during the long, long, legal battle, ultimately time and money. I was and am far from perfect; but at least I fucking admit to, and apologize for, my mistakes and imperfections. Don’t marry a Dutch woman.",
      "body_zh": "她绝对无法道歉或承认错误。这导致了最后的争吵，以及离婚。对她来说，保持自尊比维持人际关系更重要，而在漫长的法律斗争中，最终是时间和金钱。我过去和现在都远非完美；但至少我承认我的错误和不完美，并为此道歉。不要娶荷兰女人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym4b8w",
      "author": "youngmeer_kat0429",
      "created_utc": 1784522501,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym4b8w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "So the therapist had an initial (separate) meeting with him, my now ex-husband, before we were to start the couples sessions. She told me that.. “he is an addict and has no interest on changing and/or working on the marriage”.. She would continue to work with me but couldn’t get him motivated to do any additional sessions.  \nThat was finally it for me and I moved out of our home shortly after.",
      "body_zh": "因此，在我们开始夫妻治疗之前，治疗师与我现在的前夫进行了初步（单独）会面。她告诉我……“他是个瘾君子，对改变和/或致力于婚姻没有兴趣”……她会继续和我一起工作，但无法激励他进行任何额外的治疗。  \n这对我来说终于是这样了，不久之后我就搬出了家。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl0pgt",
      "author": "fc967",
      "created_utc": 1784507585,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl0pgt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I waited for the last kid to finish college (May)--- There were all kinds of things but I could never actually do it..  He was beginning NOT to discuss financials.   In February around the full moon -- I cried a few times.  In March I retained a lawyer AND now in July he is being served this week!!  I was just done when I was wanting to talk about financial stuff & him dodging conversations.",
      "body_zh": "我等待最后一个孩子完成大学学业（五月）——有各种各样的事情，但我永远无法真正做到。他开始不讨论财务问题。   二月满月时——我哭了几次。  三月份我聘请了一位律师，现在七月份他本周将接受服务！  当我想谈论财务问题时，我刚刚结束，而他却回避谈话。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk3ux0",
      "author": "IllTwo7643",
      "created_utc": 1784497946,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk3ux0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He accused me of something I didn't do, SA'd me as \"punishment ' and told me \" I knew you were crying and wanted to stop but what you did was worse\"\n\nHe thought the online therapy I was doing was really me having an affair. I was using Better help on the iPad, and at the time there was a group therapy session. He thought I was having an emotional affair with a man... It was a female group.",
      "body_zh": "他指责我做了一些我没有做过的事情，SA把我当作“惩罚”，并告诉我“我知道你在哭，想停下来，但你所做的更糟糕”\n\n他认为我正在进行的在线治疗实际上是我有外遇。我在 iPad 上使用 Better help，当时有一个团体治疗课程。他以为我和一个男人有感情关系……那是一个女性团体。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylxfj8",
      "author": "PrideWorldly79",
      "created_utc": 1784519545,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylxfj8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Thus was so long ago now. I spent hours, so many hours, creating a custom perler bread Detroit Redwing logo the has two feet tall ans a foot wide and custom created a stand for it. He got drunk and was being abusive. I wasnt reacting. He broke the logo I put over 24 hours into. I r4alized at that moment how much he hated me a I just shut off completely towards him. It was over that night.",
      "body_zh": "这已经是很久以前的事了。我花了很多时间，制作了一个定制的珍珠面包底特律红翼标志，它有两英尺高，一英尺宽，并为它定制了一个支架。他喝醉了并且有辱骂行为。我没反应过来。他破坏了我花了 24 小时制作的徽标。那一刻我意识到他有多么恨我，而我完全与他隔绝了。那天晚上就结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyje3q2",
      "author": "AVRU15",
      "created_utc": 1784491287,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyje3q2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Posting for a close friend of mine, but this was their exact turning point.\n\nThey were in marriage counseling, and their ex looked at the therapist and said, 'We need a new counselor, this one doesn't agree with me.'\n\nThat was the exact moment my friend realized their partner didn't actually want to fix the marriage. They just wanted a professional to tell my friend that they were wrong.",
      "body_zh": "为我的一位密友发帖，但这正是他们的转折点。\n\n他们正在接受婚姻咨询，他们的前任看着治疗师说：“我们需要一位新的咨询师，这个咨询师不同意我的观点。”\n\n就在那一刻，我的朋友意识到他们的伴侣实际上并不想修复婚姻。他们只是想要一个专业人士来告诉我的朋友他们错了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjts0z",
      "author": "Rude-Obligation-2060",
      "created_utc": 1784495342,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjts0z/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Wanted to see what that 5% was doing after 18 months in the new savings account. Every penny was gone . Instead of owning up to it or explaining where it went . I got blamed for not being able to provide the life style she deserved and that’s why she had to take from the savings behind my back . That’s the day I realized I was nothing more than a tool . Filed for divorce a month later .",
      "body_zh": "想看看 18 个月后这 5% 的人在新储蓄账户中做了什么。每一分钱都花光了。而不是承认它或解释它去了哪里。我因为无法提供她应得的生活方式而受到指责，这就是为什么她不得不背着我拿积蓄。那天我意识到我只不过是一个工具。一个月后提出离婚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjvc1p",
      "author": "Independent-Prompt-8",
      "created_utc": 1784495740,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjvc1p/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Having someone ask me if I was married because I was and no one knew who he was on the kids sports bc he was never there.  Excuses of work and work and work.  They called me on doing all the work and why my spouse was never there. They said why are you married when. You do everything . Made me think of what he did besides work, sleep, and judge every choice I made.. Nothing. Literally.",
      "body_zh": "有人问我是否已婚，因为我结婚了，但没有人知道他在儿童体育节目中是谁，因为他从未在那里。  工作、工作、工作的借口。  他们叫我做所有的工作以及为什么我的配偶从来没有在那里。他们说你为什么什么时候结婚。你什么都做。让我想起他除了工作、睡觉之外还做了什么，并评判我所做的每一个选择……什么都没有。字面上地。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykfumw",
      "author": "ElvenPizza",
      "created_utc": 1784501101,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykfumw/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It took me getting a new job and recovering from burnout: she just never showed up as a partner or lover. Her effort was low on so much when it came to our relationship, but I gave her my everything and I'm just done. Even when it came to sex, if I didn't get off it got twisted into what that does to her self-esteem and it's just exhausting taking care of so many aspects of a grown up.",
      "body_zh": "我找到了一份新工作并从倦怠中恢复过来：她只是从未以伴侣或情人的身份出现。当谈到我们的关系时，她的努力很少，但我给了她我的一切，我就完成了。即使涉及到性，如果我没有摆脱它，它就会扭曲成对她自尊的影响，而且照顾一个成年人的这么多方面真是令人筋疲力尽。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykjz51",
      "author": "leemr0903",
      "created_utc": 1784502272,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykjz51/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He promised to take a few weeks off drinking to help him focus on finding a job so we got rid of all the alcohol in the house. Woke up in the middle of the night to pee and found him gaming with a new handle of vodka next to him. Demanded to know where he got it and he pointed to the office closet where there were dozens of bottles (mix of empty and full) of various types of alcohol.",
      "body_zh": "他答应几周不喝酒，以帮助他集中精力找工作，所以我们把家里所有的酒都扔掉了。半夜醒来撒尿，发现他在旁边拿着一柄新伏特加玩游戏。当被要求知道他从哪里得到它时，他指着办公室的壁橱，里面有几十瓶（空的和满的）各种类型的酒。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj7r7t",
      "author": "RedBarnGuy",
      "created_utc": 1784489571,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj7r7t/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "For me, it was my ex-wife’s enthusiastic embrace of her own **malignant narcissism**. \n\nIt was wild to experience her transition from being self-centered, to textbook narcissism, and finally to a full-blown manifestation of the malignant variety. \n\nIt really blew up everything in her life. Among other things, she ruined her relationships with me, our kids, and most of her friends.",
      "body_zh": "对我来说，这是我前妻对她自己的**恶性自恋**的热情拥抱。 \n\n经历她从以自我为中心，到教科书式的自恋，最后到全面的恶性变种的转变，真是太疯狂了。 \n\n这真的毁掉了她生活中的一切。除此之外，她还破坏了与我、我们的孩子以及她大多数朋友的关系。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk4xhx",
      "author": "PrettyMud22",
      "created_utc": 1784498265,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk4xhx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It wasn't a marriage but being with a woman who had OCD. OCD has many different subsets with one being Relationship OCD with partner focused traits.I got tired of being picked apart and compared to other men.I was glad when she was not at home and dreaded her coming home. I finally said \"I'm done here and you need to leave\". It took me a couple of years to regain my self esteem.",
      "body_zh": "这不是婚姻，而是和一个患有强迫症的女人在一起。强迫症有很多不同的子集，其中之一是关系强迫症，具有以伴侣为中心的特征。我厌倦了被人拆散并与其他男人比较。当她不在家时我很高兴，并害怕她回家。我最后说“我已经完成了这里，你需要离开”。我花了几年时间才恢复自尊。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl68ac",
      "author": "Ok-Faithlessness9797",
      "created_utc": 1784509447,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl68ac/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Walking up the stairs to our apartment I dropped a to-go box with a couple of cookies in it. She lost it, and we had a MASSIVE blowout. Yelling, swearing, slamming doors, the whole thing. \n\nWe both went to sleep in separate rooms and in the morning we just looked at each other and knew, this wasn’t working.\n\nI went to stay with a friend and we filed for separation that weekend.",
      "body_zh": "走上楼梯到我们的公寓时，我掉了一个外带盒子，里面有几块饼干。她输了，我们发生了巨大的井喷。大喊大叫，咒骂，摔门，这一切。 \n\n我们都睡在不同的房间里，早上我们看着对方就知道，这是行不通的。\n\n我去和一个朋友住在一起，那个周末我们申请了分居。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk18dv",
      "author": "crunchybungus",
      "created_utc": 1784497256,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk18dv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I lost all sense of jealousy/possession for him after our years-long non-monogamous relationship that he asked for 6 months after our marriage (I said I didn’t want that relationship dynamic but he finally wore me down). He no longer felt like “my” person, I genuinely didn’t care if he was seeing other people or not in the end, it felt like he wasn’t mine anymore anyways.",
      "body_zh": "当我们多年的非一夫一妻制关系结束后，我对他失去了所有的嫉妒/占有感，他要求在我们结婚后六个月（我说我不希望这种关系动态，但他最终让我疲惫不堪）。他不再感觉像“我”的人，我真的不在乎他最终是否见到其他人，反正感觉他不再是我的了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylam8p",
      "author": "TheNASAUnicorn",
      "created_utc": 1784510974,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylam8p/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Financial infidelity.   \nHe said his back taxes were paid off before we got married— turns out he owed almost a quarter million in new back taxes, crazy new fees/interest/fines, and new credit card debt that he was trying to hide, thinking he could fix it before I found out.   \nPlus he tried using my social for an apartment after I kicked him out- because he credit was so bad.",
      "body_zh": "财务不忠。   \n他说他的欠税在我们结婚之前就被还清了——结果他欠了近25万新的欠税、疯狂的新费用/利息/罚款，以及他试图隐藏的新信用卡债务，认为他可以在我发现之前解决它。   \n另外，在我把他赶出去后，他试图用我的社交媒体租一套公寓——因为他的信用太差了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykgrfw",
      "author": "Ok-Eggplant4965",
      "created_utc": 1784501354,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykgrfw/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I bought him some doggo fridge magnets from a pop up store in front of work one day, thinking they were a cute little present for him.\n\nHe threw them on the coffee table with a \"Oh, I thought you got my something interesting.\"\n\nI broke up with him a few months after that. I just remember my heart sinking and feeling like I was being crushed and hollowed out at the same time.",
      "body_zh": "有一天，我在上班前的一家快闪店里给他买了一些狗狗冰箱贴，我认为这是送给他的一份可爱的小礼物。\n\n他把它们扔到咖啡桌上，说道：“哦，我以为你得到了我的一些有趣的东西。”\n\n几个月后我和他分手了。我只记得我的心沉了下去，感觉自己被压碎了，同时又被掏空了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjrddi",
      "author": "studiesinsilver",
      "created_utc": 1784494661,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjrddi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I got left (and eventually cheated on) because my partner would not communicate her grievances. Not because I was cold, closed off or aggressive, but despite all my efforts, she was swayed by the expectation marriage was a Disney movie and compared our life to those she saw online. I’m still alone now, and she’s once again divorced from a second man, but with 3 kids in tow.",
      "body_zh": "我被留下（并最终被欺骗），因为我的伴侣不愿表达她的不满。不是因为我冷漠、封闭或咄咄逼人，而是尽管我付出了一切努力，她还是被“婚姻是一部迪士尼电影”的期望所动摇，并将我们的生活与她在网上看到的生活进行了比较。我现在还是孤身一人，而她又和第二个男人离婚了，但还带着三个孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym9bwq",
      "author": "NegotiableVeracity9",
      "created_utc": 1784524817,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym9bwq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Years and years of emotional & financial abuse and manipulation, capstone was an episode of physical abuse.  I tried to make it work for the kids, we DID have some happy times, but the undercurrent of attempts at control, isolation, and to make me hate myself as much as HE hated himself were just not worth it.  Kids and I are now THRIVING being separated with split custody.",
      "body_zh": "年复一年的情感和经济虐待和操纵，顶点是身体虐待的一个插曲。  我试图让它对孩子们有用，我们确实度过了一些快乐的时光，但是试图控制、孤立、让我恨自己就像他恨自己一样的暗流是不值得的。  我和孩子们现在正在分居，监护权分开。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykcvuu",
      "author": "Odd-Knowledge4455",
      "created_utc": 1784500255,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykcvuu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I married someone already established, where I was not yet. I had a solid, good paying job, but had only been there a few years. He had a health scare and previous health issues. I mentioned afterward about having wills drawn up. He looked at me and asked “ Why? What do you have?” I knew then I was the only one looking out for my future and he couldn’t be bothered with me.",
      "body_zh": "我嫁给了一个已经成熟的人，而我还没有结婚。我有一份稳定、高薪的工作，但只在那里工作了几年。他有过健康恐慌和以前的健康问题。我后来提到了起草遗嘱的事。他看着我问：“为什么？你有什么？”我当时就知道我是唯一一个为自己的未来着想的人，他不会理会我的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl1pea",
      "author": "SkyesMomma",
      "created_utc": 1784507925,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl1pea/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Things weren't the best when I went on a last minute vacation with a coworker when her sister's passport didnt arrive in time....\nLaying on the beach, I was contemplating anything and everything and asked myself if I pictured myself being with him for the rest of my life. Absolutely not. When I got home, he accused me of cheating....that made the choice even easier for me.",
      "body_zh": "当我和一位同事在最后一刻去度假时，她姐姐的护照没有及时送达，情况并不好……\n躺在海滩上，我思考着一切，问自己是否想象过自己会和他共度余生。绝对不是。当我回到家时，他指责我作弊……这让我更容易做出选择。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylgnz5",
      "author": "Just_the_questions1",
      "created_utc": 1784513128,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylgnz5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Was not married but in a relationship that lasted for almost 5 years. She has BPD, COVID stressed us both out but her more. The relationship ended during one of her episodes. She backed me into a closet and pointed a loaded 38 caliber pistol at me then put a bullet in the floor 2 feet in front of me. That was the end of what I now recognize to be a very toxic relationship.",
      "body_zh": "尚未结婚，但恋爱关系持续了近5年。她患有边缘型人格障碍（BPD），新冠病毒给我们俩带来了压力，但她的压力更大。这段关系在她的一个情节中结束了。她把我推到壁橱里，用一把上膛的 38 口径手枪指着我，然后将一颗子弹射入我面前 2 英尺的地板上。我现在认识到一段非常有毒的关系就这样结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyln8fu",
      "author": "TheDivision_Builds",
      "created_utc": 1784515501,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyln8fu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Never her satisfied, using me for my money and blowing up after we had an unofficial separation that SHE chose to leave Me with.\n\nUsing my daughter against me\nCalling me a POS father when that baby gets everything she needs and wants (when I can afford it) making my child cry because she knows daddy lives and does everything he can for her.\n\nFirst divorce coming up here.",
      "body_zh": "她从来都不满意，利用我来获取我的钱，在我们非正式分手后她选择离开我，然后就爆发了。\n\n利用我的女儿来对付我\n当那个孩子得到她需要和想要的一切（当我负担得起的时候）时，我称我为“POS父亲”，这让我的孩子哭了，因为她知道爸爸还活着，并为她做了一切。\n\n第一次离婚就在这里。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyivxvo",
      "author": "CapitalFloor3260",
      "created_utc": 1784486303,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyivxvo/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Got home from work in different scrubs that I left in. She accused me of cheating and wouldn’t accept any other explanation (not the first time she accused me). My patient threw up on me so I changed into OR scrubs. She didn’t like the story so she smashed my phone and computer. I grabbed some clothes, took the dog, and left. Been happily divorced from her for 10 years.",
      "body_zh": "下班回家时，我穿着不同的工作服。她指责我作弊，并且不接受任何其他解释（这不是她第一次指责我）。我的病人吐在我身上，所以我换上了手术服。她不喜欢这个故事，所以她砸坏了我的手机和电脑。我抓起一些衣服，带着狗就离开了。与她离婚已经10年了，很幸福。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymah85",
      "author": "PajamaStripes",
      "created_utc": 1784525371,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymah85/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Didn't get divorced but nearly did; alcoholism. He has done very well since rehab. I made sure he went to a private facility and not a state one of you catch my drift. He's a very good man who has been through unimaginable trauma and had a father who believed going to therapy was some kind of weakness. Said father has since reversed his stance. Things are going better.",
      "body_zh": "没有离婚，但差一点就离婚了；酗酒。康复后他的表现非常好。我确保他去了一家私人机构，而不是某个州，你们明白我的意思了。他是一个非常好的人，经历过难以想象的创伤，他的父亲认为接受治疗是某种弱点。这位父亲后来改变了立场。事情正在变得更好。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjon2o",
      "author": "Bullshit_Jones",
      "created_utc": 1784493937,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjon2o/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I slept with someone else and didn’t feel guilty so I ended it the next day. \n\nFor the record, I went our entire 25 year relationship without cheating, but we had been having problems for a long time. We hadn’t slept together in months and months. We both knew it was over, he was frankly just freezing me out until I couldn’t take it anymore. And I finally couldn’t.",
      "body_zh": "我和别人睡了，并没有感到内疚，所以第二天我就结束了。 \n\n郑重声明，我们25年的恋爱关系中我没有出轨，但我们之间的问题已经存在很长一段时间了。我们已经好几个月没有睡在一起了。我们都知道一切都结束了，坦率地说，他只是把我拒之门外，直到我再也无法忍受为止。而我最终还是做不到。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyltgch",
      "author": "meow1983",
      "created_utc": 1784517907,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyltgch/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "His father was arrested for multiple videos of children abusing sexually abused. The children in the videos were the same ages of our children. His father confessed to the police and the family and was out on bail. My husband wanted his father to see our kids one last time. \n\nHe had abused me for years but that was a hard line for me. We were divorced in a year.",
      "body_zh": "他的父亲因多段虐待儿童的视频而被捕。视频中的孩子和我们的孩子同龄。他的父亲向警方和家人认罪，并已获保释。我丈夫希望他的父亲最后一次见到我们的孩子。 \n\n他多年来一直虐待我，但这对我来说是一个强硬的路线。一年后我们就离婚了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyljw30",
      "author": "daydreamer8080",
      "created_utc": 1784514284,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyljw30/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He was working overnight (and allowed to have his phone and text). About 30 minutes before he had to head into work, I had to rush my mom to the hospital. My mom and I were there from about 8:30 PM to 5:45 AM. At no point did he message me and ask how she was doing or to see what was going on. I already hated him at that point, but that pushed me over the edge.",
      "body_zh": "他通宵工作（并允许使用手机和短信）。在他上班前大约 30 分钟，我不得不赶我妈妈去医院。我和妈妈从晚上 8:30 到凌晨 5:45 在那里。他从来没有给我发消息询问她过得怎么样或看看发生了什么事。那时我已经恨他了，但这把我推到了悬崖边。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjc5tv",
      "author": "Biggsavage",
      "created_utc": 1784490789,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjc5tv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I carried that marriage for 10 years, she never did a damn thing, just always along for the ride.  \n\nI finally told her that I wasn't happy and I want her to do one thing. Just one thing for our relationship. Pick a book for us to read together, set a counseling session up, plan a couple's getaway, anything that could help the relationship.\n\nShe didn't. I left",
      "body_zh": "我维持这段婚姻已经十年了，她从来没有做过任何该死的事，只是一直陪着我。  \n\n我最后告诉她我不高兴，我想让她做一件事。对于我们的关系来说，只有一件事。选一本书让我们一起读，安排一次咨询，计划一对夫妇的度假，任何可以帮助我们关系的事情。\n\n她没有。我离开了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylyw7w",
      "author": "FalconLazy1951",
      "created_utc": 1784520166,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylyw7w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he decided to drive home drunk from the bar and crashed our vehicle after me telling him multiple times to get his drinking under control or I wasn’t gonna stick around to watch him drink himself to death. Luckily, he’s now almost a year sober and we’ve been able to build up a good coparenting relationship and even a friendship, but our marriage is over.",
      "body_zh": "当他决定从酒吧醉酒开车回家并撞坏了我们的车时，我多次告诉他要控制饮酒，否则我不会留下来看着他喝死。幸运的是，他现在已经清醒了将近一年，我们已经能够建立良好的共同抚养关系，甚至是友谊，但我们的婚姻已经结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjsk9w",
      "author": "New-Building-7270",
      "created_utc": 1784494995,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjsk9w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Just answered this elsewhere but lack of communication when we both started new businesses. I did communicate it and we fell out of marriage and communicating. She was very much addicted to social media and “network marketing” whereas my work growth was in-person and organic. Just two different people at the end of 2 years of effort (7 year marriage)",
      "body_zh": "刚刚在其他地方回答过这个问题，但当我们都开始新业务时缺乏沟通。我确实沟通过，但我们的婚姻和沟通破裂了。她非常沉迷于社交媒体和“网络营销”，而我的工作成长是面对面的、有机的。两年的努力（七年的婚姻）结束后只是两个不同的人"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyklggh",
      "author": "bornmoonchild",
      "created_utc": 1784502708,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyklggh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "he hit our baby.. even though I witnessed it, he claimed he didn’t do it. Called me crazy and other stuff. I made sure I was gone the next week. Took the kids, 2 bags of clothes and I was gone. Never looked back.   \nHappily married for 2 decades now. My husband never laid a finger on the kids or me. Respects me and never calls me stupid or crazy.",
      "body_zh": "他打了我们的孩子……尽管我亲眼目睹，但他声称他没有这么做。骂我疯了之类的。我确定下周我就离开了。带着孩子和两袋衣服，我就走了。从未回头。   \n至今已结婚20年，幸福美满。我丈夫从来没有对孩子或我动过一根指头。尊重我，从不说我愚蠢或疯狂。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjx84d",
      "author": "the-pincushion",
      "created_utc": 1784496211,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjx84d/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He ate my food. I have celiac disease, and I'm strictly gluten free. My dad had gotten me some specialty GF cookies, that I literally had never once had in my life. He ate most of them, and then burated me for it. Blamed it on me, this was all while we had company over. I officially left like 2 weeks later, but the marriage was done that night.",
      "body_zh": "他吃了我的食物。我患有乳糜泻，而且我严格不含麸质。我爸爸给我买了一些特制的 GF 饼干，这是我一生中从未吃过的。他吃了大部分，然后又把我吃了。都怪我，这都是我们有伴的时候发生的。两周后我正式离开，但婚礼当晚就结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyimhua",
      "author": "darts_in_lovers_eyes",
      "created_utc": 1784483757,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyimhua/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Going through something very traumatic (miscarriage) and getting no support from him, with him instead filling his calendar so he could spend as little time with me and my grief as possible. Realising that the one thing I want in a marriage is support when times get tough and getting none of that from him cause he's just not that kinda person.",
      "body_zh": "经历了一些非常痛苦的事情（流产）并且没有得到他的支持，而是让他填满了他的日历，这样他就可以花尽可能少的时间陪伴我和我的悲伤。意识到我在婚姻中想要的一件事就是在困难时期得到支持，但我却从他那里得不到任何这些，因为他不是那样的人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjfj3w",
      "author": "Whiskeydrinkinturtle",
      "created_utc": 1784491638,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjfj3w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We moved and she didnt help pack till 2 days before. I did almost everything by myself and I was dealing with all the logistics and working a lot. She didn't even once apologize for how little she helped nor did she seem to care when all the stress made me incredibly depressed. Fucking sucked. After that I knew there was nothing left to save.",
      "body_zh": "我们搬家了，她直到两天前才帮忙收拾行李。我几乎自己做了所有的事情，我负责处理所有的后勤工作并做很多工作。她甚至没有为自己帮的太少而道歉，也没有在所有的压力让我极度沮丧时显得毫不在意。他妈的太烂了。在那之后我知道已经没有什么可以挽救的了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylw2ae",
      "author": "tossthatishawaytoday",
      "created_utc": 1784518977,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylw2ae/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After running a 5k (that he pushed me to do), my soon-to-be-ex-husband criticized both my body and workout habits, then topped it off with saying that I didn’t fit the image of the person he imagined himself marrying. That was the last straw and I started planning my exit that day.\n\nNow I’m living alone with my cat and I couldn’t be happier!",
      "body_zh": "在跑了 5 公里（他强迫我跑）后，我即将成为前夫的人批评了我的身体和锻炼习惯，最后还说我不符合他想象中的结婚对象的形象。那是最后一根稻草，那天我开始计划退出。\n\n现在我和我的猫独自生活，我高兴极了！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk83ut",
      "author": "teuwgle",
      "created_utc": 1784499067,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk83ut/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We’d been going downhill for a while, and I’d tried to leave before but I was bad at sticking to my guns. Then one day she got out of the shower and I was in the bedroom. As she walked through without clothes on I realized that there wasn’t a single part of her I was attracted to, physically or emotionally. We separated a few days later.",
      "body_zh": "我们已经有一段时间走下坡路了，我以前也曾试图离开，但我不擅长坚持自己的立场。然后有一天，她洗完澡出来，我在卧室里。当她光着身子走过时，我意识到她身上没有任何一个部分能吸引我，无论是身体上还是情感上。几天后我们分开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjf9zl",
      "author": "My_Finger_Smells_Why",
      "created_utc": 1784491576,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjf9zl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My then-wife just kept saying she wanted a divorce every time things didn't quite go her way. After a couple of years of her using this threat as a lever, I realised she was never going to stop, and I just ended up not dreading the idea of that divorce; I granted her wish. A good few years later and we are both so much happier apart.",
      "body_zh": "每当事情不顺利时，我当时的妻子就一直说她想离婚。在她利用这种威胁作为杠杆几年后，我意识到她永远不会停止，而我最终不再害怕离婚的想法;我满足了她的愿望。几年过去了，我们俩都更加幸福了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyknxsc",
      "author": "SpuddleBuns",
      "created_utc": 1784503450,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyknxsc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "You just realize after yet another screaming match over lack of respect that you are just done with it. It's like someone turning off the stove burner. The fire literally dies in your heart and you decide, \"I'm done.\"\n\nDoesn't make the actual leaving part any easier, but it's one of those, \"When you know, you know,\" moments in Life.",
      "body_zh": "在又一场因缺乏尊重而尖叫的比赛之后，你才意识到你已经结束了。就像有人关掉炉子一样。你心中的火焰确实熄灭了，你决定：“我受够了。”\n\n这并不会让真正的离开变得更容易，但这是生命中“当你知道的时候，你就知道了”的时刻之一。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykvo5p",
      "author": "Mammoth_Wonder_1286",
      "created_utc": 1784505903,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykvo5p/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I came to her to tell her that I believe I am suffering from depression and that I am thinking about getting some help. Before I could get the full sentence out she yells \"I knew you are crazy!\". \"Just like your mother!\".    \nI put my head down and went back to my room.  The guest room where I had been living for the past 2 years.",
      "body_zh": "我来找她，告诉她我相信我患有抑郁症，并且我正在考虑寻求一些帮助。在我说出完整的句子之前，她大喊“我就知道你疯了！”。 “就像你妈妈一样！”。    \n我低下头，回到了自己的房间。  我过去两年住过的客房。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyis70s",
      "author": "Fun_MBA_CatMom",
      "created_utc": 1784485282,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyis70s/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he had 12 hours to vacuum and sweep the downstairs and empty the dishwasher before I got home and didn't. After years of begging for love and consideration. I knew when I got home and 3 simple chores hadn't been done that he didn't care about me or our life like he claimed to and I was done sacrificing myself and my needs.",
      "body_zh": "在我回家之前，他有 12 个小时的时间来吸尘、清扫楼下并清空洗碗机，但他没有这么做。经过多年的乞求爱和考虑。我知道当我回到家时，三件简单的家务活都没有做完，他并不像他声称的那样关心我或我们的生活，我已经牺牲了自己和我的需求。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj4lyq",
      "author": "extrovertLibra",
      "created_utc": 1784488675,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj4lyq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had been saving to move into town. Came home all proud with a new truck. All the bells and whistles.  Like 80 grand.. this was back in late 2000's. I knew then he told me what i wanted to hear and did what he wanted. It took me another 2 years to leave . One day he went to work and I packed a u haul. I love my new life.",
      "body_zh": "我们一直在攒钱搬进城。带着一辆新卡车自豪地回到家。所有的花里胡哨。  就像 80 盛大..那是在 2000 年代末。我当时就知道他告诉了我我想听的话并做了他想做的事。我又花了两年时间才离开。有一天，他去上班，我收拾了一大堆东西。我热爱我的新生活。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykdorz",
      "author": "LittleEddieMitty",
      "created_utc": 1784500482,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykdorz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not me, but my sister kicked her husband to the curb when she realized the only way she was going to see me and her niece was after he was gone. He had been grooming my daughter and my sister was having a hard time accepting that. I told her I was going no contact to protect my child and she finally did something about it.",
      "body_zh": "不是我，而是我姐姐，当她意识到她能见到我和她侄女的唯一方式就是在他离开后，她把她的丈夫踢到了路边。他一直在为我的女儿打扮，而我的妹妹很难接受这一点。我告诉她我不会与任何人接触以保护我的孩子，她终于采取了一些措施。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjwi7j",
      "author": "Royal-Advance7374",
      "created_utc": 1784496031,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjwi7j/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I was sick in bed and he got upset about me asking him to bring me some food because it was a mile off the road he was driving home. The same man who asked me to pick him up food from his favorite fast food place at least twice a week, which was 10 miles off my route. It was clear to me that he did not care about me.",
      "body_zh": "当我卧病在床时，他对我要求他给我带些食物感到不安，因为距离他开车回家的路有一英里。同一个人要求我每周至少两次从他最喜欢的快餐店接他的食物，而这距离我的路线有 10 英里。我很清楚他并不关心我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyimrrg",
      "author": "aspiecat1",
      "created_utc": 1784483832,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyimrrg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my (now ex-) husband told me, when I wrote how I was feeling down and gave it to him. The written word has always been my forte rather than the spoken word. He read it, looked at me, and said, \"So, what do you expect me to do about it?\" There had been a LOT of worse things prior to that, but that was the last straw.",
      "body_zh": "当我的（现在的前）丈夫告诉我时，当我写下我的情绪低落并将其交给他时。书面文字一直是我的强项，而不是口头文字。他读完后看着我说：“那么，你希望我对此做什么？”在此之前发生过很多更糟糕的事情，但那是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjtfsb",
      "author": "ThePathOfTwinStars",
      "created_utc": 1784495248,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjtfsb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she told me she landed yet another job interview and I realized I was just plastering a smile on my face and knowing, deep down, that it was never going to work out and I would likely be the only responsible adult in the relationship, likely forever. I had lost all faith in her ability to contribute to the marriage.",
      "body_zh": "当她告诉我她又获得了一次工作面试机会时，我意识到我只是脸上挂着微笑，内心深处知道，这永远不会成功，我可能会成为这段关系中唯一负责任的成年人，很可能永远。我对她为婚姻做出贡献的能力失去了所有信心。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyknpk5",
      "author": "Due-Egg5603",
      "created_utc": 1784503381,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyknpk5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He pinned me down to a sofa by my neck while I held our two year old daughter in my lap and said he felt like shooting us both. I was out of there a month later with the dogs, the cats, and the kid. \n\nHe was always jealous and controlling but escalated exponentially the last year we were together. It was long overdue.",
      "body_zh": "他掐着我的脖子把我按在沙发上，我把两岁的女儿抱在腿上，说他想向我们俩开枪。一个月后，我带着狗、猫和孩子离开了那里。 \n\n他总是嫉妒和控制欲强，但去年我们在一起的时候，他的嫉妒心和控制欲呈指数级上升。早就该这么做了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykizq2",
      "author": "Weekly-Ad-7719",
      "created_utc": 1784501987,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykizq2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was in really poor mental health and tried to kill myself. Explained to her that I needed to do something about it, and came to her with a plan (which of course included finally prioritising some ‘me’ time, rather than just giving and giving). She said “in which case I’d rather you weren’t here”… so I had to leave.",
      "body_zh": "我的心理健康状况非常糟糕，并试图自杀。向她解释说我需要对此做点什么，并向她提出了一个计划（当然包括最终优先考虑一些“我”的时间，而不仅仅是给予和给予）。她说“这样的话我宁愿你不在这里”……所以我不得不离开。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymdjmk",
      "author": "Maleficent_Taste_736",
      "created_utc": 1784526869,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymdjmk/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She asked for divorce; said we had grown apart, and she felt \"disconnected\".\n\nFirst thing I asked was if there was someone else in her life: received a flat \"no; I don't have time or space in my life for that\".\n\nSix months later, she introduced her new partner to my child: They were already in a stable relationship.",
      "body_zh": "她要求离婚；说我们已经疏远了，她感到“脱节”。\n\n我问的第一件事是她的生活中是否还有其他人：收到了公寓“不；我的生活中没有时间或空间”。\n\n六个月后，她向我的孩子介绍了她的新伴侣：他们已经建立了稳定的关系。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj2k0x",
      "author": "azraelce",
      "created_utc": 1784488072,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj2k0x/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not being listened to emotionally.\nI would also say it becomes one-sided when only one person is asking questions about how the other is feeling and trying to be a bit deeper than \"Are you okay?\".\n\nIt occasionally requires effort to get your partner to be emotionally vulnerable, it's rare people actually do that.",
      "body_zh": "不被感情用事地倾听。\n我还想说，当只有一个人询问另一个人的感受并试图比“你还好吗？”更深入一点时，这就会变得片面。\n\n有时需要付出努力才能让你的伴侣在情感上变得脆弱，但很少有人真正做到这一点。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylhhtz",
      "author": "mediocrecanadian",
      "created_utc": 1784513425,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylhhtz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she started sleeping with other people but not me. I was fine with it(her sleeping with other people, as I was too), but when she said that sleeping with me felt like a chore, that was it for me. Still waiting for her to move out in a few months. No idea what life will be like after 20+ years being with her.",
      "body_zh": "当她开始和其他人睡觉但不和我睡觉时。我对此很满意（她和其他人一起睡觉，我也是如此），但当她说和我一起睡觉感觉像是一件苦差事时，这对我来说就是这样。还在等她几个月后搬出去。不知道和她在一起20多年后，生活会是什么样子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykb98t",
      "author": "PileOfLife",
      "created_utc": 1784499827,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykb98t/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Couldn’t bear the thought of going on vacation together: two weeks 24/7 listening to complaints amd being controlled non-stop. No escape apart from toilet breaks. After 9,5 years I told her I just wouldn’t go on vacation together, which was the catalyst.\n\nCurrently looking for an appartment… god I will be free.",
      "body_zh": "无法忍受一起去度假的想法：两周 24/7 听抱怨和不停地受到控制。除了上厕所，无处可逃。 9.5年后，我告诉她我不会一起去度假，这是催化剂。\n\n目前正在寻找公寓……上帝啊，我会自由的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylud62",
      "author": "Naive-Tune4632",
      "created_utc": 1784518278,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylud62/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He lied to me, tried to make me feel like I was going crazy, then tried to isolate me from my parents. \n\nFinally, I was working 60+ hours a week while he sat in his home office and did who knows what. We were short money, and he steeped his fingers, looked at me, and asked me what I was going to do about it.",
      "body_zh": "他对我撒谎，试图让我感觉自己疯了，然后试图将我与父母隔离。 \n\n最后，我每周工作 60 多个小时，而他则坐在家庭办公室里做着谁知道的事情。我们缺钱，他伸出手指，看着我，问我该怎么办。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyldk2g",
      "author": "mcchickenfugget",
      "created_utc": 1784512019,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyldk2g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "All these comments make me sad :( I got out easy because we both realized that we were no longer on the same page about having kids. I’m so thankful that this man did not put up a fight about splitting up our assets (spoiler alert, we’re both students) so it was just hard to say goodbye to some of our pets.",
      "body_zh": "所有这些评论让我很伤心:(我很轻松地离开了，因为我们都意识到我们在生孩子问题上不再意见一致。我很庆幸这个男人没有因为分割我们的资产而吵架（剧透警报，我们都是学生），所以很难和我们的一些宠物说再见。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyityc8",
      "author": "squashybunz456",
      "created_utc": 1784485756,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyityc8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I begged him to go to therapy with me or at least have an open conversation about our relationship. He told me no, that everything wrong in our marriage was my fault and i had to agree to do things his way. I filed for divorce shortly after that. I loved him so much, but there was no way forward after that",
      "body_zh": "我恳求他和我一起去接受治疗，或者至少就我们的关系进行一次公开的对话。他告诉我不，我们婚姻中的一切问题都是我的错，我必须同意按照他的方式做事。不久之后我提出了离婚。我很爱他，但之后就没有前进的路了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrco0",
      "author": "gotpoopstains",
      "created_utc": 1784517067,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrco0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I asked him why he acted like such a sweet guy just to turn around on our wedding night and be an asshole.\n\nHe said, \"Well you never would have married me otherwise... but I know how serious you take marriage and that you're never gonna leave so what are you gonna do? You get what you get and this is it\"",
      "body_zh": "我问他为什么表现得这么可爱，却在我们的新婚之夜却转身变成了一个混蛋。\n\n他说：“否则你永远不会嫁给我……但我知道你对婚姻有多认真，而且你永远不会离开，所以你要做什么？你得到了你得到的，就是这样”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylsdp6",
      "author": "Prior-Jello-2149",
      "created_utc": 1784517477,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylsdp6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "More of a wake up call than a final straw: we had friends over (another couple). The visiting woman started to make everyone coffee in our kitchen. She asked my wife how I'd like my coffee. My wife had no idea. We'd been together 10 years. Now happily separated and trying to be less of a people pleaser.",
      "body_zh": "更像是一个警钟，而不是最后一根稻草：我们有朋友过来（另一对夫妇）。来访的女士开始在我们的厨房里给每个人煮咖啡。她问我妻子我的咖啡怎么样。我的妻子不知道。我们已经在一起10年了。现在幸福地分开了，并努力变得不那么讨人喜欢。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylapv3",
      "author": "Bosco73",
      "created_utc": 1784511009,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylapv3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I’ve read a bunch of responses. Fwiw, I’m really sorry that you’ve all gone through it.  \nI’m 24.9 years through marriage and it hasn’t always been easy. We have a cruise booked in late august and, honestly, I’m often surprised we’ve gotten to this point.   \nWish the best for all of you. Wish me luck.",
      "body_zh": "我读了很多回复。 Fwiw，我真的很抱歉你们都经历了这一切。  \n我已经结婚 24.9 年了，这并不总是那么容易。我们预订了八月下旬的游轮之旅，说实话，我常常很惊讶我们竟然走到了这一步。   \n祝大家一切顺利。祝我好运。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyloei8",
      "author": "Mom12387",
      "created_utc": 1784515935,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyloei8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After my ex cheated and we got back together, \nhe became super paranoid. He accused me of being on Only Fans because he claimed a girl on there had the same scar on her forehead. He thought that it was me but I photoshopped the picture so people wouldn't know it was me. And why was he even on there...",
      "body_zh": "前任出轨后我们又复合了 \n他变得超级偏执。他指责我上Only Fans，因为他声称那里的一个女孩额头上有同样的伤疤。他以为那是我，但我对照片进行了修图，这样人们就不会知道那是我。还有他为什么会在那儿……"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj4q08",
      "author": "BornFree2018",
      "created_utc": 1784488709,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj4q08/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "\"Nice Guy\" who was a nonconfrontational people pleaser. He constantly put the family into financial straits by changing jobs, giving people \"loans\" they never paid back, buying broken cars etc.  I finally had enough after one of his \"big ideas\" backfired big time. I couldn't parent a 40 year old man.",
      "body_zh": "“好人”，一个不具对抗性、取悦他人的人。他不断地通过换工作、向人们发放从未偿还的“贷款”、购买破车等方式让家庭陷入经济困境。在他的一个“伟大想法”适得其反后，我终于受够了。我无法抚养一个40岁的男人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjjptc",
      "author": "Audio_Head528",
      "created_utc": 1784492596,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjjptc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The constant accusations of infidelity didn't help, but when she accused me of being the source of her massive migraines, I finally realized she was really looking for a way out. Then she turned demonic and I really thought she was plotting to kill me in my sleep. I was finally able to take the hint.",
      "body_zh": "不断的不忠指控并没有帮助，但当她指责我是她严重偏头痛的根源时，我终于意识到她实际上是在寻找出路。然后她变得恶魔般，我真的以为她在密谋在睡梦中杀死我。我终于明白了这一点。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl5twd",
      "author": "Numerous_Candy3938",
      "created_utc": 1784509311,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl5twd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "he was addicted to pain killers and slowly destroyed everything around him, refused help. it ended when he drove he wrote off his truck and instead of getting help, he went and played golf. trying to help someone through almost five years of addiction was eating away at my soul, so I left. no regrets",
      "body_zh": "他对止痛药上瘾，慢慢地摧毁了他周围的一切，拒绝帮助。当他开车时，他注销了自己的卡车，并没有寻求帮助，而是去打高尔夫球。试图帮助某人度过近五年的毒瘾正在侵蚀我的灵魂，所以我离开了。不后悔"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj89zs",
      "author": "Beyond-the-sunset",
      "created_utc": 1784489706,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj89zs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After years of trying to work with her on her emotional problems I had a nightmare in which she was holding me over my own grave and not letting me either fall in or get up. I'd started sleeping in the spare bedroom just to have silence away from her. \n\nShe still refuses to acknowledge the divorce.",
      "body_zh": "经过多年尝试与她一起解决她的情感问题后，我做了一个噩梦，梦中她把我抱在自己的坟墓上，不让我跌倒或站起来。我开始睡在空荡荡的卧室里，只是为了远离她，保持沉默。 \n\n她至今仍不承认离婚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykz84i",
      "author": "noreasternsea",
      "created_utc": 1784507081,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykz84i/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Me realizing that no matter how much support I gave, he had to decide to be sober for it to stick. Part of me hopes this will be the rock bottom that will help him realize he needs to change and we go back to something close to what we had. But I am also looking forward to living for myself again.",
      "body_zh": "我意识到，无论我给予多少支持，他都必须决定保持清醒，这样才能坚持下去。我的一部分希望这将成为一个最低点，帮助他认识到他需要改变，然后我们回到接近我们所拥有的状态。但我也期待再次为自己而活。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylr6j7",
      "author": "Weary_Umpire_6219",
      "created_utc": 1784517001,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylr6j7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I begged too many times for him to 1. Stop using drugs 2. Tell me the truth. 3. Other lies uncovered, like using my card while i was sleeping for random shit like drugs and then lying about it. Signed the papers last week. Hurts a lot to start over at 33, but here i am. He was never going to stop.",
      "body_zh": "我多次恳求他 1. 停止吸毒 2. 告诉我真相。 3. 其他谎言被揭穿，比如在我睡觉的时候用我的卡去吸毒之类的乱七八糟的东西，然后撒谎。上周签署了文件。 33岁重新开始确实很痛苦，但我还是在这里。他永远不会停止。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymcx9m",
      "author": "SpippyTheCrazy",
      "created_utc": 1784526565,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymcx9m/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When conversations around conflict turn to expliciyoy suggesting malicious intent. It's somewhat natural gir us to hurt each other; it's part of being human. But if you don't trust your SO enough to believe it's unintentional or a misunderstanding or something... Boy, it's hard to come back from.",
      "body_zh": "当围绕冲突的对话转向明确暗示恶意意图时。我们互相伤害是很自然的事。这是人类的一部分。但如果你对你的SO不够信任，以至于相信这是无意的或误会或其他什么……天哪，那就很难恢复过来了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykyw4b",
      "author": "ThugWhiteand7Whores",
      "created_utc": 1784506966,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykyw4b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After I got pregnant, he lost any and all attraction to me. After I had our baby, he told me that I had gained weight since our daughter was born and he wasn't attracted to me anymore because I wasn't thin and beautiful anymore. It was super funny because he was 100+ lbs overweight and balding.",
      "body_zh": "我怀孕后，他对我失去了所有的吸引力。我生完孩子后，他告诉我，自从我们女儿出生以来，我体重增加了，他不再对我感兴趣，因为我不再苗条、美丽了。这非常有趣，因为他体重超重 100 多磅，而且还秃顶。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykv09l",
      "author": "MrsMcCullock",
      "created_utc": 1784505687,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykv09l/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had a young child together at the time and he had been threatening to kill himself for the last 2 yrs previous. His drinking was getting really out of hand and we were both spiraling. I asked him to go sober up and he attempted suicide instead. He couldnt come back in the house after that.",
      "body_zh": "当时我们有一个小孩，他在过去两年里一直威胁要自杀。他的酗酒真的失控了，我们俩都陷入了困境。我让他清醒一点，他却试图自杀。此后他就不能再回到屋子里了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl3xz3",
      "author": "carosub",
      "created_utc": 1784508679,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl3xz3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Diagnosed with pneumonia and doctor wanted to put me in the hospital - called my husband and he asked who would pickup the kids from aftercare - my mom did it - got out of hospital after 2 days - was supposed to rest - he asked when I was going grocery shopping - took me 3 more years to leave",
      "body_zh": "被诊断出患有肺炎，医生想让我住院 - 打电话给我丈夫，他问谁来接孩子们去康复中心 - 我妈妈接了 - 两天后出院 - 应该休息 - 他问我什么时候去杂货店购物 - 我又花了三年时间才离开"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyla21v",
      "author": "fleepflorp0001",
      "created_utc": 1784510774,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyla21v/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Him being so drunk he peed on the bed thinking it was the bathroom…was my first oh fuck no moment but then we had an argument a few months later and he strangled me so that was the last straw. Moved out the next day and got a restraining order as soon as I could get my pets out of the house",
      "body_zh": "他醉得很厉害，他尿在床上，以为那是浴室……这是我第一次，哦，操，不是的，但几个月后我们发生了争吵，他勒死了我，所以这是最后一根稻草。第二天我就搬走了，当我能把我的宠物带出家门时，我就收到了限制令"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykc3uv",
      "author": "BeefSupreme678",
      "created_utc": 1784500047,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykc3uv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She quit her job 6 months after the wedding and never worked again. 2 years into the marriage she was watching TV when I got home from work when she asked me \"What's for dinner?\" and I replied \"Funny, I was about to ask you the same f*ckin thing.\"\n\nGlad I got out before we had any kids.",
      "body_zh": "结婚六个月后，她辞去了工作，再也没有工作过。结婚两年后，当我下班回家时，她正在看电视，她问我“晚餐吃什么？”我回答说：“有趣，我正想问你同样的问题。”\n\n很高兴我在我们有孩子之前就离开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylr1r5",
      "author": "Nthanua",
      "created_utc": 1784516949,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylr1r5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "A friend from work (also female) and I decided to start working out after work. Our job had a gym onsite. My ex thought it was so “I could attract other men.” Came home and my 5 year old said “daddy was looking through all your drawers (apparently looking for evidence of me cheating?).”",
      "body_zh": "我和一个工作上的朋友（也是女性）决定下班后开始锻炼。我们的工作现场有一个健身房。我的前任认为这样“我可以吸引其他男人”。回到家，我 5 岁的孩子说：“爸爸正在翻遍你所有的抽屉（显然是在寻找我作弊的证据？）。”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl8qfb",
      "author": "Successful_Sell1016",
      "created_utc": 1784510310,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl8qfb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex did a panel show on the radio (she was semi-famous), and live on air she said to the entire country that she'd never do charity work unless there was something in it for her. That was when I knew I would be happier without her in my life. Only took 12 years to work it out lol",
      "body_zh": "我的前夫在电台做了一个小组节目（她有点名气），在直播中她对全国说，除非对她有好处，否则她永远不会做慈善工作。那时我就​​知道，如果我的生活中没有她，我会更快乐。只花了12年时间就解决了哈哈"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrz2y",
      "author": "Brattlesnakex",
      "created_utc": 1784517315,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrz2y/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We hadn't had sex in two years and he refused to go to therapy or even really have a productive conversation about it. I gave up. We're still good friends, we've always had good rapport otherwise, but he has some issues (not just that) and he just...will not look them in the eye.",
      "body_zh": "我们已经两年没有做爱了，他拒绝接受治疗，甚至拒绝就此进行富有成效的对话。我放弃了。我们仍然是好朋友，除此之外我们一直保持着良好的关系，但他有一些问题（不仅如此），而且他只是......不会直视他们的眼睛。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjw4ue",
      "author": "Shai_Hoolood",
      "created_utc": 1784495945,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjw4ue/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Everything about our relationship sucked, but our sex life was abysmal. I wanted to explore my sexuality, but I couldn't with her. I thought there was something wrong with me for years, but eventually I realized I couldn't get aroused with her because she made me feel worthless.",
      "body_zh": "我们的关系一切都很糟糕，但我们的性生活很糟糕。我想探索我的性取向，但我不能和她在一起。多年来我一直以为自己出了什么问题，但最终我意识到我无法对她产生性欲，因为她让我觉得自己毫无价值。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyktlaf",
      "author": "Upbeat_Uncommon",
      "created_utc": 1784505220,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyktlaf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me I caused my pulmonary embolism because I’m lazy. I was pregnant and that clot is how I figured out I have 2 blood clotting disorders. Oh and I drove myself to the hospital. Oh oh oh he didn’t pick up the phone when I was being discharged because he was sleeping.",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我我因为懒惰而导致肺栓塞时。我怀孕了，通过那个凝块我发现我患有两种凝血障碍。哦，我自己开车去了医院。哦哦哦，我出院的时候他没有接电话，因为他在睡觉。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjqke0",
      "author": "Novaportia",
      "created_utc": 1784494437,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjqke0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Two straws for my mom.\n\n\n1. The way my dad treated her at my sister's wedding. I saw my mom crying at breakfast the next morning.\n\n\n2. She went to buy bedsheets and realised he had emptied their bank account. Got home and he had bought a new motorbike without talking to her.",
      "body_zh": "给我妈妈的两根吸管。\n\n\n1. 我父亲在我姐姐的婚礼上对待她的方式。第二天早上吃早餐时我看到妈妈在哭。\n\n\n2. 她去买床单，发现他已经清空了她们的银行账户。回到家，他没有和她说话就买了一辆新摩托车。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk0fsf",
      "author": "SNES_Salesman",
      "created_utc": 1784497045,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk0fsf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "No one knew we were going through a tough time but then she made an impassioned post on Thanksgiving on what she was thankful for including a collage that included her family, her friends, her pets, her co-workers (including affair partner) and that’s all she needed in life.",
      "body_zh": "没有人知道我们正在经历一段艰难的时期，但后来她在感恩节上发表了一篇充满激情的帖子，表达了她的感激之情，其中包括一张拼贴画，其中包括她的家人、她的朋友、她的宠物、她的同事（包括外遇伴侣），这就是她生活中所需要的一切。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym6und",
      "author": "Ill_Study_9022",
      "created_utc": 1784523654,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym6und/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Apparently putting 20% into a retirement account. Thats not what good husbands do. They put 100% of their paychecks into their wives accounts and not need their own money for things like gas to get to work. And good husbands make more than $60,000 a year. So she divorced me.",
      "body_zh": "显然把20%存入退休账户。那不是好丈夫该做的事。他们将 100% 的薪水存入妻子的账户，并且不需要自己的钱来购买汽油等费用来上班。好丈夫的年收入超过 6 万美元。于是她就跟我离婚了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj7gzn",
      "author": "strtjstice",
      "created_utc": 1784489498,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj7gzn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She yelled at my kid (I was divorced and has 2 kids coming into the relationship) for doing exactly what he was supposed to do, as per instructions and when confronted with the truth, (a text to her that spelled it all out) she doubled down. \nThat was the final, last straw.",
      "body_zh": "她对我的孩子（我离婚了，有两个孩子开始恋爱）大喊大叫，因为他完全按照指示做了他应该做的事情，当面对真相时，（给她的一条短信说明了一切）她加倍努力。 \n这是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykfd1z",
      "author": "DecentDefinition567",
      "created_utc": 1784500963,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykfd1z/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The bad hygiene was getting worse; they were already not changing their clothes daily, not showering, and putting on the same dirty underwear because of laziness. Then I caught them sitting on the couch picking their nose and wiping it onto their pants. I knew it was over.",
      "body_zh": "卫生状况越来越差；他们已经因为懒惰而每天不换衣服、不洗澡、穿着同样脏的内衣。然后我发现他们坐在沙发上挖鼻子，然后把鼻子擦到裤子上。我知道一切都结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl1d5m",
      "author": "Far_Lawfulness_5155",
      "created_utc": 1784507810,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl1d5m/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He had to have emergency surgery from a work accident and I was not notified until after he was discharged the next day. By his mother. Told him the second he got home that I would help him recover, and then that was it if Im not even worth a phone call in that situation.",
      "body_zh": "他因工伤不得不接受紧急手术，直到第二天他出院后我才收到通知。由他的母亲。他一回到家就告诉他我会帮助他康复，如果在那种情况下我什至不值得打电话的话，那就这样了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj7bk1",
      "author": "Mummyto4",
      "created_utc": 1784489459,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj7bk1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Dosmetic abuse including mental, emotional and physical assault. \nI feel so much regret and guilt for not getting out sooner as we had children. \nBeen free from him over 8 years now and he's been out of our kids lives for over 4 years (even though he had a contact order)",
      "body_zh": "药物虐待，包括精神、情感和身体攻击。 \n我对我们有了孩子后没有早点出去感到非常遗憾和内疚。 \n现在已经脱离他 8 年多了，他已经离开我们孩子的生活超过 4 年了（尽管他有联系令）"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylizwn",
      "author": "Specialist_Rise5350",
      "created_utc": 1784513962,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylizwn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When the Ex wasn't proud of our daughter finally started crawling after he had been forcing her to get it sooner than she had. After I left him I realized that our daughter was developmentally delayed for 9 months old. She could barely sit up by herself, let alone crawl.",
      "body_zh": "当前任对我们的女儿感到不自豪时，在他强迫她比她更早得到它之后，她终于开始爬行了。离开他后，我意识到我们的女儿发育迟缓了9个月。她几乎无法自己坐起来，更不用说爬行了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjeetv",
      "author": "somekindofride",
      "created_utc": 1784491364,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjeetv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I left before I found out about the infidelity - that was just a nice parting gift. The last straw was losing “privileges” to our dog because my mom returned the dog to his house in a way he didn’t like. \n\nControlling asshole. I made off with the dog a week or so later.",
      "body_zh": "在我发现不忠之前我就离开了——这只是一份很好的离别礼物。最后一根稻草是我们的狗失去了“特权”，因为我妈妈以一种他不喜欢的方式把狗送回了家。 \n\n控制混蛋。大约一周后，我带着那只狗离开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylt38w",
      "author": "That_Guy848",
      "created_utc": 1784517761,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylt38w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "During a lucid moment in her weeks-long psychotic break, she said, “If you were acting the way I’ve been acting, I would have already taken the kids and left you to die.”\n\nBonus: oldest told me a couple years later that she overheard it and asked if it really happened.",
      "body_zh": "在她长达数周的精神病发作期间的一个清醒时刻，她说：“如果你按照我的方式行事，我早就带走了孩子，让你等死。”\n\n额外奖励：几年后，最年长的人告诉我，她无意中听到了这件事，并询问这是否真的发生过。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrmme",
      "author": "Fancy_Rule1670",
      "created_utc": 1784517177,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrmme/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Neglected the kids, became an alcoholic, then blamed me fkr it. Also blamed me for wanting kids. Never wanted to be a mom. Come home drunk with kids trying to wake her up. Final straw after the I tervention when she said \"ill cut back but im not gonna quit drinking\".",
      "body_zh": "忽视了孩子们，变成了一个酒鬼，然后责怪我。还怪我不想要孩子。从来没想过当妈妈。醉醺醺地回到家，孩子们试图叫醒她。当我干预后，她说“我会减少饮酒，但我不会戒酒”，这是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj0rq1",
      "author": "spara07",
      "created_utc": 1784487586,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj0rq1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex saw my promotion as an excuse to stop working. He didn't do anything at home either like cooking, cleaning, or mowing the lawn. I begged him to go back to work or just do SOMETHING productive with his time and he looked directly at me and said \"or else what?\"",
      "body_zh": "我的前任将我的晋升视为停止工作的借口。他在家不做任何事情，比如做饭、打扫卫生或修剪草坪。我恳求他回去工作，或者只是用他的时间做一些富有成效的事情，他直视着我说：“否则怎么办？”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym0uxc",
      "author": "CEOofLosing89",
      "created_utc": 1784520994,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym0uxc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I found out she was stealing money from our business for 2 years into a secret account she had. Also 90% sure she was fucking another guy for months before the divorce was even filed. Had a 2nd cell phone hidden in her car as well with messages to another guy.",
      "body_zh": "当我发现她把我们公司的钱偷了两年，存入她的秘密账户时。而且 90% 的确定是，在提出离婚之前的几个月里，她已经和另一个男人上床了。她的车里还藏着第二部手机，里面有给另一个男人的信息。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk69xi",
      "author": "AttractiveNuisance82",
      "created_utc": 1784498650,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk69xi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He said I was the reason my mother took her own life. \n\nShe had died years before I even met him. He just said it because he knew it was an ugly, horrible thing to say to hurt my feelings. \n\nAnyone who wants to hurt my feelings that badly clearly doesn’t love me.",
      "body_zh": "他说我是我母亲自杀的原因。 \n\n在我遇见他之前她就去世了好几年。他这么说只是因为他知道说伤害我的感情是一件丑陋、可怕的事情。 \n\n任何想严重伤害我感情的人显然不爱我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk2u8g",
      "author": "V2BM",
      "created_utc": 1784497639,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk2u8g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex husband’s employer paid him in baby birds. We hand fed them until they were old enough to sell to pet stores. We had a new human baby and bills, and I ended up filing for bankruptcy because he spent so much money. \n\nPlus I hated his guts for other reasons.",
      "body_zh": "我前夫的雇主用雏鸟付给他工资。我们亲手喂养它们，直到它们长大到可以卖给宠物店为止。我们有了一个新的人类婴儿和账单，我最终申请破产，因为他花了太多钱。 \n\n另外，我还有其他原因讨厌他。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk6zv0",
      "author": "thebornotaku",
      "created_utc": 1784498817,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk6zv0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There wasn't really a last straw. Just death by a thousand cuts. We had communication issues we couldn't reconcile even with each of us going to therapy, both of us going to therapy together, lots of reading and trying things.. just couldn't talk to each other.",
      "body_zh": "确实没有最后一根稻草。就是被千刀万剐而死。我们有沟通问题，即使我们每个人都去接受治疗，我们都一起接受治疗，大量阅读和尝试事情，我们也无法调和……只是无法互相交谈。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk6wem",
      "author": "theamazingvixen",
      "created_utc": 1784498794,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk6wem/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he put his hands on me. I had told him from the start of our relationship that if he ever hit me, that I was out. We had an argument 4 and a half years in and he hit me. I packed my bags and left that night. Its been 7 years and I haven't gone back since.",
      "body_zh": "当他把手放在我身上的时候。从我们关系一开始我就告诉他，如果他打我，我就出局了。我们吵了四年半，他打了我。当天晚上我就收拾好行李离开了。 7年过去了，我再也没有回去过。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiypxp",
      "author": "FlightRemote4275",
      "created_utc": 1784487048,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiypxp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not my story but my mother decided to leave my stepfather when she got really sick and he told her that sick people are disgusting and she deserved it\n\nI almost hit him and lost my mind. That was the moment she knew it was really over after 14 years of misery",
      "body_zh": "这不是我的故事，而是当我母亲病得很重时，她决定离开我的继父，他告诉她，病人是恶心的，她活该。\n\n我差点撞到他，然后失去了理智。那一刻她知道，14年的痛苦之后，一切都真正结束了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylmgpi",
      "author": "Cecilia_Kola",
      "created_utc": 1784515217,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylmgpi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I don't know, but I remember that my grandfather had just passed away before my divorce from my ex husband, and when I was about to go home with him, he refused to let me. This led to our already strained relationship ending. For me, family is very important.",
      "body_zh": "我不知道，但我记得在我和前夫离婚之前，我的祖父刚刚去世，当我准备和他一起回家时，他不让我。这导致我们本已紧张的关系结束。对我来说，家庭非常重要。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl9m44",
      "author": "AgitatedAd9756",
      "created_utc": 1784510617,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl9m44/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me I should be grateful I married him and not someone else because anyone else \"would have beat you by now\". So he thought I deserved to be beaten because he was sick of me, and tried to spin it as he's a good guy because he hadn't hit me \"yet\".",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我，我应该庆幸自己嫁给了他而不是其他人，因为其他人“现在都会打败你”。所以他认为我应该被殴打，因为他厌倦了我，并试图将其解释为他是个好人，因为他“还”没有打我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyldbcb",
      "author": "Key_Priority_3270",
      "created_utc": 1784511932,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyldbcb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My bestie went through this. No cheating or anything dramatic, they just slowly stopped communicating. He said the moment he knew it was over was when they had a big life decision to make and both realized they’d rather ask friends for advice than each other",
      "body_zh": "我的闺蜜就经历过这样的事没有作弊或任何戏剧性的事情，他们只是慢慢地停止了交流。他说，当他知道一切结束的那一刻，他们要做出重大的人生决定，两人都意识到他们宁愿向朋友寻求建议，也不愿向对方寻求建议。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykek55",
      "author": "oceanswim63",
      "created_utc": 1784500732,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykek55/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She only wanted to have relations with her girlfriend and never with me(m). Yet wanted to stay married and share the same bed. Essentially, I was to support her and the kids but not have any benefits, considering the kids were in school and she didn’t work.",
      "body_zh": "她只想和她的女朋友发生关系，不想和我发生关系。但仍想保持婚姻状态并睡在同一张床上。本质上，我是为了支持她和孩子们，但考虑到孩子们在上学而她没有工作，我没有任何好处。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyknta4",
      "author": "Electronic_Rain2787",
      "created_utc": 1784503413,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyknta4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Our son with autism was 9.  He had 10 sessions of therapy lined up.  I took him to the first nine sessions and my then-husband complained about having to take him to the 10th.  We were divorced about a year later and he committed suicide the following year.",
      "body_zh": "我们患有自闭症的儿子今年 9 岁。他接受了 10 次治疗。  我带他参加了前九场，而我当时的丈夫抱怨说不得不带他参加第十场。  大约一年后我们离婚了，第二年他自杀了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykryft",
      "author": "Foreskin_and_seven",
      "created_utc": 1784504696,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykryft/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I started having a vague sense of being unwelcome and feeling lonely in my own home, despite no overt problems.  Then one day, she told me she was leaving out of the blue to be with her ex.  In retrospect, amazing how perceptive we are.  Listen to your gut.",
      "body_zh": "尽管没有明显的问题，但我开始隐约感觉到自己不受欢迎，并且在自己的家里感到孤独。  然后有一天，她告诉我她要突然离开去和她的前任在一起。  回想起来，我们的洞察力多么惊人。  听听你的直觉。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylstp6",
      "author": "Alternative-Quit-161",
      "created_utc": 1784517654,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylstp6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told me what I could amd could not do. He did it once. It was the first and last straw. I knew, and know now years later, that attitude doesn't  stop. I walked with my own things and never looked back except to give him the key to the house he lived in.",
      "body_zh": "他告诉我什么可以做，什么不能做。他就这么做过一次。这是第一根也是最后一根稻草。我知道，多年后的现在我知道，这种态度不会停止。我带着自己的东西走着，除了把自己住的房子的钥匙给了他之外，再也没有回头。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyje6dy",
      "author": "Tureni",
      "created_utc": 1784491306,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyje6dy/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I got deep into a depression at the time. She worked full time and I sat home all day and did next to nothing. \n\nGlad we got divorced. I got back up on the horse and we work together on raising our kid. And I’ve been with the love of my life for 14 years.",
      "body_zh": "我当时就陷入了深深的抑郁之中。她全职工作，而我整天坐在家里，几乎什么也没做。 \n\n很高兴我们离婚了。我重新骑上马，我们一起努力抚养我们的孩子。我和我一生的挚爱已经在一起14年了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylx4ck",
      "author": "NeelaTV",
      "created_utc": 1784519415,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylx4ck/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He shoved me through the living room and kicked me in the back with his boots - i almost crashed into the Stairs with my right eye... it was cm away from the corner ofthst Step.\n\nThats when i realized if i would stay i would become a newspaper headline...",
      "body_zh": "他把我推到客厅，用靴子踢我的后背——我的右眼差点撞到楼梯上……距离第一级台阶的拐角只有几厘米远。\n\n就在那时，我意识到，如果我留下来，我就会成为报纸头条..."
    },
    {
      "id": "oylf2fc",
      "author": "tanafras",
      "created_utc": 1784512554,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylf2fc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She attacked me on father's day by making false allegations against me of abuse. I was fully exonerated in court. She was found guilty of actions against me and my children. That, wa sthe last straw. 20 years of abusive manipulative behavior before that.",
      "body_zh": "她在父亲节那天攻击了我，对我提出了虐待的虚假指控。我在法庭上被完全无罪释放。她因针对我和我的孩子的行为而被判有罪。那是最后一根稻草。在此之前已有20年的虐待和操纵行为。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyko2d2",
      "author": "Electrical-Sand-5613",
      "created_utc": 1784503488,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyko2d2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My parents were always fighting at the end, but the argument that blew it up and had one move out was about taps. My dad bought silver taps for the bath and the rest of the taps and plugs were gold. Seems so silly but obviously it wasn't about the taps.",
      "body_zh": "我的父母总是在最后吵架，但最终导致争吵并导致出局的是关于水龙头的问题。我爸爸买了银色的浴室水龙头，其余的水龙头和插头都是金的。看起来很傻，但显然这与水龙头无关。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykohcr",
      "author": "StarLightZone_",
      "created_utc": 1784503616,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykohcr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized I could never compete with her imagination and impulsiveness. Got tired of defending versions of myself and hypothetical conversations. Eventually gave in to grey rock to save my own sanity, essentially allowing the marriage to collapse.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到我永远无法与她的想象力和冲动竞争时。厌倦了为自己的版本和假设的对话辩护。最终屈服于灰色岩石以挽救我自己的理智，本质上让婚姻破裂。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl47y9",
      "author": "GeoNecro",
      "created_utc": 1784508771,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl47y9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He took me in the bathroom without my consent. I told him no several times. He did not care. I did not make any sounds of pleasure. I tried to disassociate. I realized that he had no respect for me or my body autonomy. He didn't care if I enjoyed it.",
      "body_zh": "他未经我同意就带我进了浴室。我多次告诉他不要。他不在乎。我没有发出任何高兴的声音。我试图脱离关系。我意识到他不尊重我或我的身体自主权。他不在乎我是否喜欢它。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyll3xs",
      "author": "General_Patient1494",
      "created_utc": 1784514724,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyll3xs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she said she couldnt trust me financially. When I've never missed a payment on anything in my life, not bought groceries, not splurged on family take out nights, missed a gift, or had any kid miss a school outing. Fuck you, you greedy bitch.",
      "body_zh": "当她说她在经济上不能信任我时。当我一生中从来没有错过任何付款，没有购买杂货，没有在家庭外卖之夜挥霍，错过礼物，或者让任何孩子错过学校郊游。去你妈的，你这个贪婪的母狗。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkw5c",
      "author": "Able_Use859",
      "created_utc": 1784514646,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkw5c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Embezzlement. My paychecks paid the private school the kids attended until they didn’t. Great Christmas gift to find out we owed 3,333.00 and when I checked the bank, my paychecks were transferred to an account I had no access to! Ah good times!",
      "body_zh": "贪污。我的薪水支付了孩子们就读的私立学校的费用，直到他们没有支付为止。很棒的圣诞礼物，发现我们欠了 3,333.00 美元，当我检查银行时，我的薪水被转入了一个我无法访问的帐户！啊，美好时光！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykvcog",
      "author": "Reader2869",
      "created_utc": 1784505800,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykvcog/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "His incessant gaming.  He would call off work to play his game.  We were together over 5 years and never once took a vacation because he'd use his 10 days before the end of February every single year, to play his game. I couldn't do it anymore.",
      "body_zh": "他不间断的游戏。  他会取消工作去玩游戏。  我们在一起已经超过 5 年了，从来没有休假过，因为他每年二月底前都会利用 10 天来玩他的游戏。我再也做不到了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylmirj",
      "author": "Select-Ingenuity4433",
      "created_utc": 1784515238,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylmirj/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "All the miscarriages we had. We had over 5 in an 8 year span. Family played a role, but that just ruined me over time. It was heartbreaking but I knew I had to try and start over. \n\nJust got married again and had my son just a few weeks ago.",
      "body_zh": "我们所有的流产。我们在 8 年的时间里完成了超过 5 个项目。家庭发挥了一定作用，但随着时间的推移，这却毁了我。这令人心碎，但我知道我必须尝试重新开始。 \n\n几周前刚刚再次结婚并生下了我的儿子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylezlu",
      "author": "1peatfor7",
      "created_utc": 1784512526,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylezlu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Close friend going through this right now. And one just got one 6 months ago. Both the same reason. Grew apart. The 6 months ago one that met at 18 in college which was 32 years ago. The about to be divorced one only met about 12 years ago.",
      "body_zh": "亲密的朋友现在正在经历这个。其中一位 6 个月前刚刚收到一份。两者的理由是一样的。渐行渐远。 6个月前，18岁时在大学​​里认识的人，已经是32年前的事了。即将离婚的两人大约12年前才认识。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym7jdy",
      "author": "Philipmacduff",
      "created_utc": 1784523974,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym7jdy/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was thinking too much about what i thought i \"deserved\" and not enough about what i owed to her. I've since learned that all my biggest mistakes start with that imbalance. Thanks to her passing during covid, i can never undo that mistake.",
      "body_zh": "我想得太多了，我认为我“应得的”，而没有足够地考虑我欠她的。从那以后我了解到，我所有最大的错误都是从这种不平衡开始的。感谢她在新冠肺炎期间去世，我永远无法挽回这个错误。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyld500",
      "author": "seethinglonely",
      "created_utc": 1784511868,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyld500/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she threw would yell and cream at me over finances to the point our cat would intervene and bite her to stop her from throwing things at me / hitting me / biting me. \n\nA guard dog is one thing realizing I have a guard cat is another.",
      "body_zh": "当她扔东西时，她会因为财务问题对我大喊大叫，以至于我们的猫会介入并咬她，以阻止她向我扔东西/打我/咬我。 \n\n看门狗是一回事，意识到我有一只看门猫是另一回事。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkr5c",
      "author": "Striking-Plantain488",
      "created_utc": 1784514596,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkr5c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Ouch, too soon. For me it was realizing there were things I truly needed that I couldn't go without anymore. After a lot of long talks we ended up on the same page and split amicably. Grateful for that, and honestly, we both grew from it.",
      "body_zh": "哎呀，太快了。对我来说，这是意识到我真正需要的东西是我不能再没有的。经过多次长时间的交谈，我们最终达成了共识，并友好地分手了。对此表示感激，说实话，我们都从中成长了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym1ue1",
      "author": "grocerystoreperson",
      "created_utc": 1784521416,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym1ue1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Found out he had lost his job months earlier, was pretending to go to work and stealing money from the joint savings account. To be clear, I would've been fine with carrying everyone but for him to lie to me? To steal from me? I was done.",
      "body_zh": "发现他几个月前失业了，假装去上班并从联合储蓄账户中偷钱。说得清楚一点，如果不是他对我撒谎，我本来可以承载所有人？来偷我的东西？我已经完成了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyimwky",
      "author": "Umm_is_this_thing_on",
      "created_utc": 1784483867,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyimwky/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There was infidelity but I was so anxious about him coming home, irresponsibly around money, mixing our money with his AF, but mostly what I was teaching my kids about staying. My mom stayed, I decided to break that part of the cycle.",
      "body_zh": "有不忠，但我非常担心他回家，不负责任地围绕金钱，将我们的钱与他的AF混在一起，但主要是我教我的孩子们留下来。我妈妈留下来了，我决定打破这个循环。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyit4i6",
      "author": "4thinversion",
      "created_utc": 1784485531,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyit4i6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he said “what makes you think you’re the best thing that ever happened to me?” in response to me telling him I was unhappy and that I needed him to work on himself or he was going to lose the best thing that ever happened to him.",
      "body_zh": "当他说“是什么让你认为你是我遇到过的最好的事情？”我告诉他我不开心，我需要他自己努力，否则他将失去发生在他身上的最好的事情。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj3776",
      "author": "Ballet18Princess",
      "created_utc": 1784488263,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj3776/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My aunt is going through a divorce, and when someone at a party asked her this question, she replied (with an exasperated laugh), \" Well, after taking 23 years of his non-stop cheating, I finally got the hint he wasn't going to stop \"",
      "body_zh": "我姑妈正在离婚，当聚会上有人问她这个问题时，她回答（愤怒地笑）：“嗯，在经历了他23年不间断的欺骗之后，我终于得到了他不会停止的暗示”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyji8lr",
      "author": "thejwo",
      "created_utc": 1784492255,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyji8lr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Afterdreading come home from work resulted in doing a trial separation at her insistence, I realized the happiness and peace of being able to relax at home in my new temporary place without having to walk on egg shells all the time",
      "body_zh": "由于害怕下班回家，在她的坚持下尝试分居，我体会到了能够在新的临时住处放松身心的幸福和平静，而不必一直在蛋壳上行走"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylldwh",
      "author": "OrsayMonet",
      "created_utc": 1784514823,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylldwh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We were having breakfast at home and I was taking a new water bottle to work that we purchased on our one shared account. I was told I’m taking advantage of her and she wants a divorce. That’s when I told her to get out of my life.",
      "body_zh": "我们正在家里吃早餐，我带着一瓶新水瓶去上班，这是我们在一个共享帐户上购买的。有人告诉我我在利用她，她想离婚。就在那时我告诉她滚出我的生活。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj7fsd",
      "author": "platypus5709",
      "created_utc": 1784489490,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj7fsd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My ex told me I wasn’t a getting a card/gift for Valentine’s Day because I didn’t earn it. I lost my shit and left that summer.  He was a controlling asshole and our very last fight was about where I placed the trashcan in my car.",
      "body_zh": "我的前任告诉我，我不会在情人节收到卡片/礼物，因为这不是我挣来的。那年夏天我失去了理智并离开了。  他是个控制欲极强的混蛋，我们最后一次吵架是为了我把垃圾桶放在车里的位置。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylllxx",
      "author": "Opposite-Bit6660",
      "created_utc": 1784514904,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylllxx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My last straw was coming downstairs at 2am with my 2 year old in my arms and finding my husband had brought a bunch of low lifes from the bar over to play cards and tell drinking stories.  Not the example I wanted set for the kid.",
      "body_zh": "我的最后一根稻草是凌晨 2 点抱着我 2 岁的孩子下楼，发现我的丈夫从酒吧里带来了一群下层人士来打牌和讲喝酒故事。  这不是我想为孩子树立的榜样。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylfezt",
      "author": "LambyToesOfSerenity",
      "created_utc": 1784512679,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylfezt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It wasn't a last straw for me. It was a show decline, lack of wanting to meet me where I needed, and growing apart. I was so angry in the middle of trying to fight for the relationship. When the fight left me, I knew it was over.",
      "body_zh": "这并不是压垮我的最后一根稻草。这是一场演出的衰退，不愿意在我需要的地方见面，并且越来越疏远。我在努力争取这段关系的过程中非常生气。当战斗离开我时，我知道一切都结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyltj9g",
      "author": "bloodxandxrank",
      "created_utc": 1784517941,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyltj9g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Partner’s poor mental heath that she refuses to work on. My mental heath has always been a lot to deal with and being with someone who constantly triggers me and refuses to acknowledge or change her behavior is driving me insane.",
      "body_zh": "伴侣精神健康状况不佳，她拒绝为此工作。我的精神健康一直是一个很大的问题，和一个不断触发我并拒绝承认或改变她的行为的人在一起让我发疯。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyio29b",
      "author": "Neither_Juice_7330",
      "created_utc": 1784484178,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyio29b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I thought it would be the slap on the cheek and calling me that horrible \"C_NT word, but no, the last straw was letting the kids (my stepsons) talk trash to me and call me a bitch for not letting them do bad behaviors on TikTok.",
      "body_zh": "我以为这会是打我脸颊，骂我那个可怕的“C_NT”词，但不，最后一根稻草是让孩子们（我的继子）对我说垃圾话，并因为我不让他们在 TikTok 上做出不良行为而骂我是婊子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykmxnh",
      "author": "bedrock_BEWD",
      "created_utc": 1784503147,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykmxnh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she told me she hurts me because she wants to (previously always said it was an accident or she didn't mean it etc). And she was hurting me in front of our child. Left her just after kid turned 2, best decision I ever made.",
      "body_zh": "当她告诉我她伤害我是因为她想这么做（之前总是说这是一次意外或者她不是故意的等等）。她在我们的孩子面前伤害了我。孩子两岁后就离开了她，这是我做过的最好的决定。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylj2gw",
      "author": "Solid_Breakfast_3675",
      "created_utc": 1784513987,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylj2gw/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Hiding money, not making you part of the family, treating you like a maid, I felt so so lonely, everything was my fault. I’ll die on this hill - do not have kids - unless you have a prenup with infidelity and dishonesty classes.",
      "body_zh": "藏着钱，不让你成为家里的一员，把你当作女仆，我感到如此孤独，一切都是我的错。我会死在这座山上——不要孩子——除非你有一份包含不忠和不诚实课程的婚前协议。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyltrht",
      "author": "Easy_snacks",
      "created_utc": 1784518033,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyltrht/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He made some crappy comment about how I looked in a new dress I bought. \n\nI realized if I left him, I’d have the possibility of being really happy with someone else. But if I stayed, I’d never be really happy. \n\nEasy decision.",
      "body_zh": "他对我买的新衣服的样子发表了一些蹩脚的评论。 \n\n我意识到如果我离开他，我就有可能和别人在一起感到非常幸福。但如果我留下来，我永远不会真正快乐。 \n\n简单的决定。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylprwi",
      "author": "Emu1981",
      "created_utc": 1784516455,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylprwi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "For me the last straw is her spending all the money I had saved up for the kids to do stuff during the holidays on her mobile games.  Speaking of which, I really should finish filling out the paperwork to get it all sorted...",
      "body_zh": "对我来说，最后一根稻草是她把我为孩子们在假期里攒的钱都花在了她的手机游戏上。  说起来，我真的应该把文件填完，把一切都整理好……"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym1zws",
      "author": "RegisFranks",
      "created_utc": 1784521481,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym1zws/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She told me that her and the kids could have been staying at her moms but didn't because I wasn't allowed there. We were in a place with a bedbug infestation so bad thay they would fall off the ceiling during the day onto us.",
      "body_zh": "她告诉我，她和孩子们本来可以住在她妈妈那里，但没有这样做，因为我不被允许在那里。我们所在的地方臭虫出没非常严重，白天它们会从天花板上掉下来砸到我们身上。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiu5xl",
      "author": "Heatherhef712",
      "created_utc": 1784485814,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiu5xl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I got married at 20 and he deployed at 24. When he came back, our roommate was going to move out and let us live the married life. I remember thinking - you’re gonna leave me here alone with him?! That was the wake up call.",
      "body_zh": "我20岁结婚，他24岁调岗。当他回来时，我们的室友要搬出去，让我们过婚姻生活。我记得当时我在想——你要把我和他单独留在这里吗？！那是警钟。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyksg7n",
      "author": "CannotProveAThing",
      "created_utc": 1784504853,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyksg7n/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I learned that when you repeatedly Google odd behaviors to figure out what kind of personality disorder they probably have, you're basically done.\n\nIt came out of nowhere and he decided to weaponize social media, of course.",
      "body_zh": "我了解到，当你反复用谷歌搜索奇怪的行为来找出他们可能患有哪种人格障碍时，你基本上就完成了。\n\n当然，它突然出现，他决定将社交媒体武器化。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyln5rs",
      "author": "jessicagerbil",
      "created_utc": 1784515474,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyln5rs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Okay, I know you said not infidelity, but it’s just too rich.\n\nThe moment I realized that he had spent weeks planning a trip to go see a prostitute, but couldn’t plan anything for my first Mother’s Day. WHOOP. There it is.",
      "body_zh": "好吧，我知道你说的不是不忠，而是太有钱了。\n\n当我意识到他花了几周的时间计划去见妓女时，却无法为我的第一个母亲节做任何计划。哎哟。就在那里。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyizhyi",
      "author": "citycat2001",
      "created_utc": 1784487246,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyizhyi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Health issue (tumor - benign), working full time, college part time, full time mom and then told bankruptcy wasn't a big deal because he quit his job for over 6 months. I was in college for accounting that was my straw.",
      "body_zh": "健康问题（肿瘤 - 良性），全职工作，兼职大学，全职妈妈，然后被告知破产并不是什么大问题，因为他辞职了 6 个多月。我在大学读会计，那是我的救命稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjx1ht",
      "author": "SuburbanSass",
      "created_utc": 1784496162,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjx1ht/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I asked him a simple question about taxes and he clenched his fist and leaned forward and said “I want to punch you in the face so bad right now.” I’m now married to the man of my dreams who treats me like a queen.",
      "body_zh": "当我问他一个关于税收的简单问题时，他握紧拳头，身体前倾说：“我现在真想打你的脸。”我现在嫁给了我的梦中情人，他像女王一样对待我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjhdpa",
      "author": "usernametakenfk",
      "created_utc": 1784492062,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjhdpa/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When our couples therapist said, “It sounds like you’re more concerned about the possibility of losing some of your money (in a divorce) than you are about losing your wife.” And he said, “ABSOLUTELY. 100% correct.”",
      "body_zh": "当我们的夫妻治疗师说：“听起来你更担心（在离婚中）失去一些钱的可能性，而不是失去你的妻子。”他说：“绝对正确。100%正确。”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkvtg",
      "author": "bluegrassbiker",
      "created_utc": 1784514643,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkvtg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was trying to build a better life vs someone trying to milk a declining free ride.  Needed someone with a similar forward drive, found her 10 years ago.  Totally worth the very expensive ($$ and 🤯) initial lesson.",
      "body_zh": "我试图建立更好的生活，而不是试图从不断下降的搭便车中获利。  需要一个具有类似前驱力的人，10 年前找到了她。  完全值得非常昂贵的（$$和🤯）初始课程。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyllyju",
      "author": "mnatcat",
      "created_utc": 1784515031,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyllyju/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He took out a $30,000 loan for dental implants while he had been off work for 3 months. There were lots of other dumb financial decisions (and other really horrible behaviors) before this but that was my last straw.",
      "body_zh": "他在休假三个月后申请了 3 万美元的贷款用于种植牙。在此之前还有很多其他愚蠢的财务决策（以及其他非常可怕的行为），但那是我的最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylz0va",
      "author": "KookyLab9624",
      "created_utc": 1784520221,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylz0va/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he couldn't answer simple questions the couples counselor asked him. He had no identity of his own and looked at me to answer her about his life and his desires. It made me sad that we made each other miserable",
      "body_zh": "当他无法回答简单的问题时，夫妻顾问就问他。他没有自己的身份，看着我回答她关于他的生活和他的愿望。我们让彼此变得痛苦，这让我很难过"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl60zu",
      "author": "Lifow2589",
      "created_utc": 1784509377,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl60zu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "His brother texted me really mean messages calling me names and saying no one in their family likes me. I realized I couldn’t even talk to him about it because he would side with his brother or minimize the issue.",
      "body_zh": "他哥哥给我发了一条非常刻薄的短信，辱骂我，还说他们家里没有人喜欢我。我意识到我什至无法和他谈论这件事，因为他会站在他兄弟一边或将问题最小化。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjks00",
      "author": "FarAd4971",
      "created_utc": 1784492881,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjks00/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We had different ideas apparently about acceptable behavior...she apparently decided there was no reason to not have sex with her 23 year old coworker and that's appropriate behavior in my opinion in a marriage.",
      "body_zh": "对于可接受的行为，我们显然有不同的想法……她显然认为没有理由不与她 23 岁的同事发生性关系，在我看来，这是婚姻中适当的行为。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk3os0",
      "author": "Gullible-Youth-5705",
      "created_utc": 1784497895,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk3os0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He wouldn't move his Pokemon cards out of our shared closet to give me more room for the professional wardrobe I had to buy for the job which paid me significantly more than what he made. He was in his late 30s.",
      "body_zh": "他不会将他的口袋妖怪卡从我们共用的衣柜中移出，以便给我更多的空间来放置我必须为这份工作购买的专业衣柜，而这份工作的薪水远远高于他的收入。他三十多岁了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylbx5j",
      "author": "Sobeksdream",
      "created_utc": 1784511437,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylbx5j/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After years, I finally accepted she never even liked me to begin with. \n\nI regret my marriage deeply. I have been single for more than 4 years, and I don't think I'll ever be able to be in a relationship again.",
      "body_zh": "多年后，我终于接受了她从一开始就不喜欢我。 \n\n我对我的婚姻深感遗憾。我已经单身四年多了，我想我再也无法谈恋爱了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylg0u4",
      "author": "Kindatheman32",
      "created_utc": 1784512897,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylg0u4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She lied about some things during my brothers terminal illness to impress her friends. I will not get into the what, but it was disgusting to me, and she had a history of being a liar. That was the last straw.",
      "body_zh": "在我哥哥病入膏肓期间，她对一些事情撒了谎，以给她的朋友留下深刻印象。我不想透露具体内容，但这对我来说很恶心，而且她有说谎的历史。那是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylegou",
      "author": "rapandnap",
      "created_utc": 1784512341,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylegou/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I told him for a year+ that his drinking was going to cost him his family, job, health insurance etc. He drove drunk with our kids in the car. I finally left. He got a dui a few months later and lost his job.",
      "body_zh": "我告诉他一年多了，他的酗酒会让他失去家庭、工作、健康保险等。他醉酒开车，车里还有我们的孩子。我终于离开了。几个月后，他因酒后驾车而丢了工作。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl3ev9",
      "author": "AggressiveAd5886",
      "created_utc": 1784508502,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl3ev9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I love a good fight, so if the thought of fighting with them exhausts me, I’m done. It doesn’t mean we’re bad people just bad for each other. I need passion if that’s gone there’s nothing worth fighting for.",
      "body_zh": "我喜欢一场精彩的战斗，所以如果与他们战斗的想法让我筋疲力尽，我就完了。这并不意味着我们是坏人，只是对彼此不利。我需要激情，如果激情消失了，那就没有什么值得为之奋斗了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyizh1m",
      "author": "zukenstein",
      "created_utc": 1784487240,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyizh1m/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized I was doing all the house work, cooking all the meals, making all of the decisions, paying all the bills, and taking all the blame for anything that went wrong. \n\nWhen I say all, I mean ALL.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到我正在做所有的家务，做饭，做所有的决定，支付所有的账单，并为任何出错的事情承担所有的责任时。 \n\n当我说全部时，我的意思是全部。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykhvq8",
      "author": "meowlouie",
      "created_utc": 1784501670,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykhvq8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "\"You can't choose who you love. But you can choose the father of your children\" . I saw/ heard this somewhere and left him a week later. I didn't want my children to feel as unwanted and unloved as I did.",
      "body_zh": "“你无法选择你爱谁，但你可以选择孩子的父亲”。我在某处看到/听到了这件事，一周后就离开了他。我不想让我的孩子像我一样感到不被需要和不被爱。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykuuow",
      "author": "Mirror_Actions",
      "created_utc": 1784505636,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykuuow/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not me - but my uncle’s last straw was hearing from their mutual coworkers that she justified cheating because he’s got a small penis. She was banging a lot of guys in the company. He’s happily remarried.",
      "body_zh": "不是我，但压垮我叔叔的最后一根稻草是从他们共同的同事那里听说，她为作弊辩护，因为他的阴茎很小。她在公司里和很多人上床。他再婚了，很幸福。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl0fl3",
      "author": "_handstand_scribbles",
      "created_utc": 1784507490,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl0fl3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Grew apart slowly, did everthing separately, and his moderate substance use habit he didn't think was a big deal but made me feel like he was just mentally gone when we actually did do something together.",
      "body_zh": "慢慢地分开，做所有的事情都是分开的，他认为他适度的药物使用习惯没什么大不了的，但当我们真正一起做某事时，让我觉得他只是精神错乱了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykdy7g",
      "author": "KelKira",
      "created_utc": 1784500558,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykdy7g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my husband hit me over and over again with a towel because my best friend (to whom he confessed his obsession towards) didn’t want to talk to him. I was done being punished because nobody liked him.",
      "body_zh": "当我丈夫一次又一次地用毛巾打我时，因为我最好的朋友（他向他承认了自己的痴迷）不想和他说话。我受够了因为没有人喜欢他而受到惩罚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyitd5b",
      "author": "emlynandeuian",
      "created_utc": 1784485597,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyitd5b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was talking to her about a way in which I was trying to help afford rent (she was not contributing at all and also had mounting credit debt from partying) and she interrupted me to say “I don’t care”.",
      "body_zh": "我正在和她谈论我试图帮助支付房租的一种方式（她根本没有贡献，而且还因为聚会而背负着越来越多的信用债务），她打断我说“我不在乎”。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymfhiy",
      "author": "morty-lighthead",
      "created_utc": 1784527825,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymfhiy/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Posting intimate and personal information on social media while talking down on me. The disrespect that was posted online about me and our relationship had crossed a line there was no coming back from",
      "body_zh": "在社交媒体上发布私密和个人信息，同时贬低我。网上发布的关于我和我们关系的不尊重已经超出了界限，无法挽回。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyim51d",
      "author": "Lilith-awaken",
      "created_utc": 1784483662,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyim51d/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he tried to pressure me into having sex and when I repeatedly denied, he started to play porn involving sex dolls on full volume, telling me he should get one if I can't do my job as his wife.",
      "body_zh": "当他试图迫使我发生性行为而我一再拒绝时，他开始以最大音量播放涉及性玩偶的色情片，并告诉我，如果我不能胜任他妻子的工作，他应该买一个。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj8xv4",
      "author": "Jorge-Esqueleto",
      "created_utc": 1784489889,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj8xv4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Understanding that what I had been experiencing was abuse at the hands of a person with narcissistic personality disorder, that it wasn't my fault, and that it wasn't ever going to get any better.",
      "body_zh": "我明白我所经历的一切是来自一个患有自恋型人格障碍的人的虐待，这不是我的错，而且情况永远不会好转。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjofsf",
      "author": "viciousattacker8652",
      "created_utc": 1784493885,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjofsf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I finally understood he didn’t like me. When I showed interest in something, he took an immediate and intense dislike to it. He ran up credit card debt because he took my boundary as manipulation.",
      "body_zh": "我终于明白他不喜欢我了。当我对某件事表现出兴趣时，他立即强烈地厌恶它。他欠下了信用卡债务，因为他把我的边界视为操纵。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj4pux",
      "author": "jmmermaid",
      "created_utc": 1784488708,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj4pux/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I looked at my husband and it clicked in my head that I actually have 3 teenagers, not just 2. As soon as I saw him as someone that I had to took care of, things went downhill rather quickly",
      "body_zh": "当我看着我的丈夫时，我突然意识到我实际上有 3 个青少年，而不仅仅是 2 个。当我把他视为我必须照顾的人时，事情很快就急转直下"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymbxmu",
      "author": "zutonofgoth",
      "created_utc": 1784526082,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymbxmu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my wife said, \"I don't love you anymore\". It just does not make sense to me. 27 years and thats it. \n\nAnd before you ask I did all the cooking and we paid for cleaning so I pulled my weight.",
      "body_zh": "当我的妻子说：“我不再爱你了”。这对我来说没有意义。 27年就这样了。 \n\n在你问之前，我已经做饭了，我们支付了清洁费，所以我尽了自己的努力。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykihab",
      "author": "Chico_Leeko",
      "created_utc": 1784501840,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykihab/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He worked on the road for extended periods of time. When I started feeling happiest when he was gone and anxiety before he was coming back home for his days off, I knew it was time for a change.",
      "body_zh": "他在路上工作了很长一段时间。当他离开时我开始感到最快乐，而在他回家休假之前我开始感到最焦虑时，我知道是时候做出改变了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjgwe0",
      "author": "TheYankunian",
      "created_utc": 1784491955,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjgwe0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told me he wasn’t interested in me. We were more like housemates. He didn’t heed any warnings about where we were headed. I recoiled from his touch. The divorce has been hell, but worth it.",
      "body_zh": "他告诉我他对我不感兴趣。我们更像是室友。他没有注意到任何关于我们要去哪里的警告。我从他的碰触中退缩了。离婚是地狱，但值得。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyknr24",
      "author": "Professional-Host-20",
      "created_utc": 1784503394,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyknr24/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "This happened to a friend of mine. She woke up in the middle of the night puking her guts out. She bends over to puke in the toilet and her husband comes in and tries to fuck her from behind.",
      "body_zh": "这发生在我的一个朋友身上。她在半夜醒来，吐出了五脏六腑。她弯腰在厕所里呕吐，她的丈夫进来并试图从后面操她。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylq6ab",
      "author": "dannydoritoloco",
      "created_utc": 1784516609,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylq6ab/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Wish I could point to one thing. Years of emotional neglect, and a loveless marriage. I just wanted to live, to feel alive. Almost two years later and it was the best decision I’ve ever made.",
      "body_zh": "希望我能指出一件事。多年的情感忽视，以及无爱的婚姻。我只想活着，感受活着的感觉。差不多两年后，这是我做过的最好的决定。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykbapb",
      "author": "Gemsi1",
      "created_utc": 1784499838,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykbapb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he'd say something that would usually start an argument and I stopped arguing.  I realized I didn't care anymore. Didn't care enough to argue about who did what and who was not invited.",
      "body_zh": "当他说了一些通常会引发争论的话时，我就停止了争论。  我发现我不再关心了。不太关心争论谁做了什么以及谁没有被邀请。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk5wqa",
      "author": "StreetMolasses6093",
      "created_utc": 1784498567,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk5wqa/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Standing outside my front door in the snow, staring at my hand on the doorknob, trying to will myself to turn it and walk in. \n\nI knew right then that things were too fucked up to continue.",
      "body_zh": "在雪地里站在前门外，盯着放在门把手上的手，试图让自己转动它并走进去。 \n\n我当时就知道事情太糟糕了，无法继续下去。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykoenv",
      "author": "COLONELmab",
      "created_utc": 1784503592,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykoenv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "At couples therapy and my ex wife's turn to share and answer \"what could you do to be a better spouse?\".  Her response, \"nothing really, I'm basically the perfect wife\".   She was serious.",
      "body_zh": "在夫妻治疗中，轮到我的前妻分享并回答“你能做些什么来成为一个更好的配偶？”。  她的回答是：“没什么，我基本上是完美的妻子”。   她是认真的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym5kon",
      "author": "timid_turtle_",
      "created_utc": 1784523070,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym5kon/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Told me it was my fault that my dying mom couldn't make it to our wedding because if I would have lost weight sooner he would have proposed to me and married me when she was still healthy.",
      "body_zh": "告诉我，我垂死的妈妈无法参加我们的婚礼是我的错，因为如果我早点减肥，他就会向我求婚，并在她还健康时嫁给我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyko662",
      "author": "supermanboss",
      "created_utc": 1784503520,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyko662/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she came home and told me she loss her job fraternizing with another coworker in the facility library. Was caught on camera by the guy’s girlfriend who works the security cameras smh",
      "body_zh": "当她回到家并告诉我她失业时，她与设施图书馆的另一位同事交好。被负责监控摄像头的家伙的女朋友拍到了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrdxj",
      "author": "T0rrent0712",
      "created_utc": 1784517081,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrdxj/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Out of control spending. Had six figure debt, paid it all off with inheritance.\n\nThree years later back to it, and instead of nipping it in the bud, I stupidly buried my head in the sand.",
      "body_zh": "支出失控。背负着六位数的债务，用遗产还清了一切。\n\n三年后回想起来，我并没有将其消灭在萌芽状态，而是愚蠢地将头埋进沙子里。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjm0mh",
      "author": "TheMiddleE",
      "created_utc": 1784493216,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjm0mh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He grew incredibly jealous about my upcoming sabbatical. Refused to talk to me about it. Threw a fit in public about it then left me alone at a bar asking r not to come home that night.",
      "body_zh": "他对我即将到来的休假感到非常嫉妒。拒绝跟我谈论这件事。我在公共场合大发雷霆，然后把我一个人留在酒吧，要求我那天晚上不要回家。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylledv",
      "author": "em4rs",
      "created_utc": 1784514828,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylledv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He is an alcoholic and has a history of lying/hiding it. I came home for lunch one day and he was drunk while watching our toddler alone. I packed up and left that day. No looking back.",
      "body_zh": "他是个酒鬼，并且有撒谎/隐瞒的历史。有一天我回家吃午饭，他独自看着我们蹒跚学步的孩子时喝醉了。那天我收拾好东西就离开了。没有回头。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj9op9",
      "author": "localgyro",
      "created_utc": 1784490101,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj9op9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We spent a month apart, where I went and stayed with my sister, and as soon as I returned home, I wanted to be gone again.  I'd forgotten what living in the disapproval zone felt like.",
      "body_zh": "我们分开了一个月，我去那里和姐姐住在一起，一回到家，我就想再次离开。  我已经忘记了生活在不被认可的地带是什么感觉。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiy5z8",
      "author": "silverfox762",
      "created_utc": 1784486902,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiy5z8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I came home one day and the wifey was sitting at her vanity putting on her makeup. I asked \"what's the occasion?\" Without looking away from her mirror, she said \"I have a date\". 🤷🏻‍♂️",
      "body_zh": "有一天我回到家，妻子正坐在梳妆台前化妆。我问：“什么场合？”她的目光没有离开镜子，说道“我有个约会”。 🤷🏻‍♂️"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjren5",
      "author": "No-Throat9567",
      "created_utc": 1784494672,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjren5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he asked me to have children “for the cause.” He was Palestinian. I noped out of that after having been there and seen exactly what that meant (cannon fodder, if you don’t know).",
      "body_zh": "当他“为了事业”要求我生孩子时。他是巴勒斯坦人。在去过那里并确切地了解了这意味着什么之后，我对此表示同意（炮灰，如果你不知道的话）。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykoam1",
      "author": "SASAKM",
      "created_utc": 1784503558,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykoam1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She told me she quit her job but was actually fired because she was missing work to go hang out with her ex. \n\nHer ex was a junkie and it wasn’t long before she started using as well.",
      "body_zh": "她告诉我她辞掉了工作，但实际上被解雇了，因为她错过了工作去和她的前任出去玩。 \n\n她的前任是个瘾君子，不久之后她也开始吸毒。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykeup2",
      "author": "Tenel_Ka_Djo1",
      "created_utc": 1784500816,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykeup2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Found out she was faking having a job. She would make up stories about what she was doing at work everyday. Figured it out when we suddenly didn't have enough money for the mortgage.",
      "body_zh": "发现她假装有工作。她会编一些关于她每天工作时所做的事情的故事。当我们突然没有足够的钱支付抵押贷款时，我们就想通了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylgqul",
      "author": "Dense_Translator_296",
      "created_utc": 1784513156,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylgqul/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Things were already tense.  Then my wife made a fairly expensive purchase that we couldn't afford and we had (I thought) agreed that she wasn't going to make.  That was 46 years ago.",
      "body_zh": "事情已经很紧张了。  然后我的妻子买了一件相当昂贵的东西，我们买不起，我们（我认为）同意她不会买。  那是46年前的事了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykgfhk",
      "author": "korpiiii",
      "created_utc": 1784501262,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykgfhk/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Well, originally it was me confronting him about emotional abuse, but the true nail in the coffin was the sexual harassment and assault under the guise of “fixing our relationship.”",
      "body_zh": "好吧，最初是我就情感虐待问题与他对峙，但真正的致命一击是打着“修复我们的关系”幌子的性骚扰和性侵犯。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylxnlu",
      "author": "seaotterlover1",
      "created_utc": 1784519641,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylxnlu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he gave our 18-month old daughter the cold shoulder because he was mad at me for not letting him go to the bar. She was smiling at him, trying to play and he just ignored her.",
      "body_zh": "当他因为我不让他去酒吧而生我的气时，就冷落了我们 18 个月大的女儿。她对他微笑，试图玩耍，但他只是无视她。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyis0u8",
      "author": "MNJayW",
      "created_utc": 1784485237,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyis0u8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "First time, dick pics from another dude. Second time she punched me in the face. Third time when she defended her adult son leaving a mop sitting in a bucket of cat piss and shit.",
      "body_zh": "第一次看别人的鸡巴照片。第二次，她打了我的脸。第三次，她为自己成年的儿子辩护，把拖把放在一桶猫尿和粪便中。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyky127",
      "author": "IsThatLilExtra",
      "created_utc": 1784506677,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyky127/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I found his list of Reddit girls he kept track of. I was having to explain everything I did, everywhere I went, everyone I spoke to, and he could do this? I’d rather be by myself.",
      "body_zh": "我找到了他跟踪的 Reddit 女孩名单。我必须解释我所做的一切，我去过的每一个地方，和我交谈过的每个人，他能做到吗？我宁愿自己一个人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylmcws",
      "author": "cassiopeia1280",
      "created_utc": 1784515178,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylmcws/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she said that since she brings home more money than me she doesn't have to do anything else around the house. We both worked full time and she made, like, $3/hr more than me.",
      "body_zh": "当她说因为她带回家的钱比我多时，她不需要在家里做任何其他事情。我们都是全职工作，她每小时的收入比我多 3 美元。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym122c",
      "author": "Alwaysonvacation2",
      "created_utc": 1784521079,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym122c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I have a crippling need to defend myself when attacked even if i know i am wrong and am willing to change in the end.... she did not feel like waiting.... 12 years down the drain.",
      "body_zh": "当受到攻击时，我非常需要保护自己，即使我知道自己错了并且愿意最终改变……她不想等待……12年就这样白费了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyil5zg",
      "author": "Funny_Enthusiasm_335",
      "created_utc": 1784483400,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyil5zg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I found a girlie tequila in his fridge and when I asked him he said it was his house and his business who he brought over.. I thought this is my way out!! That’s when I knew",
      "body_zh": "当我在他的冰箱里发现一杯少女龙舌兰酒时，当我问他时，他说这是他的房子和他的生意，他带来了……我以为这是我的出路！那时我才知道"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym2ejs",
      "author": "Many_Past1334",
      "created_utc": 1784521659,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym2ejs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "when the mean girls with their dried up vaginas on the pedophile island of vancouver island used the police and protection orders to harass and destroy me after no violence ever.",
      "body_zh": "当温哥华岛上的恋童癖岛上那些阴道干涸的卑鄙女孩在没有暴力的情况下利用警察和保护令骚扰和摧毁我时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj400n",
      "author": "Ok_Schedule1052",
      "created_utc": 1784488499,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj400n/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he gave me an ultimatum that if I couldn’t forgive his parents for their involvement in our marriage, then he couldn’t be with me. He was enmeshed with his mom and dad FYI.",
      "body_zh": "当他向我发出最后通牒时，如果我不能原谅他的父母介入我们的婚姻，那么他就不能和我在一起。仅供参考，他与他的父母有着密切的关系。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl8l96",
      "author": "tommytwotakes",
      "created_utc": 1784510260,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl8l96/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was dumb and young when I got married.  I was dumber and older when I thought I could do better.   \n\nNot that I had anyone or anything. I just stopped appreciating what I had.",
      "body_zh": "我结婚的时候又傻又年轻。  当我认为自己可以做得更好时，我变得更笨、更老了。   \n\n并不是说我拥有任何人或任何东西。我只是不再欣赏我所拥有的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk1o0e",
      "author": "Marginal-Gainz-365",
      "created_utc": 1784497354,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk1o0e/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Excessive weed use while breastfeeding our child, but beyond that an unwillingness to even concede there might be a problem, let alone the willingness to do something about it.",
      "body_zh": "在母乳喂养我们的孩子时过度使用杂草，但除此之外甚至不愿意承认可能存在问题，更不用说愿意对此采取行动了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykkro5",
      "author": "MrCynicalSalsa",
      "created_utc": 1784502504,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykkro5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "They said they fell out of love with me. They wanted a platonic life partner. I wanted a wife who didn't view sex as a maintenance box to tick just to keep our marriage going.",
      "body_zh": "他们说他们不再爱我了。他们想要一个柏拉图式的生活伴侣。我想要一个不把性视为维持婚姻的妻子，她愿意为维持我们的婚姻而努力。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyilfgs",
      "author": "passingobserver00",
      "created_utc": 1784483470,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyilfgs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There was infidelity, but the unabashed, open derision toward me really took its toll. \n\nGaslighting, subtle and not so subtle put downs, abandoning in my darkest moments...",
      "body_zh": "不忠是存在的，但对我毫不掩饰、公开的嘲笑确实造成了损失。 \n\n煤气灯，微妙或不那么微妙的贬低，在我最黑暗的时刻放弃......"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyleys9",
      "author": "BexieB",
      "created_utc": 1784512518,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyleys9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not showing up to a \"family support\" meeting with my psychiatrist while I was undergoing in-patient therapy after a suicide attempt and a new diagnosis of bi-polar disorder.",
      "body_zh": "当我在自杀未遂和新诊断出双相情感障碍后接受住院治疗时，没有出席与我的精神科医生的“家庭支持”会议。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylttyb",
      "author": "tetheredvoid",
      "created_utc": 1784518060,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylttyb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "\"I would rather be together and miserable than separate and risk never finding someone again.\"\n\nI immediately told him I wanted a divorce. Never slept in the same bed again.",
      "body_zh": "“我宁愿在一起痛苦，也不愿分开，冒着再也找不到对象的风险。”\n\n我立即告诉他我想离婚。再也没有睡在同一张床上。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym39w1",
      "author": "stuckinnowhereville",
      "created_utc": 1784522041,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym39w1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He promised for years that we could move if I found the perfect job. I found the perfect job. He told me he lied and had no plans of moving. \n\nI filed that week. No regrets.",
      "body_zh": "他多年来一直承诺，如果我找到一份完美的工作，我们就可以搬家。我找到了完美的工作。他告诉我他撒了谎，并没有搬家的计划。 \n\n那周我提交了申请。不后悔。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyilt4o",
      "author": "Fun_Top_8968",
      "created_utc": 1784483572,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyilt4o/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me he couldn’t yell at me anymore since someone we knew was moving in upstairs.. it was clear no matter what efforts I put forth he isn’t changing. So I did :)",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我他不能再对我大喊大叫了，因为我们认识的人要搬到楼上了……很明显，无论我付出什么努力，他都不会改变。所以我就这么做了:)"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjwz4i",
      "author": "Then_Meeting4003",
      "created_utc": 1784496144,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjwz4i/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "honestly like someone said  it's human nature, you can only be with someone for so long.  Look at your own life for examples if you dont wanna look at the science and stats",
      "body_zh": "老实说，就像有人说的，这是人性，你只能和一个人在一起这么久。  如果你不想看科学和统计数据，可以看看你自己的生活。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykm66l",
      "author": "greentangent",
      "created_utc": 1784502921,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykm66l/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized how badly it was affecting my son.  I also realized by continuing to put up with her infidelity I was setting a bad example of how you let people treat you.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到这对我儿子的影响有多么严重时。  我还意识到，继续忍受她的不忠，我为别人如何对待你树立了一个坏榜样。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjg20v",
      "author": "Standard_Outcome_460",
      "created_utc": 1784491761,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjg20v/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I caught him recording me inside and outside of our home with audio. He’d lied about it and wouldn’t let me look at the footage on his phone that I couldn’t access.",
      "body_zh": "当我发现他用音频记录我家内外的情况时。他对此撒了谎，不让我看他手机上我无法访问的录像。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyki6m7",
      "author": "Ok-Advantage948",
      "created_utc": 1784501756,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyki6m7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She insisted on spending every single holiday, birthday, and special occasion with her family.\n\nSpending this much time with your in-laws is hell on earth for a husband.",
      "body_zh": "她坚持与家人一起度过每一个假期、生日和特殊场合。\n\n花这么多时间陪伴公婆对于丈夫来说简直是人间地狱。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylhf6r",
      "author": "arthur_c_clark_nova",
      "created_utc": 1784513399,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylhf6r/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she told me, after years of me begging her to change and to work on our intimacy problems, that my needs were my problem, and that I was a monster for even asking.",
      "body_zh": "当她告诉我，多年来我恳求她改变并解决我们的亲密问题时，我的需求就是我的问题，而且我什至提出要求都是一个怪物。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym2ed8",
      "author": "AdInternational5061",
      "created_utc": 1784521657,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym2ed8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He slammed out the door in a rage and I let him go. I realized I didn’t love him anymore. He was cruel and angry and it was not my responsibility to fix him. So I left.",
      "body_zh": "他愤怒地摔门而出，我让他走了。我发现我不再爱他了。他既残忍又愤怒，我没有责任去纠正他。所以我离开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrykc",
      "author": "Vivid_Primary_352",
      "created_utc": 1784517309,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrykc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she kept referring to me as she and her as the man. The Lord don’t change. She called me Satan, and we know what that means regarding narcissists. Still love u Lu",
      "body_zh": "当她一直称我为“她”，称她为“男人”时。主不改变。她称我为撒旦，我们知道这对于自恋者意味着什么。还是爱你露"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyje0yp",
      "author": "Scypher101",
      "created_utc": 1784491269,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyje0yp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She could never accept fault and everything was because of someone else. Blamed her choices on others and would constantly belittle and judge every choice and action.",
      "body_zh": "她永远不能接受错误，一切都是因为别人。将自己的选择归咎于他人，并不断贬低和评判每一个选择和行动。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk1kdr",
      "author": "BruceBDowns30",
      "created_utc": 1784497330,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk1kdr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Her anxious nature. Therapy and meds and years of talking. I have moved on and identified the anxiously attached style and will never give them the time of day again.",
      "body_zh": "她的性格焦躁不安。治疗、药物和多年的谈话。我已经继续前进并确定了这种焦灼的风格，并且再也不会给他们时间了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl6ikz",
      "author": "smalltimesam",
      "created_utc": 1784509543,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl6ikz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We were just 2 people living in the same house together. There was a ‘last straw’ that made me leave but realistically the relationship had been dead for a long time.",
      "body_zh": "我们只是两个人住在同一所房子里。有一根“最后一根稻草”让我离开，但实际上这段关系已经结束很长一段时间了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylcdv4",
      "author": "dxrey65",
      "created_utc": 1784511601,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylcdv4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Well, it wasn't like she gave me a choice or that it was my decision, but as far as letting go mentally it was that I'd lost respect for her, I didn't want her back.",
      "body_zh": "好吧，这并不是说她给了我一个选择，或者说这是我的决定，但就精神上的放手而言，我已经失去了对她的尊重，我不想让她回来。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylh8sl",
      "author": "not_a_moogle",
      "created_utc": 1784513336,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylh8sl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She constantly called me useless.  Started threatening to leave.  And other assorted insults that in context make no sense either.  It was just rage and anger at me.",
      "body_zh": "她经常说我没用。  开始威胁要离开。  还有其他各种各样的侮辱，在上下文中也毫无意义。  这只是对我的愤怒和愤怒。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjziqx",
      "author": "engineered_academic",
      "created_utc": 1784496792,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjziqx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she refused to pick me up from the airport coming back from a business trip over going out partying with friends. This was back before Uber was really a thing.",
      "body_zh": "当我出差回来和朋友出去聚会时，她拒绝去机场接我。那是在 Uber 真正出现之前。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjxx97",
      "author": "OldDogTrainer",
      "created_utc": 1784496405,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjxx97/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I asked her if she’d be willing to try rehab then she told me would rather keep drinking even if it meant divorce. I told her the next day I wanted a divorce.",
      "body_zh": "当我问她是否愿意尝试戒毒时，她告诉我宁愿继续喝酒，即使这意味着离婚。第二天我就告诉她我想离婚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykgcee",
      "author": "tooddalooooo",
      "created_utc": 1784501238,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykgcee/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Ex racked up a large amount of debt without telling me. That was the third time she has done it. There was so much more on top of it. But that was the final straw.",
      "body_zh": "前任在没有告诉我的情况下欠下了巨额债务。这是她第三次这样做了。除此之外还有更多的事情。但这是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymdvtd",
      "author": "notyourcinderella",
      "created_utc": 1784527037,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymdvtd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He wouldn't get a job, wouldn't go to counseling, and started listening in on my work conversations to make sure I wasn't cheating on him with my remote coworkers.",
      "body_zh": "他不会找到工作，不会去咨询，并开始偷听我的工作谈话，以确保我没有与远程同事欺骗他。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiy5ve",
      "author": "binarytmo",
      "created_utc": 1784486902,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiy5ve/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I took the manipulation, bpd, and bipolar in stride,  but the last straw was abusing our children.  I got full custody, she got a few hours visitation every week.",
      "body_zh": "我对操纵、双相情感障碍和躁郁症泰然处之，但最后一根稻草是虐待我们的孩子。  我得到了完全监护权，她每周都有几个小时的探视时间。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykpjhm",
      "author": "PerspectiveNew7609",
      "created_utc": 1784503940,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykpjhm/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My first wife said the primary reason for her wanting a divorce was my parents. They didn't like her because she was white (italian/greek). So racism essentially.",
      "body_zh": "我的第一任妻子说她想要离婚的主要原因是我的父母。他们不喜欢她，因为她是白人（意大利/希腊人）。所以本质上是种族主义。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl5fhd",
      "author": "SootSpritesForever",
      "created_utc": 1784509177,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl5fhd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Eh my ex husband was meeting men on the icky parts of the web in parking lots to get bjs and told me he was at therapy lmao. Was pretty clear to me it was time 😅",
      "body_zh": "呃，我的前夫在停车场的网络上的令人讨厌的地方与男人见面进行口交，并告诉我他正在接受治疗，lmao。我很清楚现在是时候了😅"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykm4zc",
      "author": "oracle-nil",
      "created_utc": 1784502911,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykm4zc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There wasn’t a last straw. Sad really, we both loved each other. Remained friends for many years after till he died. Sometimes people just can’t live together.",
      "body_zh": "没有最后一根稻草。真的很伤心，我们都深爱着彼此。多年来一直是朋友，直到他去世。有时人们就是无法生活在一起。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymcx0m",
      "author": "SassyStella",
      "created_utc": 1784526562,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymcx0m/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Although infidelity triggered the dominos, it was ultimately realizing that I couldn't be the healthiest version of myself while married to him ...I chose me.",
      "body_zh": "虽然不忠引发了多米诺骨牌，但最终我意识到，在嫁给他时，我不可能成为最健康的自己……我选择了我自己。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykjcvv",
      "author": "WetFishStink",
      "created_utc": 1784502093,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykjcvv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When the intimacy dried up, and the realisation that I was absolutely never trusted around other women, while she was still close friends with several exes.",
      "body_zh": "当亲密关系枯竭时，我意识到我在其他女人面前绝对不被信任，而她仍然是几个前任的亲密朋友。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl8cq0",
      "author": "Patient_Food_2041",
      "created_utc": 1784510179,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl8cq0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It wasn't one big blow-up. It was realizing we were roommates instead of partners. We stopped talking, stopped laughing, and neither of us was happy anymore",
      "body_zh": "这并不是一场大爆炸。它意识到我们是室友而不是合作伙伴。我们不再说话，不再笑，我们都不再快乐了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylq0qh",
      "author": "TangerineTasty9787",
      "created_utc": 1784516550,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylq0qh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I guess it was the infidelity here too. It usually is the 'last straw' but something else in the relationship makes them open to 'stepping out' so to speak.",
      "body_zh": "我想这也是不忠的原因。这通常是“最后一根稻草”，但关系中的其他因素让他们愿意“走出去”。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymc5gn",
      "author": "Mysterious-Willow301",
      "created_utc": 1784526187,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymc5gn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I felt relieved to have the house to myself.. couldnt trust him to not violate me in my sleep.. didn't want to be near him.. slept in the living room..",
      "body_zh": "当我因拥有自己的房子而感到宽慰时..无法相信他不会在睡梦中侵犯我..不想靠近他..睡在客厅.."
    },
    {
      "id": "oym64pv",
      "author": "Dear-Author4429",
      "created_utc": 1784523322,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym64pv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It was a laundry lists of small things, but eventually I just had to realize that the fear of failing on my own wasn’t worse than the misery of continuing.",
      "body_zh": "这是一系列小事情的清单，但最终我不得不意识到，对自己失败的恐惧并不比继续下去的痛苦更糟糕。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylr029",
      "author": "betterdayzahead777",
      "created_utc": 1784516930,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylr029/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "No last straw just couldn’t fathom walking on eggshells, measuring every word, and living under the cloud of someone else’s moods for the rest of my life.",
      "body_zh": "没有最后一根稻草无法理解我的余生如履薄冰，衡量每一个字，生活在别人情绪的阴云之下。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymafcn",
      "author": "sassyslut9",
      "created_utc": 1784525346,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymafcn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After 10 years it finally clicked that I was raising a man child. He could never care for me as the way I cared and did for him. I couldn’t do it anymore.",
      "body_zh": "十年后，我终于意识到我正在抚养一个男孩。他永远无法像我关心他、为他所做的那样关心我。我再也做不到了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiveo3",
      "author": "Both-Acanthaceae-672",
      "created_utc": 1784486156,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiveo3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My friend said he got a divorce because his ex wife stopped loving him. Like genuinely saying to him infront of the friend group \"I wish I never met you\"",
      "body_zh": "我的朋友说他离婚是因为他的前妻不再爱他了。就像在朋友圈里真诚地对他说“我希望我从未遇见你”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj63r5",
      "author": "schneidersays",
      "created_utc": 1784489107,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj63r5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He wouldn’t get sober, started getting physical with me in addition to the emotional abuse. I wanted to unalive and he didn’t care. Doing much better now",
      "body_zh": "他不肯清醒，除了精神上的虐待之外，他还开始和我发生肢体冲突。我想死，但他不在乎。现在做得好多了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylyque",
      "author": "JWGirl",
      "created_utc": 1784520102,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylyque/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Honestly?  Went through a very early (38) menopause, realized that I deserved better.   \nHe threatened to kill me (in front of my then 14 yo daughter.)",
      "body_zh": "诚实地？  很早就经历了更年期（38岁），意识到我应该得到更好的。   \n他威胁要杀了我（在我当时 14 岁的女儿面前。）"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyje31r",
      "author": "sickiesusan",
      "created_utc": 1784491283,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyje31r/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My now ex-husband’s internet search history. The home PC wasn’t the revealing, it was his work PC (he owned the business) where the real answers were.",
      "body_zh": "我现在前夫的互联网搜索历史。家用电脑并不能揭示真相，真正的答案是他的工作电脑（他拥有这家公司）。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjmspl",
      "author": "aberlux",
      "created_utc": 1784493429,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjmspl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He was negative all the time and when I asked him to work on it and he told me I knew he was like that when we got married so he didn’t have to change",
      "body_zh": "他一直都很消极，当我要求他解决这个问题时，他告诉我，我知道我们结婚时他就是这样，所以他不需要改变"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjs6pt",
      "author": "Low_Cookie5076",
      "created_utc": 1784494888,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjs6pt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized I was making myself small to fit into a box that kept him comfortable, and perhaps I was asking the same of him without realizing it.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到我正在把自己变得很小，以适应一个让他感到舒适的盒子时，也许我在没有意识到的情况下对他提出了同样的要求。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykumih",
      "author": "Fuzzywrinkle",
      "created_utc": 1784505562,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykumih/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was going through chemo and asked for him to limit contact with others since I had no immune system. He went to dinner with 15 people 2 days later.",
      "body_zh": "我当时正在接受化疗，并要求他限制与他人的接触，因为我没有免疫系统。两天后，他与15个人共进晚餐。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjpzyh",
      "author": "bunnybash",
      "created_utc": 1784494284,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjpzyh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "As a straight man, I decided that I couldn’t stay married to a lesbian after all. I tried. I really did, but I want to be with someone who wants me.",
      "body_zh": "作为一个直男，我决定我不能继续和女同性恋结婚。我试过。我确实这么做了，但我想和一个想要我的人在一起。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykr8yx",
      "author": "blue-eyed-wonder",
      "created_utc": 1784504472,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykr8yx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Them not accepting help for their psychosis. Choosing to self medicate with things that make it worse. And choosing that life, over a life with me.",
      "body_zh": "他们不接受精神病的帮助。选择自我治疗会使情况变得更糟。选择那样的生活，而不是和我一起生活。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym4s0s",
      "author": "williafx",
      "created_utc": 1784522712,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym4s0s/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She cheated on her deployment with a couple guys.  Another one in the barracks during our engagement.  We were young.  But I really was in love...",
      "body_zh": "她在与几个男人的部署中作弊。  我们订婚期间，另一张在军营里。  我们还年轻。  但我真的爱上了..."
    },
    {
      "id": "oyipzrf",
      "author": "TheFemale72",
      "created_utc": 1784484696,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyipzrf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He bought himself a new computer after “forgetting” my birthday. This was about 27 years ago. Happily remarried to a wonderful man for 20 years.",
      "body_zh": "“忘记”我的生日后，他给自己买了一台新电脑。这是大约27年前的事了。幸福地与一个优秀的男人再婚20年。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykmdjn",
      "author": "yellowcardofficial",
      "created_utc": 1784502982,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykmdjn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She told me thinking about coming home made her want to kill herself. 23 year old me wasn't perfect but damn that stuck with me for a long time.",
      "body_zh": "她告诉我，一想到回家，她就想自杀。 23岁的我并不完美，但该死的这一点困扰了我很长一段时间。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyivi3o",
      "author": "May_die",
      "created_utc": 1784486182,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyivi3o/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Wife had a miscarriage and it pretty much broke our marriage.  Neither of us is handling the grief well, but she didn't want to do counseling",
      "body_zh": "妻子流产了，这几乎破坏了我们的婚姻。  我们俩都没有很好地处理悲伤，但她不想做咨询"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjqcop",
      "author": "Sarosdy-Bousso",
      "created_utc": 1784494380,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjqcop/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "just realizing nothing was getting better over time? I’ve always wondered if most “last straws” are actually a slow build that finally tips.",
      "body_zh": "只是意识到随着时间的推移一切都没有好转？我一直想知道是否大多数“最后一根稻草”实际上都是一个缓慢的构建，最终会崩溃。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykuy3d",
      "author": "MagicManicPanic",
      "created_utc": 1784505667,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykuy3d/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He put his hands in his pockets and grabbed everything he could, then threw it all at me. I had been done for a while, but that was the end.",
      "body_zh": "他把手插进口袋里，抓起所有能抓到的东西，然后全都扔给我。我已经完成了一段时间，但那就结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjv7xt",
      "author": "snailologist",
      "created_utc": 1784495704,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjv7xt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He came back from deployment and destroyed my garden with his hammer because he “thought it was ugly”. No chance of recovering after that.",
      "body_zh": "他从部署中回来后，用锤子摧毁了我的花园，因为他“认为它很丑”。之后就没有恢复的机会了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkmxu",
      "author": "Crashonsrock",
      "created_utc": 1784514553,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkmxu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "After telling all the facts to my Therapist he stated “she is cheating on you”. After he said that it all clicked. It was done after that.",
      "body_zh": "在向我的治疗师讲述所有事实后，他说“她在欺骗你”。他说完之后，一切都顺利了。之后就完成了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjjvpz",
      "author": "Similar_Grocery8312",
      "created_utc": 1784492637,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjjvpz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It wasn’t a last straw it was both of us realizing we were roommates not lovers so amicably went separate ways no fight and still friends",
      "body_zh": "这不是最后一根稻草，我们都意识到我们是室友而不是恋人，所以友好地分道扬镳，没有争吵，仍然是朋友"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyln7hp",
      "author": "aHunterGathererToo",
      "created_utc": 1784515491,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyln7hp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She asked \"should we get a divorce?\".  Just like many employment questions, the only possible answer is \"yes\".  The rest was negotiation.",
      "body_zh": "她问“我们该离婚吗？”。  就像许多就业问题一样，唯一可能的答案是“是”。  剩下的就是谈判了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykean8",
      "author": "WhatRUrGsandPs",
      "created_utc": 1784500658,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykean8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized that every time one of us left the house, I hoped we’d die in a car accident, and I didn’t care which one of us it was.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到每次我们中的一个人离开家时，我都希望我们会死于一场车祸，而我不在乎是我们中的哪一个。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj4ro8",
      "author": "christmas_eve_",
      "created_utc": 1784488723,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj4ro8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me I was a horrible mother for the 1,000,0000th when I do absolutely everything. \n\nBeing married to a narcissist is fun 🥴",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我，当我做了一切事情时，我是第一百万个糟糕的母亲。 \n\n嫁给一个自恋者很有趣🥴"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjb8vt",
      "author": "Far_Speaker7118",
      "created_utc": 1784490543,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjb8vt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I got sued bc he didn’t pay the mortgage. After I had already moved out so he could get his life together without me holding his hand.",
      "body_zh": "我被起诉，因为他没有支付抵押贷款。在我搬出去之后，他就可以在没有我牵着他的手的情况下过上自己的生活了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjjmv0",
      "author": "Opal_songbird",
      "created_utc": 1784492576,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjjmv0/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he accused me of infidelity instead of taking accountability for his lack of effort during previous months of marital counseling.",
      "body_zh": "当他指责我不忠，而不是为他在前几个月的婚姻咨询中缺乏努力而承担责任时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykpmv9",
      "author": "waaringo",
      "created_utc": 1784503968,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykpmv9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The N word. I’m not black, he used it talking about someone else. There was loooooooong line of terrible things but that was it for me",
      "body_zh": "N字。我不是黑人，他用它来谈论别人。有很多可怕的事情，但对我来说就是这样了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylilnt",
      "author": "Strict-Season5410",
      "created_utc": 1784513822,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylilnt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she became so obsessed with TikTok she thought it’s fine I spend Christmas Day with my son while she live streams. Brain rot.",
      "body_zh": "当她对 TikTok 如此着迷时，她认为我可以和儿子一起过圣诞节，而她则在直播。脑子烂了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyloeak",
      "author": "haterskateralligator",
      "created_utc": 1784515933,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyloeak/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Screamed at me in the car in front of my sister. The writing was already on the wall but there was no coming back from that for me",
      "body_zh": "在车里当着我姐姐的面对我大喊大叫。不祥之兆已经在墙上，但对我来说已经无法挽回了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyil9nu",
      "author": "phuck_nutz420",
      "created_utc": 1784483427,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyil9nu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "We stopped having sex. All we did was fight. The relationship wasn't worth saving anymore after multiple attempts. I walked away.",
      "body_zh": "我们停止了性行为。我们所做的只是战斗。经过多次尝试，这段关系已经不值得挽救了。我走开了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjqz5k",
      "author": "Blaaamo",
      "created_utc": 1784494552,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjqz5k/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "A follow up letter to her from planned parenthood about her abortion. We hadn’t had sex in over a year.   \nYou said FINAL straw.",
      "body_zh": "计划生育机构给她写的一封关于她堕胎的后续信。我们已经一年多没有做爱了。   \n你说的是最后一根稻草。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykxxyt",
      "author": "Man_of_Dan",
      "created_utc": 1784506648,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykxxyt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I told her I was struggling with suicidal ideation, and the next argument we got in she told me to just go ahead and do it.",
      "body_zh": "当我告诉她我正在与自杀意念作斗争时，我们发生的下一次争吵她告诉我就去做吧。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym2pyf",
      "author": "boss44lady",
      "created_utc": 1784521798,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym2pyf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The woman who he was flirting with all night got in our car and asked who I was.  \nThe look on her face when I said, “his wife.”",
      "body_zh": "他整夜调情的那个女人上了我们的车，问我是谁。  \n当我说“他的妻子”时，她脸上的表情。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyirwwj",
      "author": "eleventykerjillion",
      "created_utc": 1784485208,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyirwwj/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Realising that there was no way I could be, nor wanted to be, the husband she decided I should be. Thank god we never had kids.",
      "body_zh": "意识到我不可能、也不想成为她认为我应该成为的丈夫。感谢上帝我们没有孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyll2bn",
      "author": "RadioSupply",
      "created_utc": 1784514708,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyll2bn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I told her I could forgive many things, but never violence. She racked up debt, I asked her where the money went, she hit me.",
      "body_zh": "我告诉她我可以原谅很多事情，但不能原谅暴力。她负债累累，我问她钱去哪儿了，她打了我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk1hly",
      "author": "Vbarigelli",
      "created_utc": 1784497313,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk1hly/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Lots of screaming at me. Could tell that I went from being someone he loved to someone he hated. So much angry and blaming -",
      "body_zh": "很多人对我尖叫。可以看出我从他爱的人变成了他恨的人。如此愤怒和责备——"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylb6cp",
      "author": "carame2020",
      "created_utc": 1784511172,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylb6cp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Well getting served, my husband told me on a Saturday he had not loved me in four years,I was served Monday ... That was it",
      "body_zh": "服务很好，我丈夫在周六告诉我，他已经四年不爱我了，周一我得到了服务......就是这样"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylr5a6",
      "author": "InspectorPercy",
      "created_utc": 1784516988,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylr5a6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He was being snarky to me (in front of the kids), and I asked \"Can't you be kind?\" and his response was \"NO.\"\n\n  \nok, then.",
      "body_zh": "他（在孩子们面前）对我很刻薄，我问“你就不能友善一点吗？”他的回答是“不”。\n\n  \n好吧，那么。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyilfhe",
      "author": "thegreatandpowerfulE",
      "created_utc": 1784483470,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyilfhe/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he thought we should stay married even though he no longer wanted to have sex with me, and refused to try counseling.",
      "body_zh": "当他认为我们应该保持婚姻关系时，尽管他不再想与我发生性关系，并且拒绝尝试咨询。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj5gm5",
      "author": "Black_Tears524",
      "created_utc": 1784488921,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj5gm5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Beat me with a metal chair when I was holding our 1 year old. I shielded our child who was unhurt but covered in my blood.",
      "body_zh": "当我抱着我们一岁的孩子时，用金属椅子打我。我保护了我们的孩子，他没有受伤，但浑身是我的血。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk00ak",
      "author": "DiligentChampion5765",
      "created_utc": 1784496924,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk00ak/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When they weren’t putting as much into changing the bits that they did not like about their life, health, job etc as I was",
      "body_zh": "当他们不像我那样投入那么多精力去改变他们生活、健康、工作等方面他们不喜欢的地方时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykc799",
      "author": "thatgrrrl117",
      "created_utc": 1784500072,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykc799/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he got jealous about me hanging out with my friends without including him. Which was rare because he would get upset.",
      "body_zh": "当他嫉妒我和朋友们一起出去玩而没有他的时候。这种情况很少见，因为他会感到不安。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykwuau",
      "author": "football2106",
      "created_utc": 1784506286,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykwuau/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not divorced, but broken up after 7 1/2 years and being engaged for the last year. \n\nLack of communication from both sides",
      "body_zh": "没有离婚，但在结婚 7.5 年后分手，并在去年订婚。 \n\n双方缺乏沟通"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjlxab",
      "author": "sparklybeast",
      "created_utc": 1784493191,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjlxab/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Him saying he’d lost all respect for me because I’d booked a ticket to see a band perform a second night of their tour.",
      "body_zh": "他说他已经失去了对我的所有尊重，因为我订了一张票去看乐队在巡演的第二天晚上表演。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjvmxp",
      "author": "JohnExcrement",
      "created_utc": 1784495827,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjvmxp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "His refusal to treat his alcoholism. He was actually a good guy, just his own worst enemy. I couldn’t keep watching it.",
      "body_zh": "他拒绝治疗他的酗酒问题。他其实是一个好人，只是他自己最大的敌人。我无法继续看下去。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykmrj8",
      "author": "Standard-Cell-3031",
      "created_utc": 1784503097,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykmrj8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "my last straw was realizing we hadn't had a real conversation in months, just passing notes like we were in high school",
      "body_zh": "我的最后一根稻草是意识到我们已经好几个月没有真正的交谈了，只是像高中时那样传递纸条"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykl2w3",
      "author": "Backstreetgirl37",
      "created_utc": 1784502596,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykl2w3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My husband told me he would leave me if I didnt stop quoting Wonderwall and asked if that's what I want.\n\nI said maybe",
      "body_zh": "我丈夫告诉我，如果我不停止引用《Wonderwall》，他就会离开我，并问我这是否就是我想要的。\n\n我说也许"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykzv5a",
      "author": "winemustache",
      "created_utc": 1784507297,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykzv5a/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He put dog shit in my clean clothes. Like the dog pooped inside and then picked it up and put it in my laundry basket.",
      "body_zh": "他把狗屎放进我干净的衣服里。就像狗在里面拉屎然后把它捡起来放进我的洗衣篮里一样。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykf2al",
      "author": "RED-WEAPON",
      "created_utc": 1784500877,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykf2al/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I'd like to hear the other side of the story about each of these comments.\n\nThis is a swamp of maximum personal bias.",
      "body_zh": "我想听听关于这些评论的另一面。\n\n这是最大个人偏见的沼泽。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykkzzr",
      "author": "burning___hammer",
      "created_utc": 1784502572,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykkzzr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "They wanted to keep the affair partners baby despite our entire relationship being adamant on never wanting children.",
      "body_zh": "尽管我们的整个关系都坚定不想要孩子，但他们还是想让外遇伴侣生孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyloi5g",
      "author": "mapoftasmania",
      "created_utc": 1784515974,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyloi5g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The day I realized that, whenever something bad happened, she never took my side or sought to support me emotionally.",
      "body_zh": "那天我意识到，每当发生不好的事情时，她从来不会站在我这边，也不会寻求在情感上支持我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykqiqd",
      "author": "notmepleaseokay",
      "created_utc": 1784504243,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykqiqd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me “I’m a really great partner when my needs are met,” as I’m lying on the floor having a panic attack.",
      "body_zh": "当我躺在地板上惊恐发作时，他告诉我“当我的需求得到满足时，我真的是一个很棒的合作伙伴”。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk44s1",
      "author": "TapPrancer",
      "created_utc": 1784498028,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk44s1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He left me, but his dad went to visit him when I was away and told him the way he was treating me was unacceptable.",
      "body_zh": "他离开了我，但当我不在时，他的父亲去看望他，并告诉他他对待我的方式是不可接受的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylq8ic",
      "author": "sevens-on-her-sleeve",
      "created_utc": 1784516633,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylq8ic/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He was leaving for a 3-week work trip, and instead of hanging out with me he played video games into the wee hours",
      "body_zh": "他要出去进行为期三周的工作旅行，他没有和我一起出去玩，而是玩电子游戏到凌晨"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykul7r",
      "author": "craychel",
      "created_utc": 1784505550,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykul7r/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me \"as soon as your dad's dead, you'll be financially anchored to me, and then you're really fucked\"",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我“一旦你父亲去世，你在经济上就会依赖我，然后你就真的完蛋了”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj9a55",
      "author": "Sparrow",
      "created_utc": 1784489984,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj9a55/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Lots of infidelity, but final straw was working 50-60 hour weeks and not knowing where 3/5 of her paycheck went.",
      "body_zh": "有很多不忠行为，但压垮她的最后一根稻草是每周工作 50 至 60 小时，而且不知道 3/5 的薪水去了哪里。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylwkgg",
      "author": "Tasty_Owl_3769",
      "created_utc": 1784519186,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylwkgg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she filed false IPC498a police complaint against me, because i didnt put her name in House i bought for us.",
      "body_zh": "当她向我提出虚假的 IPC498a 警方投诉时，因为我没有把她的名字写在我为我们买的房子里。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyim59z",
      "author": "noodleisacat",
      "created_utc": 1784483664,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyim59z/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he unnecessarily and brutally killed a couple baby squirrels I was caring for. I was out within 48 hours 🥲",
      "body_zh": "当他不必要地残忍地杀死了我正在照顾的几只小松鼠时。 48小时内我就出去了🥲"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjbel2",
      "author": "Routine_Mine_3019",
      "created_utc": 1784490587,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjbel2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she refused to go to marriage counseling with me. This was after several months of “the silent treatment“.",
      "body_zh": "当她拒绝和我一起去婚姻咨询时。这是经过几个月的“沉默对待”之后。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk0yhn",
      "author": "SteroidSandwich",
      "created_utc": 1784497191,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk0yhn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My uncle left his ex after he found out how much spending she does and when confronted she threw a glass at him",
      "body_zh": "我叔叔在发现他的前女友花了多少钱后离开了她，当他面对时，她向他扔了一个玻璃杯"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk83c6",
      "author": "GloInTheDarkUnicorn",
      "created_utc": 1784499064,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk83c6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he threw things at me in front of our 2 year old son, for asking him to help with the house and the kid.",
      "body_zh": "当他在我们两岁的儿子面前向我扔东西时，因为我要求他帮忙做家务和照顾孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyka5lr",
      "author": "music-girl57",
      "created_utc": 1784499553,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyka5lr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "my dad took a dna test of me to try prove im not his kid twice but surprise I am.That was my mums last straw",
      "body_zh": "我爸爸对我进行了两次 DNA 测试，试图证明我不是他的孩子，但令我惊讶的是我是。那是我妈妈的最后一根稻草"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykver5",
      "author": "Pickmenose",
      "created_utc": 1784505819,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykver5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I asked her to go to couples therapy, her response was about not needing anyone else to tell her she’s right",
      "body_zh": "我让她去接受夫妻治疗，她的回答是不需要其他人告诉她她是对的"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkhg3",
      "author": "Public_Subject1608",
      "created_utc": 1784514499,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkhg3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "It wasn't one big fight. It was realizing we'd become roommates who occasionally argued instead of partners.",
      "body_zh": "这不是一场大战。我们意识到我们已经成为偶尔争吵的室友，而不是合作伙伴。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym6puh",
      "author": "Fearless-Sandwich823",
      "created_utc": 1784523592,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym6puh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Having a kitchen knife pointed at me while she was yelling at me for 5 minutes.  I didn't feel safe anymore.",
      "body_zh": "Having a kitchen knife pointed at me while she was yelling at me for 5 minutes.  我不再感到安全了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjky01",
      "author": "Sea-Possibility-3984",
      "created_utc": 1784492928,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjky01/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When they lied to the therapist in front of me and later said \"They dont need to know everything about me\".",
      "body_zh": "当他们在我面前对治疗师撒谎并后来说“他们不需要了解我的一切”时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjo044",
      "author": "screamqueennz",
      "created_utc": 1784493760,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjo044/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he started getting interested in my daughters friends.She wasn't even 10. It was seriously disgusting.",
      "body_zh": "当他开始对我女儿的朋友感兴趣时。她还不到 10 岁。这真是太恶心了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjae7q",
      "author": "Fungal-dryad",
      "created_utc": 1784490302,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjae7q/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The idea of him retiring and being around all the time. I breathed a sigh of relief when he left for work.",
      "body_zh": "他退休并一直存在的想法。当他去上班时，我松了一口气。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymd3fu",
      "author": "fidddlydiddlyee",
      "created_utc": 1784526648,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymd3fu/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Immortal Technique Dance With the Devil. Do not listen to this song unless you are in a good mental space.",
      "body_zh": "仙术与魔共舞。除非你处于良好的心理状态，否则不要听这首歌。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylqbbz",
      "author": "Quanyn",
      "created_utc": 1784516664,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylqbbz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He wasn’t coming home until the next day then smelled really bad.  He wasn’t willing to work on anything.",
      "body_zh": "直到第二天他才回家，然后闻起来很臭。  他不愿意做任何事情。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj37bn",
      "author": "Tough_Oven4904",
      "created_utc": 1784488264,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj37bn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I stopped being a stay at home parent and wife and I still did everything while working s full time job.",
      "body_zh": "我不再是一个全职父母和妻子，我仍然在做全职工作的同时做所有的事情。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk2qkz",
      "author": "MissionArt41",
      "created_utc": 1784497609,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk2qkz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "There 5 straws\nStealing, lying, cheating, any addictions and disrespect   \nWhich one is the short straw?",
      "body_zh": "有5根吸管\n偷窃、撒谎、欺骗、任何成瘾行为和不尊重行为   \n哪一根是短吸管？"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyki85s",
      "author": "Fakress",
      "created_utc": 1784501768,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyki85s/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "In his words \"(my) multiple sclerosis disease didn't match his life goals\".\nI now see I dodged a bullet.",
      "body_zh": "用他的话说“（我的）多发性硬化症与他的人生目标不符”。\n我现在发现我躲过了子弹。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyllqix",
      "author": "IHS1970",
      "created_utc": 1784514950,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyllqix/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "His cheating - he was 33 she was 19, I was out the door. Best thing I ever did was divorce that asshole.",
      "body_zh": "他出轨了——他33岁，她19岁，我被赶出了门。我做过的最好的事情就是和那个混蛋离婚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylm93a",
      "author": "hndygal",
      "created_utc": 1784515139,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylm93a/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he screamed at me in front of my children, chased them down and wrapped his hands around my throat.",
      "body_zh": "当他在我的孩子们面前对我尖叫，追赶他们并用手掐住我的喉咙时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylsvmf",
      "author": "FlyingLittleDuck",
      "created_utc": 1784517675,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylsvmf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Realizing how much weight I gained and how my weekends consisted of fighting, crying, and binge eating.",
      "body_zh": "意识到我的体重增加了多少，以及我的周末充满了打架、哭泣和暴饮暴食。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk0l2k",
      "author": "masha1901",
      "created_utc": 1784497089,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk0l2k/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he stole the money I saved from my wages. That money was for Christmas presents for our children.",
      "body_zh": "当他偷了我工资里存的钱时。这笔钱是给我们孩子们的圣诞礼物。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjeep1",
      "author": "Individual-Bread-469",
      "created_utc": 1784491363,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjeep1/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He became really mean and cold towards my son and I. I couldn’t take his cruelty towards us anymore.",
      "body_zh": "他对我和我的儿子变得非常刻薄和冷酷。我再也无法忍受他对我们的残忍。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyldr8r",
      "author": "starvensh",
      "created_utc": 1784512090,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyldr8r/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Reading these comments makes me fear marriage. I hope I find a partner that won't make me feel this.",
      "body_zh": "读这些评论让我对婚姻产生恐惧。我希望我能找到一个不会让我有这种感觉的伴侣。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj8f0h",
      "author": "miralissevale",
      "created_utc": 1784489742,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj8f0h/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He ate my leftovers labeled \"do not eat.\" Said \"marriage means sharing everything\" with zero shame.",
      "body_zh": "他吃了我标记为“不要吃”的剩菜。零羞耻地说“婚姻意味着分享一切”。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymarth",
      "author": "Exotic_Policy6173",
      "created_utc": 1784525513,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymarth/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he broke down the bathroom door when I was hiding from him and strangled me until I passed out",
      "body_zh": "当我躲着他的时候他打破了浴室的门并勒死了我直到我昏倒"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl29iq",
      "author": "PhantomBanker",
      "created_utc": 1784508116,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl29iq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my wife suggested a divorce, I didn’t argue with her. It just seemed like the right decision.",
      "body_zh": "当我妻子提出离婚时，我没有与她争论。这似乎是正确的决定。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykk9t3",
      "author": "Ronaldo_Frumpalini",
      "created_utc": 1784502359,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykk9t3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The last straw will definitely be plastic. Those cardboard ones don't even outlast my damn drink.",
      "body_zh": "最后一根稻草肯定是塑料。那些纸板的甚至比我那该死的饮料还耐用。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykz872",
      "author": "ToTheYonderGlade",
      "created_utc": 1784507082,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykz872/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Saying career is important to then, then making executive decisions once they are the breadwinner",
      "body_zh": "说职业对那时很重要，然后在成为养家糊口的人后做出行政决策"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykusbz",
      "author": "iamthegreyest",
      "created_utc": 1784505615,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykusbz/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I realised we weren't compatible, I was tired and annoyed and he kept egging me with boundaries.",
      "body_zh": "我意识到我们不兼容，我又累又恼火，他一直用界限来怂恿我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjo4s9",
      "author": "SayNothing2462",
      "created_utc": 1784493798,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjo4s9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He spit in my face\nLiterally\nYou cant come back (or explain away) from that level of disrespect",
      "body_zh": "他向我脸上吐口水\n从字面上看\n你无法从这种程度的不尊重中恢复（或解释）"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylmyug",
      "author": "BusyKaleidoscope2946",
      "created_utc": 1784515403,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylmyug/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told his sister she was a “sweet angel from heaven” while starving me of emotional intimacy.",
      "body_zh": "他告诉他的妹妹，她是“来自天堂的甜蜜天使”，同时却让我缺乏情感上的亲密。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykaexv",
      "author": "Educational_Novel593",
      "created_utc": 1784499616,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykaexv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I dreaded going home and the thought of him touching me made me physically ill and angry.",
      "body_zh": "当我害怕回家时，一想到他碰我，我就感到身体不适和愤怒。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk919r",
      "author": "westnipnoodles16",
      "created_utc": 1784499282,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk919r/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Hated coming home and was suffocating. He wouldn’t let me just go on a bike ride without him.",
      "body_zh": "讨厌回家，感到窒息。他不会让我独自去骑自行车。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl48rh",
      "author": "heyitslando",
      "created_utc": 1784508778,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl48rh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Her inability to hold space for my emotions, after I did my best to support hers for 9 years.",
      "body_zh": "在我竭尽全力支持她九年之后，她却无法容纳我的情感。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj2qyg",
      "author": "ReblWithoutApplause",
      "created_utc": 1784488129,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj2qyg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Gambling. He became a degenerate, and not the charismatic/loving/inspiring man that he was.",
      "body_zh": "赌博。他变成了一个堕落的人，不再是一个有魅力/有爱心/鼓舞人心的人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykdjw5",
      "author": "Reno_D",
      "created_utc": 1784500443,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykdjw5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Hitting and choking me in front of one of our kids.  She was out of the house the next day.",
      "body_zh": "当着我们的一个孩子的面打我并掐我的脖子。  第二天她就出门了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyliqof",
      "author": "ChoochGooch",
      "created_utc": 1784513870,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyliqof/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When our relationship counselor said they can’t help us after almost 2 years of counseling.",
      "body_zh": "当我们的关系顾问说经过近两年的咨询后他们无法帮助我们时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylpurc",
      "author": "Lost_and_Broken-",
      "created_utc": 1784516486,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylpurc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Drug induced psychosis. Bpd is hard enough to hold together. Everyone has a breaking point.",
      "body_zh": "药物引起的精神病。 Bpd 很难团结在一起。每个人都有一个转折点。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj9oyk",
      "author": "miralissevale",
      "created_utc": 1784490103,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj9oyk/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Refused to rinse dishes before dishwasher. \"Machine does it.\" Yeah, it did-divorce papers.",
      "body_zh": "拒绝在洗碗机前冲洗餐具。 “机器能做到。”是的，确实如此——离婚文件。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjw19f",
      "author": "OwnStill8743",
      "created_utc": 1784495922,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjw19f/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "when my ex wife decided one day that she wanted to explore polyamory. that was it for me",
      "body_zh": "当我的前妻有一天决定探索一夫多妻制时。对我来说就是这样"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyke6op",
      "author": "bitomoneynothoney",
      "created_utc": 1784500627,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyke6op/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I overheard him telling our daughter I was an awful bitch. Which definitely wasn’t true.",
      "body_zh": "我无意中听到他告诉我们的女儿我是个可怕的婊子。这绝对不是真的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylkdef",
      "author": "Time-Estate-2430",
      "created_utc": 1784514458,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylkdef/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "My brother, but kind 5k in phone games while the were broke after she had breast cancer.",
      "body_zh": "我的兄弟，在手机游戏中赚了 5 千，而她在患乳腺癌后破产了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylklr7",
      "author": "misanthr0p1c",
      "created_utc": 1784514542,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylklr7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Was not married, but when time together was basically time on the phone, I wrote it off.",
      "body_zh": "没有结婚，但当在一起的时间基本上都是打电话的时候，我就把它注销了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylp1h3",
      "author": "aniyasmomecwi",
      "created_utc": 1784516174,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylp1h3/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Knowing you deserve more and realizing they are never going to be able to give you that.",
      "body_zh": "知道你应该得到更多，但意识到他们永远无法给你这些。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylwp6c",
      "author": "True-Boss-2789",
      "created_utc": 1784519240,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylwp6c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Getting stitches in my forehead caused from the scissors thrown at me in one of her fits",
      "body_zh": "在一次发作中，她向我扔剪刀，导致我的额头缝了几针"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym8h88",
      "author": "akcuz",
      "created_utc": 1784524413,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym8h88/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Found out my wife was sleeping with her boss from work. Hired a lawyer the next day.",
      "body_zh": "发现我妻子下班后和她老板睡了。第二天就请了律师。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyluyij",
      "author": "itoocouldbeanyone",
      "created_utc": 1784518522,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyluyij/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Her withholding intimacy. That made the incompatible, house of red flags to topple.",
      "body_zh": "她压抑着亲密感。这使得不相容的、红旗之家倒塌了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiq7x2",
      "author": "theexplorer1997",
      "created_utc": 1784484756,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiq7x2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized i was happier alone in a grocery store than with her in the house.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到我一个人在杂货店里比和她在家里更快乐时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjyg01",
      "author": "tjh28",
      "created_utc": 1784496533,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjyg01/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me that I should have said “no” more clearly or pushed him off of me.",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我我应该更明确地说“不”或者把他从我身上推开时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykg3tf",
      "author": "Opposite_Pound4619",
      "created_utc": 1784501171,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykg3tf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Learned the truth. That was the first and last straw. One straw and a GPS tracker.",
      "body_zh": "了解到了真相。这是第一根也是最后一根稻草。一根吸管和一个 GPS 追踪器。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjln76",
      "author": "No-BSgram",
      "created_utc": 1784493113,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjln76/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Him picking my disabled ass up and slamming me into the passenger seat of my car.",
      "body_zh": "他把我残疾的屁股抱起来，把我撞到汽车的乘客座位上。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjzcmx",
      "author": "mossytrash",
      "created_utc": 1784496750,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjzcmx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When i spent months away from him and realized how much happier i was without him",
      "body_zh": "当我离开他几个月后，我意识到没有他我有多快乐"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykgpbv",
      "author": "Guilty-News8379",
      "created_utc": 1784501338,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykgpbv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I knew I wasn't safe around him. I would constantly be in self defense mode.",
      "body_zh": "当我知道我在他身边并不安全时。我会一直处于自卫模式。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykm5m4",
      "author": "baileyandsnow",
      "created_utc": 1784502917,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykm5m4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my son begged me to leave because he was scared of seeing me abused anymore.",
      "body_zh": "当我儿子求我离开时，因为他害怕看到我再受到虐待。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjyryg",
      "author": "Competitive-Unit6427",
      "created_utc": 1784496601,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjyryg/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "they used to say that they would unalive themselves if they didnt get their way.",
      "body_zh": "他们常说，如果不按自己的意愿行事，他们就会自杀。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykq8n7",
      "author": "BlackMagicWorman",
      "created_utc": 1784504155,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykq8n7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told me he didn’t need to spend time with me since I didn’t give him children",
      "body_zh": "他告诉我他不需要花时间陪我，因为我没有给他孩子"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj20jy",
      "author": "hamhole89",
      "created_utc": 1784487926,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj20jy/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he got arrested for soliciting a 14 year old who was an undercover officer",
      "body_zh": "当他因拉客一名 14 岁便衣警察而被捕时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym86b9",
      "author": "theosjournal",
      "created_utc": 1784524270,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym86b9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I'd like to hear from people on the causal end of this. Anyone have experience?",
      "body_zh": "我想听听人们对这起因果关系的看法。有人有经验吗？"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykcjwy",
      "author": "Local-Drunk-Driver",
      "created_utc": 1784500165,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykcjwy/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was finding excuses not to walk in the door. Home was no longer a safe space",
      "body_zh": "我找借口不进门。家不再是一个安全的空间"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjteip",
      "author": "pancake-s",
      "created_utc": 1784495239,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjteip/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He hid my birth control medicine to try and force me to have a baby with him.",
      "body_zh": "他藏匿了我的避孕药，试图强迫我和他生孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylo9w7",
      "author": "leopardfur",
      "created_utc": 1784515888,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylo9w7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he told me “it wasn’t in our marriage vows for me to have to f\\*ck you.”",
      "body_zh": "当他告诉我“我们的婚姻誓言中并没有规定我必须操你。”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjccpp",
      "author": "3x1135",
      "created_utc": 1784490843,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjccpp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Her getting a new job in a different country, abandoning my daughter and me.",
      "body_zh": "她在另一个国家找到了新工作，抛弃了我和我的女儿。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyje5ox",
      "author": "3bluerose",
      "created_utc": 1784491301,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyje5ox/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He yelled at me in front of our kid as our kid crouched frightened behind me",
      "body_zh": "当我们的孩子害怕地蹲在我身后时，他当着我们孩子的面对我大喊大叫"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylo6ro",
      "author": "krazytekn0",
      "created_utc": 1784515855,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylo6ro/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She woke me up in the middle of the night to scream at me for the final time",
      "body_zh": "她半夜叫醒我，最后一次对我尖叫"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyikjpi",
      "author": "Mbluish",
      "created_utc": 1784483233,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyikjpi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He is a complete narcissist who always starts a sentence with I, me, or my.",
      "body_zh": "他是一个十足的自恋者，总是以“我”、“我”或“我的”开头。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oying8y",
      "author": "GreenEyedTreeHugger",
      "created_utc": 1784484014,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oying8y/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Outside circumstances were too much. I did what’s best for him. Both of us.",
      "body_zh": "外部环境太多了。我做了对他最好的事。我们俩。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk5fjh",
      "author": "Coppermill_98516",
      "created_utc": 1784498419,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk5fjh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she said to me that she saw no reason to change anything on her part.",
      "body_zh": "当她对我说她认为没有理由改变任何事情时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyknyza",
      "author": "realitychecker1",
      "created_utc": 1784503460,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyknyza/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He hired someone to kill me for my SGLI. Figured that was a deal breaker.",
      "body_zh": "他雇人为了我的 SGLI 杀了我。我认为这会破坏交易。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyix1x9",
      "author": "Frecklefishpants",
      "created_utc": 1784486607,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyix1x9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told me that he knew I wasn't good enough for him on our wedding day.",
      "body_zh": "他告诉我，他知道在我们结婚那天我配不上他。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykm9pd",
      "author": "Few_Entrepreneur6308",
      "created_utc": 1784502950,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykm9pd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I had a dream that he told me he met someone else and i woke up so happy",
      "body_zh": "我梦见他告诉我他遇到了别人，我醒来很高兴"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj4jb5",
      "author": "DefiantLaugh6913",
      "created_utc": 1784488652,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj4jb5/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Throwing my sons high chair across the kitchen while he was roid raging",
      "body_zh": "当我儿子发脾气时，我把他的高脚椅扔到了厨房的另一边"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyijzdb",
      "author": "IAm_TheOne_WhoShids",
      "created_utc": 1784483080,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyijzdb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I realized I just didn't know them anymore. We stopped sharing things.",
      "body_zh": "我意识到我不再认识他们了。我们停止分享东西。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiy8sa",
      "author": "SecretBattleship",
      "created_utc": 1784486923,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiy8sa/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I was more excited at the idea of a future without him than with him.",
      "body_zh": "我对没有他的未来比有他的未来更兴奋。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym096k",
      "author": "No-Appointment-8545",
      "created_utc": 1784520739,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym096k/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told me \"don't think you can do no wrong just because we had sex.\"",
      "body_zh": "他告诉我“不要因为我们发生了性关系就认为你不会做错事。”"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjfa5e",
      "author": "Infinite-Cricket8345",
      "created_utc": 1784491577,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjfa5e/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The toxicity. Once I removed myself from the person I felt more joy.",
      "body_zh": "毒性。一旦我把自己从那个人身上移开，我就感到更加快乐。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjnk7g",
      "author": "DeathGirling",
      "created_utc": 1784493637,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjnk7g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He propositioned a 15-year-old. He's lucky all he got was a divorce.",
      "body_zh": "他向一名15岁的女孩求婚。他很幸运，他得到的只是离婚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk2lxi",
      "author": "carol-richards49",
      "created_utc": 1784497573,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk2lxi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my husband finally admitted that he was attracted to young boys",
      "body_zh": "当我丈夫最终承认他被小男孩吸引时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykup2f",
      "author": "Neptuneintheflesh",
      "created_utc": 1784505585,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykup2f/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my aunt died and he couldn’t comfort me the way I needed him to",
      "body_zh": "当我阿姨去世时，他无法按照我需要的方式安慰我"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjsb21",
      "author": "lgramlich13",
      "created_utc": 1784494922,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjsb21/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "A friend said I should like him more than my friends, and I didn't.",
      "body_zh": "一个朋友说我应该比我的朋友更喜欢他，但我没有。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjx4ku",
      "author": "Street-Refuse-9540",
      "created_utc": 1784496185,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjx4ku/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Psychotic break + financial infidelity + me finally getting on meds",
      "body_zh": "精神崩溃+财务不忠+我终于开始吃药了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyik0e2",
      "author": "relex41738",
      "created_utc": 1784483088,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyik0e2/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I stopped looking forward to coming home, I knew it was over.",
      "body_zh": "当我不再期待回家时，我知道一切都结束了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiy9vd",
      "author": "MyCatIsMyFrenemy",
      "created_utc": 1784486931,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiy9vd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I didn't miss him during a 5 week vacation to my home country",
      "body_zh": "当我回祖国度假五周时并没有想念他"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjervd",
      "author": "glutenmorjen",
      "created_utc": 1784491454,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjervd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he threatened to drive the car we were all in off a mountain.",
      "body_zh": "当他威胁要开车时，我们都在下山了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylgmqs",
      "author": "Top_Midnight_8255",
      "created_utc": 1784513116,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylgmqs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "when we started sleeping in separate beds, I knew that was the end",
      "body_zh": "当我们开始分床睡时，我知道一切都结束了"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrf1u",
      "author": "Fluffy_Bottle_7303",
      "created_utc": 1784517093,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrf1u/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Getting stabbed by a pencil for not editing their job application.",
      "body_zh": "由于没有编辑工作申请而被铅笔刺伤。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjwkwc",
      "author": "IpsaLasOlas",
      "created_utc": 1784496048,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjwkwc/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Marriage counselor told me to hire a lawyer and head to divorce.",
      "body_zh": "婚姻顾问让我聘请律师并离婚。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl2ur7",
      "author": "Barbie_Beast0498",
      "created_utc": 1784508313,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl2ur7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he became an alcoholic and chose alcohol over the marriage.",
      "body_zh": "当他成为一个酒鬼并选择酒精而不是婚姻时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym29vs",
      "author": "Motor_Eye6263",
      "created_utc": 1784521602,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym29vs/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I fell in love with someone else and didn't want to be a cheater",
      "body_zh": "我爱上了别人，但不想成为一个骗子"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj5fwf",
      "author": "CouldBNE1too",
      "created_utc": 1784488916,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj5fwf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Apathy. When I lost the anger and moved on to the idgaf, I knew",
      "body_zh": "冷漠。当我失去愤怒并转向 idgaf 时，我知道"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym1t3s",
      "author": "Both_Hospital_9872",
      "created_utc": 1784521401,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym1t3s/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Spending all our money at the casino and not paying the bills 😡",
      "body_zh": "把我们所有的钱都花在赌场而不付账单😡"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyikv4o",
      "author": "IcySavings101",
      "created_utc": 1784483318,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyikv4o/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he used our credit card to buy himself a $500 lap dance.",
      "body_zh": "当他用我们的信用卡给自己买了一场价值 500 美元的膝上舞时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk7o3z",
      "author": "BootyWhiteMan",
      "created_utc": 1784498967,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk7o3z/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She was sick and tired of me not letting her bang other guys.",
      "body_zh": "她厌倦了我不让她和其他男人打交道。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj14df",
      "author": "thatsmsbitchtoyou",
      "created_utc": 1784487682,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj14df/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I was choking on a chicken bone and he wouldn't help me",
      "body_zh": "当我被鸡骨头噎住时，他不帮助我"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykeknp",
      "author": "BudgetImpression5436",
      "created_utc": 1784500736,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykeknp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realised I was lonely and isolated but it was harder.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到我很孤独和孤立时，但这更困难。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykfho4",
      "author": "Own-Slide-3171",
      "created_utc": 1784501000,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykfho4/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Felt like I was walking on eggshells every second of the day",
      "body_zh": "感觉每一天的每一秒都如履薄冰"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl6s2o",
      "author": "smashboxer03",
      "created_utc": 1784509634,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl6s2o/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "[I don’t want to talk about it](https://imgur.com/a/kWxR5pg)",
      "body_zh": "[我不想谈论这个](https://imgur.com/a/kWxR5pg)"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylrdml",
      "author": "Electronic_Crow_9284",
      "created_utc": 1784517078,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylrdml/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "when we stopped having sex and enjoying each other's company",
      "body_zh": "当我们不再做爱并不再享受彼此的陪伴时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymeahi",
      "author": "Stalheeze",
      "created_utc": 1784527238,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymeahi/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Everything she saw was her reality to design. Including me.",
      "body_zh": "她所看到的一切都是她设计的现实。包括我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjoz3s",
      "author": "Conscious-Hunt-7559",
      "created_utc": 1784494018,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjoz3s/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized I was lonelier with them than I was alone.",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到和他们在一起比我一个人更孤独时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjrkfb",
      "author": "Deep-Signal-888",
      "created_utc": 1784494718,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjrkfb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He realized he no longer had my phone pin and flipped out.",
      "body_zh": "他意识到他不再有我的手机密码，然后就疯了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjwwi7",
      "author": "WanderAwayWonder",
      "created_utc": 1784496125,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjwwi7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She wanted full control of all my money and bank accounts.",
      "body_zh": "她想完全控制我所有的钱和银行账户。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylyieo",
      "author": "Additional-Guava-810",
      "created_utc": 1784520004,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylyieo/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Dang some of y'all need a hug, handshake or a head smack.",
      "body_zh": "你们中的一些人需要拥抱、握手或拍拍头。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj3v9w",
      "author": "Then_Meeting4003",
      "created_utc": 1784488461,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj3v9w/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "u can only be with someone for so long, its human nature",
      "body_zh": "你只能和一个人在一起这么久，这是人性"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylpj4j",
      "author": "LuckyNumerical",
      "created_utc": 1784516361,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylpj4j/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She threatened to kill me so that was a real mood killer",
      "body_zh": "她威胁要杀了我，所以这真是一个情绪杀手"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykjxkr",
      "author": "Alternative-Cap-8912",
      "created_utc": 1784502260,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykjxkr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Pathological lying, compulsive spending and alcoholism.",
      "body_zh": "病态的谎言、强迫性消费和酗酒。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylpxql",
      "author": "sbwcwero",
      "created_utc": 1784516518,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylpxql/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She kept telling me spoilers of the Harry Potter books.",
      "body_zh": "她不断地给我讲《哈利·波特》书籍的剧透。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymd6uv",
      "author": "occams1razor",
      "created_utc": 1784526695,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymd6uv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Not doing anything for my birthday (was a round number)",
      "body_zh": "没有为我的生日做任何事情（是一个整数）"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyku3il",
      "author": "ijhtbh",
      "created_utc": 1784505387,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyku3il/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She stopped giving a bleep about literally everything.",
      "body_zh": "她不再对任何事情都发出嘀咕声。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl5blx",
      "author": "Kazuma_Megu",
      "created_utc": 1784509140,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl5blx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Three days of the silent treatment one too many times.",
      "body_zh": "三天的沉默治疗已经太多次了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylzbjh",
      "author": "Acceptable_Pen_155",
      "created_utc": 1784520346,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylzbjh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "This bitch forgot to keep her fucking hands to herself",
      "body_zh": "这个贱人忘了把她的手放在自己身上"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyilcep",
      "author": "United_Gift3028",
      "created_utc": 1784483447,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyilcep/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Alcoholic.  Died in another state, and left me $1200.",
      "body_zh": "酗酒。  在另一个州去世，留给我 1200 美元。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyktk5f",
      "author": "10OCT77",
      "created_utc": 1784505210,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyktk5f/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He told me he wanted his freedom,  I gave it to him.",
      "body_zh": "他告诉我他想要自由，我给了他。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyim5jt",
      "author": "mydogiscooler333",
      "created_utc": 1784483666,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyim5jt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Narcissistic behavior drove me to a breaking point.",
      "body_zh": "自恋的行为让我达到了崩溃的边缘。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylg6mr",
      "author": "ResponsibleBarber504",
      "created_utc": 1784512954,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylg6mr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Mine is an alcoholic and blamed his drinking on me.",
      "body_zh": "我的儿子是个酒鬼，他把酗酒归咎于我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiklm9",
      "author": "doctormoneypuppy",
      "created_utc": 1784483247,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiklm9/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When my 7-year-old had to explain sarcasm to my ex",
      "body_zh": "当我 7 岁的孩子不得不向我的前任解释讽刺时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyipxvp",
      "author": "ButtholeHunters",
      "created_utc": 1784484682,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyipxvp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She held me down and sodomized me with a strap-on.",
      "body_zh": "她把我按倒在地，用绑带鸡奸了我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj4f2b",
      "author": "LaylaKaye",
      "created_utc": 1784488618,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj4f2b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realised I felt calm and clearer when apart",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到分开时我感到平静和清晰"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyll7fp",
      "author": "ConeJacket",
      "created_utc": 1784514758,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyll7fp/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She insisted I send my cat to live with my parents",
      "body_zh": "她坚持要我把我的猫送去和我父母住在一起"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylppw7",
      "author": "Just-Shoot-Me",
      "created_utc": 1784516434,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylppw7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized I was happier when he was deployed",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到他被部署时我更高兴"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym15sw",
      "author": "Theelectricdeer",
      "created_utc": 1784521123,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym15sw/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She started a chicken hospital in the dining room.",
      "body_zh": "她在餐厅里创办了一家鸡医院。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiklps",
      "author": "Rockrose2792",
      "created_utc": 1784483247,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiklps/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I started dreading him coming home from work",
      "body_zh": "当我开始害怕他下班回家时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjw1hk",
      "author": "Odd_Bodkin",
      "created_utc": 1784495923,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjw1hk/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Pineapple on pizza. And it wasn’t the first time.",
      "body_zh": "披萨上的菠萝。这已经不是第一次了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk0bvv",
      "author": "TheDevilishJonah",
      "created_utc": 1784497013,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk0bvv/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Probably one from tim hortons, if i had to guess.",
      "body_zh": "如果我必须猜测的话，可能是蒂姆霍顿斯写的。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykyp97",
      "author": "matthewkelly1983",
      "created_utc": 1784506902,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykyp97/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She kept leaving the toilet seat down! Maddening!",
      "body_zh": "她一直把马桶座圈放下！令人抓狂！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl2n2g",
      "author": "Final_Staff_207",
      "created_utc": 1784508242,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl2n2g/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She chose a religious cult over me and our kids.",
      "body_zh": "她选择了宗教信仰，而不是我和我们的孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyikjnb",
      "author": "OldJump2253",
      "created_utc": 1784483232,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyikjnb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "I came home to find her in bed with my \"friend\"",
      "body_zh": "我回到家发现她和我的“朋友”躺在床上"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiml5c",
      "author": "baboonontheride",
      "created_utc": 1784483782,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiml5c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "SA while I was recovering from a hysterectomy.",
      "body_zh": "当我从子宫切除术中恢复时，SA。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyivdfe",
      "author": "lostcrawler",
      "created_utc": 1784486146,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyivdfe/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Untreated BPD in her family and including her.",
      "body_zh": "她的家人，包括她自己，都没有得到治疗。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiyf6n",
      "author": "8urfiat",
      "created_utc": 1784486970,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiyf6n/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She slowly turned into an insufferable person.",
      "body_zh": "慢慢的，她变成了一个让人难以忍受的人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk9k0t",
      "author": "Awkward-Method-3728",
      "created_utc": 1784499407,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk9k0t/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized it was an abusive relationship",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到这是一种虐待关系时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyikqzq",
      "author": "Mona_Lotte",
      "created_utc": 1784483287,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyikqzq/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He didn't think he was ready for marriage lol",
      "body_zh": "他认为他还没有准备好结婚，哈哈"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjfw5t",
      "author": "2A-WindowLicker",
      "created_utc": 1784491725,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjfw5t/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I realized my children were being abused",
      "body_zh": "当我意识到我的孩子受到虐待时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjir7n",
      "author": "Sammetro",
      "created_utc": 1784492372,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjir7n/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When she called me petty in front of the kids",
      "body_zh": "当她在孩子们面前说我小气时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjorjf",
      "author": "Okeechombre",
      "created_utc": 1784493968,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjorjf/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She never had my back. \n\nThat’s when I knew.",
      "body_zh": "她从来没有支持过我。 \n\n那时我才知道。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk8g2r",
      "author": "cash8888",
      "created_utc": 1784499145,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk8g2r/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Put herself first that included the children",
      "body_zh": "把自己放在第一位，包括孩子"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylovwb",
      "author": "MiaMiaPP",
      "created_utc": 1784516116,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylovwb/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He developed schizophrenia, the violent kind",
      "body_zh": "他得了精神分裂症，一种暴力的类型"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyil24x",
      "author": "LalaLaois",
      "created_utc": 1784483371,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyil24x/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Alcohol over everything and everyone else .",
      "body_zh": "酒精胜过一切和其他人。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyilc6u",
      "author": "Due-Sun7513",
      "created_utc": 1784483446,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyilc6u/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The cruelty, contempt and theft (literal).",
      "body_zh": "残忍、蔑视和盗窃（字面意思）。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjylmd",
      "author": "baseballgirl13",
      "created_utc": 1784496564,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjylmd/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Him driving drunk with the kids in the car",
      "body_zh": "他醉酒驾车，车里还带着孩子"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylre7c",
      "author": "Interesting-Dare3393",
      "created_utc": 1784517084,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylre7c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When he tried to run me over with our car.",
      "body_zh": "当他试图用我们的车撞倒我时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjwi6b",
      "author": "Whole_Air_3524",
      "created_utc": 1784496031,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjwi6b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He fought a client during a dinner party",
      "body_zh": "他在一次晚宴上与一位客户打架"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyke6br",
      "author": "athena-zxe11",
      "created_utc": 1784500624,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyke6br/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He voted in a particular manner in 2016.",
      "body_zh": "2016年他以一种特殊的方式投票。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylz83y",
      "author": "Retsuko_2000",
      "created_utc": 1784520305,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylz83y/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Bankruptcy. The 2nd time he filed for it",
      "body_zh": "破产。他第二次提出申请时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oymes98",
      "author": "EntertainerLoose3383",
      "created_utc": 1784527481,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oymes98/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "can someone respond me if u can see this",
      "body_zh": "如果你能看到这个，有人可以回复我吗"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyiqzfh",
      "author": "standupfiredancer",
      "created_utc": 1784484958,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyiqzfh/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Completely walked away during illness.",
      "body_zh": "生病期间完全走开。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylbnxt",
      "author": "UpVoter4ubuddy",
      "created_utc": 1784511346,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylbnxt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When they failed the polygraph test.",
      "body_zh": "当他们未通过测谎仪测试时。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylfeqo",
      "author": "Msfracture",
      "created_utc": 1784512677,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylfeqo/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He attacked and beat up my daughter",
      "body_zh": "他袭击并殴打了我的女儿"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj0znr",
      "author": "currentresident0450",
      "created_utc": 1784487647,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj0znr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The second time my husband hit me.",
      "body_zh": "第二次是我老公打我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjmaum",
      "author": "GodAllShitey",
      "created_utc": 1784493294,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjmaum/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I found out he'd hurt my kids",
      "body_zh": "当我发现他伤害了我的孩子时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykggvt",
      "author": "Cute_Caterpillar2250",
      "created_utc": 1784501273,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykggvt/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The comments in here are just…. 😐😳",
      "body_zh": "这里的评论只是…… 😐😳"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykyb0s",
      "author": "cruciia",
      "created_utc": 1784506769,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykyb0s/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The way he speaks to our children.",
      "body_zh": "他对我们孩子说话的方式。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyllaxk",
      "author": "RoughAppointment5752",
      "created_utc": 1784514794,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyllaxk/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "discovered his continued drug use.",
      "body_zh": "发现他继续吸毒。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oykcj8u",
      "author": "No_Tiger75",
      "created_utc": 1784500160,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oykcj8u/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "uhhh going to prison (him not me)",
      "body_zh": "呃去监狱（他不是我）"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylf2tl",
      "author": "Jimshorties",
      "created_utc": 1784512558,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylf2tl/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Living to drink. Full of excuses.",
      "body_zh": "活着就是为了喝酒。充满借口。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyipea7",
      "author": "Billowing_Flags",
      "created_utc": 1784484537,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyipea7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "His endless fucking SELFISHNESS!",
      "body_zh": "他他妈的无尽的自私！"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl8v0m",
      "author": "limbodog",
      "created_utc": 1784510355,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl8v0m/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "6 months. Maybe 10 words spoken.",
      "body_zh": "6个月。也许说了10个字。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylat5j",
      "author": "Psychological-Art752",
      "created_utc": 1784511041,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylat5j/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Husband molested my 15 year old.",
      "body_zh": "丈夫猥亵了我 15 岁的孩子。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyltkrj",
      "author": "MollyMissMolly99",
      "created_utc": 1784517957,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyltkrj/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Lack of love, touch, & intimacy.",
      "body_zh": "缺乏爱、触摸和亲密。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyitm9b",
      "author": "MaximumUtility221",
      "created_utc": 1784485666,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyitm9b/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Erratic behavior from addiction",
      "body_zh": "成瘾导致的不稳定行为"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyk1cxa",
      "author": "bigwillyphily",
      "created_utc": 1784497284,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyk1cxa/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "The Dave Longley Breakfast Show",
      "body_zh": "戴夫·朗利早餐秀"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylzgya",
      "author": "BodybuilderGrouchy16",
      "created_utc": 1784520410,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylzgya/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Started using sex as a weapon.",
      "body_zh": "开始使用性作为武器。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj2i55",
      "author": "IllustriousCod5957",
      "created_utc": 1784488056,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj2i55/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When I took the long way home",
      "body_zh": "当我走了很远的路回家时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjzb83",
      "author": "inspiration0",
      "created_utc": 1784496740,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjzb83/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Being lonely but never alone.",
      "body_zh": "孤独但绝不孤单。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl5brr",
      "author": "Hopepersonified",
      "created_utc": 1784509142,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl5brr/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He kept interrupting my peace",
      "body_zh": "他不断地打扰我的平静"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl1l9a",
      "author": "Strange-and_unusual",
      "created_utc": 1784507886,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl1l9a/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "finding the burner phone lol",
      "body_zh": "找到一次性手机哈哈"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyl32gx",
      "author": "amboomernotkaren",
      "created_utc": 1784508384,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyl32gx/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Put the kids in real danger.",
      "body_zh": "让孩子们处于真正的危险之中。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylc5b6",
      "author": "abcdefghe123456789",
      "created_utc": 1784511517,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylc5b6/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Nothing to say to each other",
      "body_zh": "彼此无话可说"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylm5c7",
      "author": "Another_Russian_Spy",
      "created_utc": 1784515100,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylm5c7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Money issues is a top reason",
      "body_zh": "金钱问题是首要原因"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyj9pk7",
      "author": "BadDangerous167",
      "created_utc": 1784490107,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyj9pk7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She kept burning my toast 😁",
      "body_zh": "她一直在烧我的吐司😁"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylh4y7",
      "author": "NmyDreams",
      "created_utc": 1784513297,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylh4y7/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He became addicted to porn",
      "body_zh": "他沉迷于色情片"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyjpa4c",
      "author": "elluciyn",
      "created_utc": 1784494090,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyjpa4c/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "When the beatings started",
      "body_zh": "当殴打开始时"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylfxd8",
      "author": "Redtoolbox1",
      "created_utc": 1784512862,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylfxd8/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Constant fight over money",
      "body_zh": "为钱不断争吵"
    },
    {
      "id": "oylobkm",
      "author": "TinyFuture-",
      "created_utc": 1784515905,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oylobkm/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Pissing with the seat up.",
      "body_zh": "尿尿时把座椅抬起来。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oym91zn",
      "author": "Klutzy-Bison-4931",
      "created_utc": 1784524686,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oym91zn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "He made our waitress cry.",
      "body_zh": "他让我们的女服务员哭了。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyik1fn",
      "author": "Savings_Big1842",
      "created_utc": 1784483096,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyik1fn/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "She hit me with her car.",
      "body_zh": "她用她的车撞了我。"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyimcaa",
      "author": "Me-myself-I-2024",
      "created_utc": 1784483716,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyimcaa/",
      "score": null,
      "score_note": "unavailable",
      "body_en": "Narcissistic tendencies",
      "body_zh": "自恋倾向"
    },
    {
      "id": "oyioh7s",
      "author": "RedRocketM3P",
      "created_utc": 1784484290,
      "permalink": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1v0wyqx/_/oyioh7s/",
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      "score_note": "unavailable",
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      "body_zh": "第三次他打我。"
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      "body_zh": "性虐待。"
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      "body_zh": "她作弊了。"
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      "body_zh": "酗酒。"
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      "body_en": "Vegan bacon",
      "body_zh": "纯素培根"
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      "body_zh": "暴力。"
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